my best friend and I like eachother..we kissed. now she tells me she is confused and tells me there is 60% not to be w/ me and a 40% to be with me. but she just told me that wont work. She likes me i like her. but she is also my best friend now i feel like i lost both
what should i do girls..i need ur help i am confuse
2007-01-04 08:31:12 · 29 answers · asked by leomebaby 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
GET OVER HER NOW!!!
The longer you actually feel that there **might** be something going on, the harder it will be when you realize that theres nothing. Girls use the 60/40 type stuff as excuses to let you off easy. Even if something did happen again, these type of relationships never amount to anything.
Sorry bro, but you'll find someone else...the sooner you get over her the sooner you'll have someone new.
Good luck!
2007-01-04 08:34:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You've already taken the risk and came this far....might as well take it further. Treat her like no other guy has treated her before (and besides you're her best friend so you've probably already heard all the stories of woe about the previous boyfriends). Tell her you aren't going back to being 'just friends' b/c you think she's the hottest girl out there. She may give you the chance to show her how great of a couple you'd make. And surprise her w/her favorite chocalate candy the next time you're suppose to get together. So...it's all a matter of clearing up her confusion. It sounds like you already know what you want. Good Luck (and be bold)
2007-01-04 08:37:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is confused on your relationship dont push the button. Let her go. If she feels it wont work then drop her. Just be friends. You are confused. YOu need to let go and find your true love. She is confused to as in she really doesnt want to be tied down. Dont ever say you have lost. Some girls Have a hard time to make a commitment.She is afraid.. down the road. Make up your mind. Confusion is hard state of mind. Right now just show support and just be friends.
2007-01-04 10:24:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with each other. Take a night to just sit and talk about the relationship. The worst thing you could do, is not say anything. She could be feeling the same way but you'll never know if you don't communicate. It takes a solid foundation like you two have, for a good relationship. You definitely should become friends first and sometimes the transition to something more serious can be a little intimidating. Just be prepared for whatever the outcome will be. And if she's not the one, you will meet her someday.
Good Luck!
2007-01-04 08:38:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is confused on what role she has now in your life. Let her know you want her as a gf and a friend, a gf that grew out of deep friendship. If she cannot except that and understand that she can be both to you, best friend and g/f, than you need to give her, her space and wait for her to understand what is happening to her and her feelings for you.. It might take some time, but that's Ok, give her all the time she needs, Continue being nice to her, and no, you have not lost her..just keep on treating her like a friend, with respect and dignity.. Who knows she may come around and want to be more than just your friend, especially if she sees that you have not pushed or forced her to give you what she was not ready to give.. But if she does not want to be either friend or GF, do not give up on life, there is someone out there waiting for you and for you.. Good Luck
2007-01-04 08:49:04 · answer #5 · answered by Mari-Mari 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dang that sucks. yeah its really confusing trying to take a friendship to the next level. on one hand the friendship should make things better, but on the other for some reason it also breaks people apart. all i can say is the two of you should both take a step back and evaluate your feelings by yourselves. if you both still feel like you want to be together after you take a break, great!! if not, you need to let go and move on as hard and painful as it is. just know if the two of you are not ment to be, the right one will come along when you dont even expect it!! GOOD LUCK!!
2007-01-04 08:43:01 · answer #6 · answered by onyx maiden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, hold it. If a girl can give you exact percentages of the likeliness you'll be together, she is just testing you. Us girls can be twisted in the weirdest way. She likes you obviously, and no doubt about it, she knows you have generated feelings for her. But her goal is to see how deep she can drag you in before you back away.
Unless you asked her to give you a percent, which I hope you didn't, she's using close percentages for either of the two. One- for the reasons I just mentioned. Two, she doesn't want to hurt your feelings and wants you to believe that she loves you in an intimate 40% level, when it's really a 10% level. girls usually do this with friends because they are more concerned about preserving your feelings rather then hurting them.
2007-01-04 08:42:48 · answer #7 · answered by Transformers20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her no matter what happens, she's still your best friend. That if she'd like to see where it could go, you'd be open for it--but if not, you still want to remain best friends. I think she's probably just scared right now--about what she might be feeling for you and of losing your friendship. Let her know how much you care for her--as a person--and reassure her of the bond you two have. Then maybe she'll feel comfortable enough to see where things will lead...
2007-01-04 08:37:37 · answer #8 · answered by Maybalee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I met when we were sixteen and we were the best of friends...about 2 years later I fell for him and told him so...he was honest with me and said he liked me too but was afraid he'd lose his best friend if we broke up...after almost a year of stuffing our feelings, I decided I just couldnt do it anymore, it just hurt too much to be with him everyday and not express my love, and I couldnt move on if I held on to him..basically, he lost me anyway...after a week of no contact he realized how much he loved me and we've been together ever since...that was 1989!! We've been married 14 years and have 3 kids..why dont you let your best friend see this?... :) Good Luck!
2007-01-05 00:51:48 · answer #9 · answered by ~LAX Mom~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no need for confusion...you two were friends and you experimented with where your relationship could go. so it won't work for the 2 of you on THAT level. that doesn't mean that you also have 2 lose the friendship. depending on the level of maturity for both you, you should be able to get pass this easier than you think.
2007-01-04 08:42:26 · answer #10 · answered by baybeegrl5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋