I need major "balls" - as i'm getting older, i need to get this attitude because there are alot of haters out there - i grew up as a "good girl" - i'm not innocent just good so there are times when I "feel guilty" even though i shouldn't - what can i say, it's the way i've been raised - HOW DO I DEAL WITH THIS AND GET AN ATTITUDE CHANGE? I hate feeling guilty when i know i shouldn't (for some reason, i think i do this too because of "karma"? if i don't feel bad about something, it'll happen to me.)
2007-01-04 07:47:25 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Like most women, you worry about what people around you think about you. Once you realize that most of the people around you aren't that important to you, especially strangers, then you will start to feel more empowered to not give sh*it. You should only care about the people who care about you the most.
2007-01-04 07:51:28 · answer #1 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like I was raised the same way you were. Not a goody goody just a good girl. I would feel guilty also. For some reason I just woke up one day and said you know what there are things that other people do that are 100 times worse than me so why should I feel guilty about it. If I do something and find out it was a mistake and I shouldn't have done it well then I will say that I shoulnd't have done that my bad an don't let it happen again. If you don't experience things in life you can never truly live life. Take risks sometimes but be smart about the risks don't put your life in danger just to say you have. As long as you believe in God an that he will truly forgive you for yours sins nothing can stop you. Your life will be fine. But please be smart about it don't go out having unprotected sex and then get pissed if you get an STD be smart
2007-01-04 08:10:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't care what others think or say about you. Do as you please and what pleases you in every situation. If you start to feel an inch of guilt you better stop your self and say why.. This or that was good and I liked it, I learned form it and its all good. If it was bad then take the lesson that was found in it and let the rest fall behind. Life is to short to feel guilty about what should of, could of, or would of's.. Besides in the end its all in Gods hands and hes not gonna strike you down you sinning or making a decision that benefits yourself. Everything in life is permissible but not every thing is beneficial.. Do what you want and need for you the rest will follow in its own way. And keep your head up always and smile.
2007-01-04 07:58:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop caring so much. If you don't want to give a f***, then don't. Take care of yourself and whoever deserves it and that's it. Screw the rest.
But instead of changing your attitude, maybe you should change the way you see things. If you don't give a f*** about stuff or people, then they won't give a f*** about you either. Is that what you really want? Just be more assertive, that might do you good and it won't cost you any friends.
2007-01-04 07:53:30 · answer #4 · answered by Miss T 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be good and bad at the same time. Just keep in mind that if someone doesn't like it, screw it. There are plenty of people in this world, some of which are bound to like you and some of which that won't regardless of what you do or don't. Just make yourself happy. It's natural to care at least a little bit about others' opinions, but if you care too much, you are living for them and not for yourself. It's very important how we treat people; as long as we do that right, if someone doesn't like us, screw it. Just relax and have a good time.
2007-01-04 07:53:10 · answer #5 · answered by kathryn w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to change just because of the haters, just be yourself. However, if you really don't want to give a damn about the things that happen to you, just don't think about them that much, that's what i do, then, that kind of attitude will show off itself.
2007-01-04 07:52:27 · answer #6 · answered by Betta Franka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An attitude like that leads to lack of compassion. Compassion makes us strong and human. I think you just need to learn to let things go. Study some of Buddha's teachings about attachment. Learning to let things go lets you live without regret. We all make mistakes, but if we learn from them, that's what's important. Without mistakes, we can never grow. I don't remember who said there is strength in vulnerablity, but I think it applies to you. It always meant to me being honest with myself and others and you have nothing to lose because it's all out there. I've found much strength in this.
2007-01-04 07:53:35 · answer #7 · answered by Angel Baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I don't think you will ever get the "attitude" you just don't have it in you. But you can still be bad if you want. Deal with the guilt later.
2007-01-04 07:50:59 · answer #8 · answered by MrNiceGuy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i use to be that way... but i think experiance makes you change... my life was hell...thanks to my 24 yr. old step mom im 17 my dad is 51... so yeah... you cant let people walk all over you b/c they realize they can do it and they never stop, you dont need to fell bad for things you cant control... about getting the attitude... you have to think that way to get it
2007-01-04 07:55:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lot of rejection, a lot of experience, it comes in time, believe me. I'm still a nice guy, but as far as what goes on, how people want to act, stuff you can't really control, i could care less. remain a nice girl though, have some integrity about it ...
2007-01-04 07:52:05 · answer #10 · answered by collard greens with hash browns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋