2007-01-04 07:43:55 · 7 answers · asked by gossardtm 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
This is definitely more easily said than done, but it works.
Stop accepting the whining and "I don't want to" as excuses for not making your child listen or do what he/she is supposed to. He/she will test your very last nerve with this, but you've got to stick to your guns and quit putting up with it. Even letting it go one time shows your child that the whining and excuses are a plausible excuse, that they have a desirable effect, and get your child "his way".
2007-01-04 07:54:28 · answer #1 · answered by Julie6962 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stop bossing them around so much. Seriously.
Instead of telling them what to do, offer them choices. Do you want to clean your room now, or in five minutes? Or make it appealing. When you put your shoes in your closet, we can make a snack together.
If your husband (or wife, whatever) came home and starting telling you what to do left and right, you'd get pizzy pretty fast. Stands to reason that a little person, with much less experience in the world and less practice with compassion, would really want to follow your every whim. To her that's what it looks like. Give her reasons and give her choices. When these toys are out, my feet really get tired of walking around them, lets clean them up and play a game of war.
My kids aren't spoiled, they work hard and pretty much do what we need. When I do say DO THIS NOW...they take it seriously because it's my ace in the hand.
2007-01-04 09:22:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My grandson is rapidly approaching four, and tries to get away with this behavior. He is reminded, in a gentle, but forceful manner, that whining is not permitted, and if he doesn't want to do something, his reason for that is inquired into. Sometimes it is a legitimate concern, and is addressed as such, if it is not, he is told that he will do whatever it is, and made to do it. In about five minutes he is back to his cheery self. Children do need the right to express themselves, but with firmly defined limitations.
2007-01-04 07:55:50 · answer #3 · answered by Beau R 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I too have a 4 year old. He is the BIGGEST whinnier! I talked to the pediatrician about it and he said to say "talk to me in a big boy voice". So far it hasn't made much difference. Good luck!
2007-01-04 07:58:01 · answer #4 · answered by M☆mma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore him/her. Once they see that you won't pay any attention, they'll stop. That's what they want. Don't get upset, just go on about your business.
2007-01-04 07:48:03 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are the adult..let the kid know who is boss.
2007-01-04 07:51:21 · answer #6 · answered by Shar 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
whip that behind
2007-01-04 07:48:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋