Hypothetically, you have been dating someone for a little over a month. Since meeting them you have spent almost every other day with them. You talk to them everyday. You have already had relations. He said he considered it a relationship even though you haven't had the official talk. He had some health issues and went to the hospital. You didn't talk to him yesterday and you called the hospital he went to and found out he was admitted. Do you go see him? And if you were the guy in this scenario what would you think? Would you think it was nice and caring? or creepy and stalkerish?
2007-01-04 08:23:29 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i would go see him, and if i was the guy in the scenario i think it would be thoughtful and caring of the girl..but that's just me.
2007-01-04 08:26:22 · answer #1 · answered by lattekiwi 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a little torn on this, but I'd suggest you call first. Although you've been intimate you haven't been dating very long, and he might be embarrassed if you just show up at the hospital. Hospitals can make people feel very vulnerable and degraded. Tell him you want to visit, and ask when would be a good time, but let him off the hook if he seems unwilling.
2007-01-04 16:30:55 · answer #2 · answered by deb_wolfe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should absolutely visit him. If you spent that much time with the person and did not go it would make him feel that you were not really that interested in him and really didn't care. (although don't make a big deal about it, most guys don't like to be admitted into a hospital and feel a little emasculated if they are...just stop in and ask how he's doing and if he needs anything, act like its not a big deal that he's there...he will appreciate that) (I would)
2007-01-04 16:29:59 · answer #3 · answered by kerfitz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Answer your own question this way - You are intimate with him and see him everyday, why not see him in the hospital because you care how he is feeling?
Whether or not you had the "official talk" {groan} you are both together as a couple. You had no problem being intimate, why is there a problem caring about him?
2007-01-04 16:29:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be very considerate for you to visit him in the hospital. Tell him you were concerned for him and if he doesn't feel comfortable with your visit, you will wait for him to call after he gets discharged from the hospital.
This way you let him know you care, but you are not pushy and you're willing to respect his wishes.
2007-01-04 16:27:08 · answer #5 · answered by txguy8800 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he likes you and you think he cares for you, i'm sure he would probably think of it as nice and caring. If he just likes you as much as the next person and doesn't care to spend a lot of time around you, he probably wouldn't care so much.
By the sounds of it i think he would really like it if you went and visited him.
2007-01-04 16:31:45 · answer #6 · answered by underbenjamin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say if when you talk every day you're not the only one making all of the calls, you should go. he'll be delighted. if you talk everyday because you're the one calling him all the time, maybe you should back off a little bit.
2007-01-04 16:27:01 · answer #7 · answered by spankypants 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him on the phone to see if he can have visitors. Keep the visit under 15 minutes. You can see him more when he is discharged.
2007-01-04 16:26:36 · answer #8 · answered by Thomas K 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After a month and he thinks it is a relationship? Nice and caring.
2007-01-04 16:26:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call his room and talk for a bit. Ask him if there is anything you could bring him to make is stay as pleasant as possible.
2007-01-04 16:26:42 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋