I started dating this girl before xmas and it was great. We where texting and having fun. She then suddenly stopped texting me and I have just found out that shes with her ex bf again.
When we went on a date, she was moaning about how much of an idiot he was but she back with him. What do I do?
2007-01-04 07:34:35 · 54 answers · asked by medic_man 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
People, thank you so much for your responses.Thats made me feel alot better. I would give everyone a hug. Thanxs x x
2007-01-04 07:44:10 · update #1
Mate, I have just had this happen to me - she is just using you as an emotional support. Forget her and treat her as though she is daed to you. Find someone else and never get in touch with her, if she tries to get in touch with you ignore her.
2007-01-08 03:46:45 · answer #1 · answered by 31Alpha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. Do you actually see anyway you can change someone else's mind or actions? Just move on. You were obviously a rebond person, someone to get her mind off of her boyfriend and make her feel like other people still find her desirable. It's not a reflection on you, just next time ask the girl how long its been since she had a relationship so you know whether or not she is still involved with an ex. Break ups can take a while sometimes, she's probably already done that a couple times.
If you really want to be a jerk though, you could always send her bf the text messages she sent you and maybe he'll get pissed and break up with her, but I doubt she'd be liking you anymore after that. :-)
2007-01-04 07:39:17 · answer #2 · answered by Princess~C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she is with him now so there really isnt much for you decide. If she wants to live her life with what she claims to be an idiot then let her! It was her decision to go back to him and honestly if she was so torn about it when you two were dating then it is more than likely a fact that she was not over him and you could have been a possible rebound. Be the better person, cut your losses and move on to bigger and better things! Someone who treats people like that are nto worth the fight! If she wasn't fighting to keep you and gave you up for the EX then she in my eyes is basically not worth fighting over either!
2007-01-04 07:40:09 · answer #3 · answered by tiffany s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sucks, but you must let her go. Probably the reason she was doing all that complaining is because she was so far from being over him. If she was on a date with you, she should have been able to concentrate on yall having a good time, not let him keep commandeering the conversation from a distance. You just need to drop her from your mind and find someone who is completely unattached. good luck.
2007-01-04 07:37:40 · answer #4 · answered by kathryn w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave her alone for a bit, it's very hard to get out of a bad relationship especially when the ex is probably calling her and begging to get back with her.
Just be a shoulder to cry on, listen to her problems and wait for it to end
2007-01-04 07:37:22 · answer #5 · answered by cigaro19 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is normal. Chicks tend to talk to a "new" guy & then run back 2 their ex. Its emotional attachment. Its hard to explain. If she went on a date w/you, its obvious, she's gonna talk bad about him, she's not gonna say how "wonderful" he is. Girls do that so they can feel a sense of security, talking 2 a "new" guy about their ex. My advice, don't wait for her. If she talks bad about him & runs to him, trust me, it ain't worth it. Chances are she was never really over for ex boyfriend. Find urself a girl that has no ex boyfriend drama!
2007-01-04 07:46:38 · answer #6 · answered by lndsy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should make sure that there's definitely no chance of you two getting together - maybe sit her town, talk about your current situation, and why she's gotten back with her bf even though she slagged him off - then, depending on what she says, find some way of moving on. Maybe find another girlfriend?
2007-01-04 07:37:28 · answer #7 · answered by hello_dave22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know women can be real heartless, claim they didn't mean to lead us on...and then run away back with some old flame or new and more exciting lover...like we are just something to pass the time...move on so many more out there take your pick
2007-01-04 07:40:35 · answer #8 · answered by JackLove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on cuz obviously she still had feelings for the idiot which makes her an idiot too right?
2007-01-04 07:37:48 · answer #9 · answered by sweetlaughter434 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on...the reason she was complaining about him was because she wasnt over him and need to keep telling herself about the bad things he did and said...she's with him and not with u...go have fun without her...u dont need her...get a new girlfriend and have a little "fun"
2007-01-04 07:38:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋