how 2 deal with a loved one dying?

Question

my mom is really sick,, and i want to help her whats the best way to help her deal

Answer 1

Unfortunatley there is no 100% Cure for dealing with a loved one dying. Keep yourself busy doing positive things. Reflect what impact this person had on your life and if positive do something that you know would make them proud. Let them know you love them as much as you can while the person is still here. The only thing that will make it not so bad is letting time pass by.

Answer 2

Hey, I'm sorry to hear about your mother not being well. The best thing for you to do is look up "Hospice."

Hospice is a concept of caring derived from medieval times, symbolizing a place where travelers, pilgrims and the sick, wounded or dying could find rest and comfort. The contemporary hospice offers a comprehensive program of care to patients and families facing a life threatening illness. Hospice is primarily a concept of care, not a specific place of care.

Hospice emphasizes palliative rather than curative treatment; quality rather than quantity of life. The dying are comforted. Professional medical care is given, and sophisticated symptom relief provided. The patient and family are both included in the care plan and emotional, spiritual and practical support is given based on the patient’s wishes and family’s needs. Trained volunteers can offer respite care for family members as well as meaningful support to the patient.

Hospice affirms life and regards dying as a normal process. Hospice neither hastens nor postpones death. Hospice provides personalized services and a caring community so that patients and families can attain the necessary preparation for a death that is satisfactory to them.

Those involved in the process of dying have a variety of physical, spiritual, emotional and social needs. The nature of dying is so unique that the goal of the hospice team is to be sensitive and responsive to the special requirements of each individual and family.

Hospice care is provided to patients who have a limited life expectancy. Although most hospice patients are cancer patients, hospices accept anyone regardless of age or type of illness. These patients have also made a decision to spend their last months at home or in a homelike setting.

My grandma died in hospice. And they watch your family member closely and they dispense pain medication. It's a great place. The website also tells you how you can comfort your mom and yourself when she leaves. It answers so many questions. May God grant you strength during this time!

Answer 3

Be a daughter that she would be proud of. Try not to create too much grieve into her life. Ask her if there is anything that you can do prior to and after he demise and do your best to follow these requests. If your dad is still in the picture try and support each other as you'll both need to lean on one and other for strength. Tell your mom how important a role she has had in making you the fine young woman that you have become and that you are very grateful to have had her as a mom and that you love her unconditionally and will continue to for the rest of your life. If your mother does pass away afterwards try and seek out some professional grieve counseling for yourself, any siblings you may have and for your father. If your mom is a single parent then seek this help for you and any other brothers and sisters you may have. Best of luck to you and I hope that you mom gets better if it is for the best. However if she is in pain and it would be better for her to pass I hope that she does so with dignity and a knowledge that her daughter loves her and is someone whom she is proud to have raised.

Answer 4

Well first I'd like to say i'm sorry for your loss.Secondly I would like to say that I just recently lost my grandma she only have 2 kids, my mom and my aunty, my mom is taking better then my aunt, she is really depressed and getting sick also. My suggestion is to get her out of the house, get her interested in something else to take her mind off it. Make sure she knows the the person that passed away would not want her to be upset.

Answer 5

Words cant express how much I feel for you. I am so sorry 2 hear that. Well, I had an uncle that died from a heart attack, and i cried for almost a year, because I was so closed to him and I loved him so dearly. So the best thing to do is make her life, like the good ole days, and tell her how much you love her and appreciate her very much.

Answer 6

It's so sad when a loved one is sick, my nephew was only 5 when he passed away and it's really difficult for anyone who is dealing with illness. Just be there for her comfort her and do the best you can.. I am so sorry..

Answer 7

first i wanna say sorry about your mom, and just being there for her means a lot. be her friend and listen to her, like you do right now you have listened to you heart, and wants to help and the best way is that you are there for her thats the best thing that she needs now, and she knows deepdown that you love her so that is a great comfort to her. but take care off yourself to I wish you all the best and a lot of stenght

Answer 8

Be open and if she needs to discuss practical things for after she has passed, let her. There may be things she needs to tell you but doesn't want to upset you. Talk to her, ask her what she needs. Resolve any 'issues' between you, you won't get another chance. Let her know you'll be okay so she doesn't have to worry. Make sure she doesn't suffer unnecessarily, be her advocate if she needs you to ask/fight for whatever she needs, help her keep her dignity. Appear strong, the time for you to grieve is later. Get support for you from outside the home. She's fortunate you care enough to help.

Answer 9

I AM REALLY SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT YOUR MOM MY HEART GOES WITH YOU.I DEFINITELY KNOW HOW YOU FEEL I LOST MY DAD LAST MAY 2006 AND I LIVED FAR . THE BEST THING YOU CAN DO IS MAKE ENOUGH TIME TO BE WITH HER.MAKE YOUR SELF AVAILABLE TO HER.MAKE HER FEEL HOW MUCH YOU LOVE HER AND TELL HER HOW PROUD YOU ARE TO BE HER DAUGHTER. IF IT'S POSSIBLE TRY TO GIVE HER THE BEST CARE THAT YOU CAN GIVE. ALWAYS TALK OR TOUCH HER HAND TO KNOW THAT YOUR ALWAYS ON HER SIDE.YOU HAVE TO BE STRONG . RIGHT NOW ,YOUR MOM NEEDS YOU.ALSO DON'T FORGET TO TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF TOO.

Answer 10

Ask her what she wants. Me and my Gramps are really close, and he is getting older, and I notice a change in him, he is not as healthy as he was 6 months ago. He says he thinks it's because he's not as active, but I think he knows it's more. Lately I've been asking him what hea wants done with his things, and getting him in "order", and he seems to be more at ease knowing I will take care of things for him. It's uncomfortable, but it will really help your mom to know everything will be OK when she is gone. God Bless!