Do you think it is better to be married or just live together ?????
2007-01-04 07:37:27 · 37 answers · asked by irishlad 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Short answer:
If you really loved someone it would be impossible to marry them.
Long answer:
The answer, chumps, is 'living together'. Marriage is unnatural and a complete denial of the concept of love (concept - because there is no proof such a thing actually exists). "How can this be??!!" I hear all you micro brains cry? Because marriage implies commitment to ONE person. How can love be exclusive? By its very nature love is INCLUSIVE and it is therefore impossible to say "I love you and I don't love the rest". Either love is operating all the time or it simply is not there; you can't turn it on and off like a light switch.Think about it people, this means you most certainly do NOT love, because if you really did have love in your hearts you could not make demands of any one individual (i.e. marriage). You could live together with someone for companionship and/or sex, but that would be it. If you really loved the one person you claim you do, then anything they did would be okay. There would be no conditions whatsoever (which is what marriage implies - it's a business deal, nothing more.) and your so called love would be free to sleep with as many people as he/she chose or anything else that seems horrid to the bulk of the world. The idea of cheating would not exist, because how can you feel cheated if you TRULY love someone? If you love them, then reciprocation is not necessary, is it?
Unfortunately, the vast majority of the world is not on my wavelength and probably won't get it. Marriage is based on fear, selfishness; possession and conformity. Fear of being alone; selfishness in that you are taking absurd vows and expecting the other to do the same (if you can't see how they are absurd, then you are beyond help); possession in that when you sign the marriage register, it's like buying a car - you now OWN the other person and restrict his/her movements (yep, sounds like love, doesn't it?) and conformity, because it is what people have done since time immemorial and is the social norm - as if that had any significance at all!
Read my words dispassionately folks. Do so without immediately trying to form a rebuttal (otherwise you aren't actually reading) and you will see the logic in everything I say and how shallow and false most of your lives are.
P.S.
Julie T, you are one of the few sensible people I have ever heard on Yahoo Answers... barring my good self of course.
2007-01-04 10:48:49 · answer #1 · answered by Oliver T 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may not mean that he's not sure about his love for you but maybe just not ready for a commitment. It's an aweful lot of responsibility to take on a wife and be her sole care giver...But if he's not ready to get married and just wants to move in together...that might be a different story...I have a tendency to believe that he might not be sure...It may have a lot to do with his age...How old are you two? Does he have a steady job and is he a responsible type person? Will he be dependent on you to pay the bills and etc.? There are a lot more things to consider than just his "feelings" toward you. How long have you two been together..? Does he have his own car? Can he pay his insurance and all the other things that come with adding another person to your weekly purchases?...I'm just trying to give you some things to think about...If you both are mature and can handle the situation and he doesn't want to marry you right now...then why move in together...It's a total commitment that's the difference. Best of Luck in your relationship....HH
2016-05-23 03:23:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard question to answer however. If you live with someone and know you will marry then one day that is a good way to test the waters and to see how you do. But its a catch 22 in the same instant what if you live with them then realize I so don't want to marry them... So i say just live together. Or get married then live together and always work your issues out.. good luck
2007-01-04 07:45:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha interesting the majority of women prefer married and men living together. Wow I would like to live together first then married if all works out.
2007-01-04 07:44:11 · answer #4 · answered by D'oh! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Married!
2007-01-04 07:39:30 · answer #5 · answered by renosgirl2006 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I use to prefer married but done that, and now me and my fiance have been living together for five years and there really isn't much difference than when I was married except that he actually has a job and helps pay bills.
2007-01-04 07:42:32 · answer #6 · answered by Ydua R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Living together is best, until a kid comes along that is. It's just a legal issue for raising the kid, but without a kid there is little reason to get married except for a spouse to get their visa or for extra money for members of the Armed Forces. Some traditional places also look more favorably on married couples too. Another issue to consider is how the girl was raised. Many have bought into the romantic myth of white gowns and wedding ceremonies, and as much as they may deny it, they will always have a yearning for it, especially as all their friends have weddings.
2007-01-04 07:41:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I like being married but sometimes living together first gives you an idea of what you have ahead of you if you get married.
2007-01-04 07:42:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I prefer to live with someone before I marry them. You get to see all thier habits and if they are a slob or not. You can always get married if you need to . But it is just a piece of paper. You need to know each other first. What if you can't stand that she doesnt clean the sink after she brushes her teeth.
2007-01-04 07:42:14 · answer #9 · answered by emtjen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being married is way better!! I have done both and being married gives you a sense of security, you know that your partner is in this relationship for the long haul, living together is like trying on shoes to see if they fit.
2007-01-04 07:41:03 · answer #10 · answered by mingcrew 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋