Wasen't this going a little too far?

Question

I got diagnosed with ocd about six months ago. Of course I was sad, confused, etc. so I talked to my sister in law about it. She said she understood and was sympathetic. Last month we got into an argument and I ended up calling her a loser. She told me that I had mental problems and needed to get something done about it. How would me having ocd have anything to do with calling her a loser? I feel like she betrayed me because she took what I told her in confidence and degraded me with it. Why didn't she just call me a name back? I know that fighting in the first place wasen't mature. we made up but I don't want to speak to her anymore.

Answer 1

tip: don't trust your sister-in-law again. if she pulled this once she will do it again. try ignoring her when you are forced to be together or you could just exchange polite conversation(nothing personal at all)
my husband didn't realize the way his sister was doing me until she turned on him too. ( i too had shared personal info that i shouldn't have with the sister-in-law)

Answer 2

Yes..She had no right to tell you that you had mental problems. You told her in confidence and she totally betrayed you! Did she apologize about the whole situation?! If she didn't then maybe you should confront her about it and tell her that you felt betrayed and hurt that she would use something that personal against you! You have a right not to want to talk to her again but your now family and some things just have to let go..even though you were hurt. You know what was right and what was wrong in the situation and that's all that matters!
Good luck!!

Answer 3

Sorry about your fight. But what you have to realize is that when people get attacked, they are going to go for the throat. And by that, I mean that people are going to try to say the meanest thing they can think of to hurt you. And obviously your SIL did.

Don't take it too hard. If she didn't say it out in front of anybody, then possibly you should forgive her.

You might have said something worse if you knew the dirt on her! ;-)

Answer 4

you called her a loser and she retaliated out of anger and in self defense. it's human nature. you should explain to her exactly how hurt you were, and reitterate that you were sorry to have initiated the name-calling in the first place. then try to forgive and forget. wheat you need to remember here is that you're both at fault.

Answer 5

She was just using the only thing she has against u and no that wasn't fair at all but she did apologise so try to move on from there.

Answer 6

she didnt just simply call you a name back because she wanted the upper hand, the better insult. that was completely wrong of her to do. next time you confide in someone, make sure they're trustworthy.

Answer 7

so your offended that she called you a name after you name called first? When people feel attacked they become defensive. you both could have handled the situation differently.

Answer 8

I KNOW YOU FEEL WORRIED ENOUGH HAVING SOMETHING LIKE THEN HAVING YOUR SISTER SAY STUFF LIKE THAT TO YOU IN A FIGHT. YOU SHOULD ALWAYS THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU TELL PEOPLE BECAUSE WHEN PEOPLE GET MAD THEY SAY THING THEY DON'T MEAN. I'M SURE YOUR SISTER REALLY DIDN'T MEAN TO SAY IT BUT AT THAT TIME SHE NEW IT WOULD HURT YOU LIKE YOU HURT HER. BUT PEOPLE THAT HAVE THING LIKE US TAKE THING LIKE THAT TO HEART. IT IS NOT SOMETHING TO FEEL BAD ABOUT ALOT OF PEOPLE HAVE IT. YOU DO NEED TO TALK TO YOUR SISTER AND TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL AND MAKE UP BECAUSE YOU MAY NEED WHEN TIME GET REALLY HARD AND SHE MAY NEED YOU WHEN TIMES GET HARD AND YOU DON'T WANT BAD BLOOD

Answer 9

Lesson to be learned: don't share your personal information with people who can't be trusted.