Whats a good way to deal with low self esteem?

Question

I just can't stop hating myself...the way I look...everything. I hate doing that because I'm basically denying my God's creations. Help me!

Answer 1

There is an old Dutch saying that says: If you don't imagine yourself to be great, you'll never will be. It is very true. Act as you have faith in yourself, and faith will come. Try to gain quick wins. Clean up your room right now to prove you can change things. Then take it from there. You can do anything you put your mind to. And about appearance....Beauty is scientifically proven to be just an average. You can have style and persona and class and charisma and not be beautiful at all. Study women that fit that discription, see how strong they are. You can be just as strong. People are attracted to that, not to beauty.

Answer 2

A good way to deal with low self esteem is to stop thinking about yourself and start thinking about something else. Try to view life in someone else's shoes - spend some time helping someone do something regardless if you like it or not.

If it helps - even the most beautiful people think they are pretty - why else do you have models dying of anorexia? - Because they thought they were too ugly. Very few people are happy with how they look - and if they are - they are usually stuck up and the worst people to be around. So you have a good virtue in that sense.

Try to accept yourself for who you are. If it helps - buy some expensive clothes - that always makes people feel better (even me). Buy a good smelling shampoo or perfume. Can't go wrong there...

Start doing small positive things and look at the good. Be happy you arn't a 4ft person (sorry if you are) or that you have hair and arn't bald (sorry if you are) but stuff like that. Look at the positives. Once you focus on those - they almost always outweigh the bad.

Answer 3

Set small goals for yourself; you know, things you want to get good at or might enjoy. Every time you accomplish one of these goals, allow yourself to say what a great and capable person you are! Change your hair color or style; do something completely different. Go to the doctor and make sure there is nothing physically wrong that is making you feel so low. Take a multivitamin, make healthy food choices and do some sort of exercise everyday. This really makes a difference! It helped me a lot! Read the bible and truly try to understand how much God loves you and what He did for you through his Son. At least try to have some sort of spiritual belief to help validate your existence and purpose in this life. Lastly, volunteer to help people in need. This helps take your mind off negative feelings and truly makes you feel needed and worthwhile. By the way, you are truly a worthwhile person and I'll bet you have so much to offer of yourself. I hope you will really try hard to believe that!! God Bless You!!

Answer 4

Pinpoint the targeted areas that you feel negative about.
Seperate those that you can change, and those you cannot.
Remember that the things that can change will not change over night. There are easy ways to make what you have been born with look and feel better too. Maybe something as simple as changing your haircut, or wearing different styles of clothing.
Granted that that is superficial change, but it is a small step towards thinking better about yourself. Once you feel comfortable with the outside, it's easier to focus on the inside.

Answer 5

There will always be someone better looking, someone smarter, etc. Don't compare yourself to other people. That can make anyone miserable. What good qualities do YOU have? Thank God for them and pray for Him to help you. God loves you for who you are. Believe it or not, even the most seemingly secure people have insecurities. You are by far not alone. I used to hate myself too, but God helped me through it. Lean on Him, Him alone. Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 6

1- you are not god's creation, you are a creation of your mom's egg and dad's sperm.

2- do other people find you unattractive? Are you bitchy and annoying?
If the answer to either question is #2, you shouldnt' hate yourself, but should take steps to correct the problem. get some plastic surgery done and work on improving your personality.

Answer 7

Simple- just keep in mind that everybody else hates themselves too! I've never met anyone who is completely happy with who they are, and the world's leading industry right now revolves around services and products that keep people's minds off how much they hate themselves, or at least allow them to pretend to be someone else. You're more normal than you think.

Answer 8

Relax and spoil yourself a little do things like go get a massage or take a art class. Also avoid people who put you down. I like to write things down that bother me and than throw it away it kind of makes them disappear. Make a list of all the things you do like about yourself and hang it on your door everyday try to think of something to add to it.

Answer 9

write yourself a loveletter. a real one, like the one someone who loved you madly would write. this way you will be able to see what's great in you. also, ban mirrors and scales for two days. when you go shopping focus on what would look good on you and not the clothes that don't. write one good thing about you on your bathroom mirror something like "my lips are nice". when you wake up, focus on that.

Answer 10

I think that what helps me is to overcome challenges. like if I see something I want to accomplish, I try to do it, and if I am successful at it, I have a better appreciation of what I am.