I am a BUSY mother of three.My one year old wants to be held alot,and my six year old needs help with homework,and my three year old is STILL in pull-ups! She NEVER poops in the potty,she with holds for 4 days straight! And when I take her to the potty,she does NOTHING!I'm in the bathroom with her several times a day,and she does nothing.She always pees and poops in her pull-up when I'm busy,and just crys about it. And I can remember that my oldest was fully potty trained at 2.How can I help my three year old daughter with her potty training issues?
2007-01-04 07:34:03 · 12 answers · asked by ~*meli$sa*~ 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I can relate to you. I have an almost three year old daughter myself who just has no interest in going on the potty. She refuses to poop on the potty, but she will pee on the potty as long as we offer her a candy reward for it. This was a bad habit to get into even though she never has accidents with pee now during the day. Nap and bed times are another story.
My daughter is incredibly stubborn about it too. She once held her poop for five days before I gave in because I was afraid she had a urinary tract infection because of the way she was dancing around. Took her to the doctor though and she was all clear. At three years old I think our daughters know what we are trying to accomplish, they're just used to going in diapers. Its all they've known for so long.
So, this is what I'm going to do: I bought my daughter a potty book. I think this is actually helping. I read it to her a lot and she likes it. Next, I'm going to use those training pants that are cotton on the inside and plastic on the outside. Pull ups are just not cutting it. They are too much like diapers- they pull the wetness away from the child and so the child doesn't feel uncomfortable, especially if they don't truely want to use the potty yet. Can you really expect kids to see the difference between pull ups and diapers? They're the same thing!
I would suggest you leave your daughter either naked from the waste down, or just wear underwear/training pants and take the pull ups away completely and teach her to take them on and off so when there is an accident she can take them off by herself. Kids HATE to do this- they're used to you cleaning them up. There will be many accidents but once she knows you are serious the process will go faster. Be patient- this is not going to happen overnight. I cannot stress that enough! You're going to get frustrated and mad but try to be business like about it. "okay, you pee'd your pants, lets get some new underwear and try it again". Negative reactions might make the process go slower. Get her a sticker chart and let her pick a sticker and put it on EVERY time she goes pee or poop in the potty. Postive reinforcement is always good. But make sure you're keeping track of the time and tell her its time to go potty, and take her in there. Be her support.
Other than those suggestions, take a deep breath and know that this will pass. Maybe she's just not ready- many moms have their kids trained early but many don't. This is not a reflection on you.
Yes, its hard to be a busy mom trying to potty train, but most kids won't do it on their own. We just have to take the hassle of it with a grain of salt and know that someday, they will use it on their own!
2007-01-04 08:22:57 · answer #1 · answered by abcdefg123456 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Does your daughter have a favorite thing she likes a lot ...say stickers. Setup a calendar and use stickers for her to put on the days she goes in the potty. Sometimes incentive is a virture. Or take her special out a the end of the week just herself and Mom to her favourite ice cream place or show or whatever. It is surprising how quickly they will come around to the ideas you give them for going on the potty. Good Luck hope this helps you.
2007-01-04 07:44:51 · answer #2 · answered by MsCatie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My little one was potty trained at 16 month. Well, the 2nd one was on the way and we didn't want to be changing diapers for both of them (consider us lazy). Anyway, the first step we did was teaching my daughter to say pee pee and poo poo. Then we showed her what is pee pee and poo poo. Next, every time she does something in the diaper, we would say to her, "yeah, you pee-ed(poo-ed)". (Well, this is the hard part, you will have to try to catch her doing that as soon as she's done it.) This way, she will remember to tell you that she's pee-ed/pooped in a couple of days. Next step is to get them to tell you before she is about to do it. Again, a few days. Finally, whenever she says she wants to go, rush her to the bathroom... done.... It took us about 2 weeks... I guess we were a bit lucky too... She never get to use any pull-ups....
2007-01-04 07:49:19 · answer #3 · answered by Tao 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This sounds like negative behavior to get your attention. Your one and six year olds are taking up a lot of your time, and she feels left out. Try a reward system, for each time she poops appropriately.
2007-01-04 07:59:50 · answer #4 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I trained my 2 yr old, I put her potty in the living rooom and kept her naked. When she felt the urge to go she ran over and sat down by herself and went. Every time that she did, we gave her a piece of gum. Then after a week or two of this, we moved the potty closer and closer to the bathroom. The last step was to get her in her panties. Took a month and a half and she was trained.
2007-01-04 07:38:24 · answer #5 · answered by ksueditz 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
this is a tough one. my best answer would be this, make a reward system. if she is able to use the potty and not her pull ups for a week or so, give her a toy or take her somewhere special. be sure to talk to her about it so she can understand it.( i know that can be hard with 3 year olds)
2007-01-04 07:59:24 · answer #6 · answered by chicken 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like she really is having some issues. I would talk to the dr. just to be sure. Then, rerwards! Set times for her to go to the bathroom for a while, until she can get the idea.
2007-01-04 07:41:40 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nakedity (I know that's not a word) worked for us. She won't want to mess on the floor. Talk to your doctor about her holding it in though -- that can be bad. Reward her crazily when she succeeds -- she is not the only 3 year old still training... (really)
2007-01-04 08:17:12 · answer #8 · answered by nokiddingitsme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try the way u did with ur first one. try getting a potty chair and let her be naked from waist down. Maybe she is just not ready for it yet, and nothing is wrtong with it, She will go when she wants to. Try talking to her pediatrician and see what they have to say, or get books on it.
2007-01-04 07:38:46 · answer #9 · answered by LW 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I heard of letting them go without diapers around the house,maybe she is stubborn,try offering"big girl panties" if she stays clean and dry.Let her pick which ones she want's to wear, Dora,Strawberry shortcake, cinderella,snow white etc..when she soils them tell her "well I guess you can't wear your big girl panties yet.give it a try .good luck
2007-01-04 07:40:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋