He is cheating on me bad. I mean he has a women in his apartment everynight. I'm suppose to fly out to see him, to try to work this out..I feel inside that i still need him, want him......
2007-01-04 08:13:01 · 10 answers · asked by mixedgurl19 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well first off - men don't really cheat , they are just having fun , i am sure he loves you - good luck- i hope this helps you
2007-01-04 08:24:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is, you have been in a relationship with either him, or somebody else almost non-stop for a very long time. I would say you have developed a security issue where you are afraid to be alone. He has obviously moved on, and just keeps you "handy" so he has somebody to go to when his current flame blows out of town. He is not worth the plane flight. Try breaking it off, and being by yourself for a while. Do things to keep you distracted from thinking about being in a relationship. Maybe joing some kind of ladies group or doing some kind of activity. Join a kickboxing class and meet some other women close to your age that you can hang out with. The bottom line is, you have spent all this time in relationships, why not take some time for you now.
2007-01-04 08:22:11 · answer #2 · answered by Jaybo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you ARE with him, he probably manipulates you and makes you feel good, while at the same time damaging your self confidence. There is only one thing you can do. Quit him cold turkey. Dump him. Don't call him. Don't accept his calls. Avoid him. Completely cut off your ties with him. It is not rude or anything. It is the right thing to do. And if he won't leave him alone, tell him he is harrassing him and you are going to call the police if he does not leave you alone. If he still bugs you, then follow through and report him for stalking you. Good-bye, cheating loser!
Then distract yourself. Hang out with your friends. Get involved with activities you enjoy. Volunteer. Take a break from dating and get to know yourself better. Build your self-confidence through doing things you are good at. Visit a close relation that you like. Talk to people you care about regarding your efforts. Maybe even see a therapist to rebuild your self esteem. Then when you are ready, go out and start dating other people. The sooner you move on with your life and leave your loser boyfriend in the dust, the sooner you will get over him. It is natural to feel like you do, but you do NOT need him. You are too good for that!
Good luck!
Oops. I almost forgot. If you have been sleeping with this guy, get yourself checked for STDs right away! It is possible that he was irresponsible and contracted something. It is better to be safe than sorry, so do not wait.
2007-01-04 08:21:25 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just scared to be alone probably. He isn't worth it thoguh. If there is someone other than you that is spending what sounds like MORE time with him then you... then what are you doing?? He obviously isnt that great of a guy. Its just really hard to start over, but you deserve better than that dirtbag.
Fly out, see him, and say goodbye. Whatever you do: DO NOT SLEEP WITH HIM!!! U absolutely will not be able to end it if u do. The body produces a chemical attachment to the person when u sleep with thme (esp without a condom). Its call oxytocin, same thing that creates the bond btw a mother and her child. it will only make it harder to get over him or stay away from him. Just keep reminding yourself that u deserve better!
2007-01-04 09:01:31 · answer #4 · answered by Heart of Gold 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you don’t love yourself enough…
Girl!!! You need some time for you and just polish yourself. Don’t even jump into the arms of another man… give yourself time to heal and time to put your head back together, because a person that needs to be around drama like that, is not well…
Been there, done that… love yourself and find out what makes you happy, otherwise you won’t know the difference between someone who is trying to make you happy and someone who is just out to get you…
Works the same way around… if you can’t make yourself happy, you won’t be able to make someone else happy.
Go get a pedicure, a manicure, a massage, take a good bath with relaxation rocks… spend some money on you… fix yourself up and dress real nice, even if you are not going anywhere… take yourself to dinner girl… you are worth it… stop selling yourself short and wasting your time with someone who does not deserve a woman.
Good Luck!
2007-01-04 08:35:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was completely dependent on my ex and I thought that it was the end of my world when I found out that he cheated on me and I couldn't let him go. He left and I was crushed. But after spending some time away from him I realized that I don't need him and I feel so happy, and free.
This isn't good for you, having someone run around on you. You deserve better. Dump him.
2007-01-04 08:20:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, cut the umbilical cord. No man is worth holding onto, unless he loves you and respects you. This guy apparently isn't doing neither just move on, better alone than with a cheater.
2007-01-04 08:19:33 · answer #7 · answered by firmiedylan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to yourself girl!!!He's cheating on ya, why the hell do you want to put yourself up to this kind of treatment???No-one deserves to be cheated on, and deep inside you know that's true.Just quit being with him, you deserve better!!
2007-01-04 08:19:32 · answer #8 · answered by The Isht! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel like you want and need him because at one point in time he treated you like a girl deserves to be treated. Now he is treating you like a piece of crap he wiped off of his shoe. You at one point in time liked being with him. You don't need him, you just want him because it would be a challenge to keep him happy. As always girls like a challenge.
2007-01-04 08:19:52 · answer #9 · answered by Jeni Bug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
co-dependency sucks.
2007-01-04 08:15:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋