I am a stay at home mom. My husband and I have 3 kids...ages 5, 18 months, and 3 months. I love being with my kids and am thankful for this opportunity, however I feel terribly guilty that my husband works 2 jobs to support us. If I got a job, the daycare would be outrageous, but that's not even really the reason I stay home. I want to raise my children! I have nothing against working moms, but I really want to take them to school, to the park, to gymnastics, and just be a participant in their lives. I wish my husband had more time to spend with them too though, and I'm not sure it's fair??? I've thought of working evenings, but he says he wants time with me too... I don't know. I've pretty much made up my mind that I'm going to continue to stay home with my kids, at least until they're all in school. I just want to know your opinions...
2007-01-04 08:02:01 · 9 answers · asked by mommyismyname 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Your husband has 2 jobs so that you can stay home with the kids, (that is a 7day/24 hour job) Don't sell yourself short! You have a great husband who is willing to do that so you could be home with his/your kids. Most husbands would want theire wife to go to work just because they have to work (selfishness). All that accomplishes is making extra money to pay for daycare(so someone else can spend time with the kids), and why go thru that when you have the oppurtunity to be a stay at home mom (the BEST JOB IN THE WORLD)! You are both working as a team, to raise your kids together. Alot of people wish alot of things but unless you can change things for the Better,.....DON'T MESS WITH PERFECTION! Sit back and Thank God for all He's givin You!
2007-01-04 08:30:47 · answer #1 · answered by Oregon_Rose 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. Unfortunately if I didn't work, my family of 3 would not get by, but I don't even know what it's going to be like leaving my son with his grandmother as I am still on maternity leave (he is a month old) and I have to go back to work on the 14th. So I completely understand how you feel. If it were up to me regardless, I would still work just because our lives with our son could be that much better with a nest egg saved up for him. But if you can afford not to work, then I think it's best that you do stay home. Good luck!
2007-01-04 16:13:31 · answer #2 · answered by Veridian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its always hard to decide, i to have chosen to stay at home and im sure ive made the right decision. My mum stayed home and looked after us and i really do believe you produce better behaved children! For a start they have less chance to get in trouble if your at home! Ive recently started working saturdays and that brings in a little extra and gives me some time to myself, we decided neither of us would ever work sunday tho so that we always had that time together. Dont feel guilty, if you can stay at home your doing the very best for your kids!
2007-01-04 16:13:49 · answer #3 · answered by mum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE SOOOO LUCKY!!!! I wish my partner would do the same for me.... he's a keeper.... well the reason why I can work is because i have a lot of babysitters looking forward to watching my baby.. the grandparents... my sister.... the other grandparents.. but I really wish I didn't have to work and just spend time with my kid until they start attending school.. you are a lucky one I must say.
2007-01-04 16:32:20 · answer #4 · answered by ~mother of 2 beautiful girls~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I can stay at home with my baby girl. Unfortunately I can't so just feel lucky you can do this. Don't worry in due time you will be back in the working world. Good luck!
2007-01-04 16:11:43 · answer #5 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a similar situation and I know how hard it can be. But I think being able to be there for your kids is a great gift for them and you and I don't think you'll regret the sacrifices you have to make now when you look back at it. Your kids are so lucky to have a parent that wants to and is able to be with them so please don't put them in daycare if you don't have to.
2007-01-04 16:11:43 · answer #6 · answered by CamKeeTai 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good for you for staying home...!
You have 3 full time jobs right there...not to mention all that comes with it!
Hang in there...your children will be better off for it!
2007-01-04 19:35:28 · answer #7 · answered by Becca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you're both fine with it, don't worry about it. You have a full-time job right there at home. :)
2007-01-04 16:05:18 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you both can afford for you to stay home and you both agree to it, then do it! If you are receiving government assistance then it means you can't afford to stay at home and you should go to work.
2007-01-04 16:11:02 · answer #9 · answered by Justmecee 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋