You discover that your wonderful one-year-old child is, because of a mix-up at the hospital, not yours. Would you want to exchange the child to correct the mistake?
2007-01-04 08:19:34 · 14 answers · asked by BULL 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
thats hard! i would have to say no because the first year of a parent and childs life together is critical there is alot of bonding and if you didn't know the difference until someone told you the news and you felt an unconditional love for this child would that love be there for the other child? and if they supposedly let a mistake this big happen in the first place, whos to say that they aren't mistaken again and thought there was a mix up but there really wasn't? did you know the difference in the first place? could you tell the child didn't look like you? if not then no i wouldn't give the child back! i know how i feel about my girls and if oops there was a mix up first of all i would be mad but my love for them is so strong because of they're wonderful personalities and cute chubby cheeks i could never see my life without them!
2007-01-04 09:35:42 · answer #1 · answered by tiffany b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This would be the worst thing to have happen. I hope this hasn't happened in your family.
I wouldn't WANT to correct the mistake, and it would be so traumatic for the child. However, morally does the other set of parents have the right to know that there was a mix up and they have the "wrong" child? I think maybe so. And if you don't tell them, what would happen if the other parents find out when the children are, say, 5 yrs. old? They may decide THEY want to correct the mistake then. That would be horrific!!
2007-01-04 17:02:01 · answer #2 · answered by Teresa t 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This would be very difficult to decide. I don't know what I would do. You would love the baby that you were sent home with and the family that had your baby would love it. But at the same time, it's not your child. I think the correct thing to do would be to switch babies. A one year old is going to remember and you can always keep in contact with the other family. This way you can love your child and they other one. Plus it would make quite a story when they got older.
2007-01-04 16:36:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and I would also be sure that I had contact with the other family to watch the other child grow. I think that in time you would never really begin to live fully without knowing your own child and having the knowledge that you let other raise that child. What if you left you bio-child with the other family and they have some server issues of abuse or the bio-child ends up with some sort of physical need (Medical) and finds out that you did not want them back? Trade back and assist eachother in getting through it without fighting. It really is very early in the kids life and you will always wonder where you Bio-child is and if they are alive or dead. Get your Bio-Kid Back.
A Mom
2007-01-04 16:38:06 · answer #4 · answered by Tracylyn S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know...one year of the childs life is a big thing....you're the only people it knows and so you're both attached.
But knowing that you do have a child out there that is yours, I think I'd want my biological child. I just would worry that my real child wasn't be treated for properly and such...
it's such a cruel world...
it's hard to say.
I'd want to keep the child I've raised the last year and still have mine back.
I'm not greedy I just love children!
2007-01-04 16:59:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard one you have come home with this child you love dearly just to find out there was a mix up. How do you stop loving the one you came home with and then give it up I don't know how you would handle that. Maybe get into constant contact with the other parents and start from ther working through the awkward transition period. My heart goes out to you and good luck to you and your family.
2007-01-04 16:45:43 · answer #6 · answered by lovelittlelulu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a scary question lol!
There's no question, though, if at all possible I would keep the child I've been raising. It takes so much more than blood to be a family and if I've raised and bonded with the infant who isn't biologically mine, I'd still know that I'm the baby's father and I couldn't just push him/her away because bloodlines tell me that he or she shouldn't be cared for by me.
2007-01-04 16:50:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, because I love the child I have, and whether she is mine physically doesn't matter now. I know that she is mine emotionally, and parenthood is about the bonds of love, not necessarily the physical bond of giving birth to that particular child.
I would keep the child I have raised and nursed and comforted and loved from the moment I brought her home :)
2007-01-04 17:16:47 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. My son is only 4 months old, and I don't think I could stand to lose him if we found out he wasn't ours.
That's a really difficult situation...Off the top of my head, and this may sound strange--if it were up to me, I think I would choose to keep my son (the one I have been raising).
I would be saddened at not having my own biological child as well, but I love my son way too much to lose him, and that love would not change a bit if I found out he wasn't mine biologically.
2007-01-04 16:52:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I saw this on a lifetime movie once. The lady ended up getting custody of both children as her biological child was being abused. (The one she thought was hers, was suppose to be given up for adoption)
My kids look just like me and each other so I won't have that problem.
2007-01-04 17:26:06 · answer #10 · answered by TRUE PATRIOT 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋