My husband joined the military to get his life straight. Before we got married he was all about the army. He couldnt wait to go to Iraq. Now that we are married a lot has changed. He hates the army or the 82nd anyway. It has caused sooo much stress that we dont need. I have lots of medical problems and him never being home doesnt help. I also cant drive.. has to do with my medical problems. He knows I support him in whatever he does and he wanted to stay in that would be fine with me I have family that can help me. I am behind him 100% no matter what. We both have jobs lined up if he can get out. He has only been in for a year and deployment is coming up and he is not sure wht to do. He tried the whole getting in trouble but that did nothing but take money from us. Does anyone have any ideas that could help us out? He is very depressed and just not happy. The army is great for some people but its just not working out for us. PLEASE HELP ASAP!
2007-01-04 08:35:18 · 22 answers · asked by Katie 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
wow people are rude on here. My hubby is no wimp sometimes things dont work out and thats why there are certin things he could do.. we are just not sure of what they are. I am VERY sick and wasnt before hand. Does anyone read the bible? You wife/husband first.. then your children.. then your family.. then everything else.. My family is a hell of a lot more important to me then some CONTRACT with the army. Some things are more important.
2007-01-04 08:51:53 · update #1
I am new to this and dont know how to respond to each answer they I am given.. although I am sick my godmother owns her own business where she would work with me.. and I have some good days and some bad.. on my bad I dont have to come in. So its no full time job that I have to show up for.
2007-01-04 09:26:52 · update #2
If he enlisted he is committed to the time agreed to however many years that is. Don't listen to some of these people. Getting a medical discharge is almost impossible. His only option is to fulfill his obligation and then get out.
2007-01-04 08:48:23 · answer #1 · answered by Scott 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hi, well I am sure the medical bills are very expensive. Are you sure you can pay them with no insurance? If you do get insurance it will not be as good as the militarys. I know that the deployments are difficult, my husband was deployed when I was pregnant. It is hard when the can not see the kids grow up. Well, the ways he can get out is, his medical or mental health. If he has sevire depression, the will not give him a gun. If he talks about your health problems to someone he might be able to not deploy because you can not drive and you need to, you need to go to the doctor. Maybe he can cross train. Him acting up, getting into trouble, will not help your situation. I hope this helps some.
2007-01-04 08:53:34 · answer #2 · answered by Brandy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Having been around the 82nd at Ft. Bragg I can understand why he doesn't like the 82nd. Great Unit but a little full of themselves, espcially the Air Cav. No offense. Anyway, depending on your medical problems if they are severe enough he may be able to get a hardship discharge by first speaking with the chaplain, the Medical doctors treating you and his CO. The odds of him "getting out" are slim. However, there's a really good chance he can at least stay put near or go someplace where you can go as well you until his hitch is up. Try that route first. Good Luck
2007-01-04 08:51:27 · answer #3 · answered by jkm65 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Aw that sucks. :( All I can say is I don't trust military people much since I know how some of them are.. In the Navy.. Since I've been on deployment. But uh my sister is happily married to a person in the Army with a three year old and my cousin is married to a Marine that cheated on her and my other sister is with a person in the Navy but it's complicated. It aways is. I don't know what to say I just hope for the best and you know if he does cheat on you he can get in trouble with his chain of command. So yay? I suggest talking to him about it but I'm sure he'd say something like babe it's nothing you're freaking out blah, blah, blah. I would say you're stressing me out with this and it's not good for the baby. (it really isn't)
2016-03-29 07:52:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry that people can be rude.
Really, he needs to talk to a chaplain, and you as well. If he is depressed, that could be indicative of some other issues. If he needs councilling and medication to get through a depression, then it may be a disqualifying factor, but that is up to them. A hardship discharge is difficult to obtain. He is in the 82nd, one of the best units in the world, and has an excellent start on a career if he can get through this difficult time, he just needs to be careful about his decisions, it will affect the rest of his life..
Good luck to you..
2007-01-04 10:02:08 · answer #5 · answered by Shawn M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What he needs is called a hardship discharge. Talking to his CO and his Chaplin will be the first step.
However, don't discount the free medical care you get as a depenant spouse. The Army might be the best deal if you really have serious medical problems.
2007-01-04 09:53:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have no idea on how to get your husband out of the ARMY. All I can do is pray for you and your family. Also if your husband gets deployed, use the family support group( if there is one) for help getting you and the kids around if not try a chaplin to see if He can arrange help for you. Again I will pray for you, God has a way to have things work out.
2007-01-04 18:06:50 · answer #7 · answered by ftn_nuke 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ok, first I have a question for you, with your husband beig in the military and you having health problems...why would he want to get out? Health bills stack up quick out of the military.. and tricare should be covering them now as long as you say that you didn't have these problwms before he joined....anyhow if he costanlty fails pt test, weigh ins, DRUG TESTS that will probably work.
2007-01-04 18:10:29 · answer #8 · answered by marissaklump2004 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Katie...i don't feel that your husband should be allowed out of his enlistment because he knew what he was up against before enlisting. Anyone who enlisted AFTER 911 knew what their future held in the military. I have served in the USAF for 8 years now and although it's not milk and cookies any more I would never, ever try to finagle my way out of my enlistment. You couldn't drive/had medical prob before he enlisted, military was stressful before he enlisted. I personally feel that he is a disgrace to our service...getting in trouble to be discharged, I certainly wouldn't want to serve next to him. No ones happy with war or what we're called to do, but only low life self centered individuals forfiet on their promises.
BTW-you mentioned being sick...how is it that you have a job lined up if in fact you are as sick as you claim?
As far as family my husband and I both serve-admirably-we have a two year old daughter which I've had to leave twice...I love her more than life, but just as I'm commited to her, I made a commitment to this job and good or bad morally I have to keep my promise!
2007-01-04 09:15:44 · answer #9 · answered by msrdbone 2 · 5⤊ 2⤋
He needs to speak to a Chaplain and ask for help in getting a humanitarian discharge.
The problem is that he signed a contract. The government will expect him to uphold that contract.
2007-01-04 08:38:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 0⤋