I confessed to my girlfriend that i've been going through her internet accounts like facebook, yahoo, myspace, and her phone account--to see who she's been calling. obviously she's been calling her Ex and i asked her she said yeah she has but there's nothing going on btw them and that he knows not to try anything... Anyway the point is i had to let her know this big secret about me snooping on her cos i felt like i've been keeping something from her. I thought it was the right thing for me to do, but it just caused me my r/ship with her. You think we could ever get back together? What should i do to get her back mehn. I love that gurl so much. Hell i was going to propose to her in 4 months time which is after my graduation!!!
2007-01-04 07:30:53 · 22 answers · asked by PeaceMaker!!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
After letting her know this, she cried and i felt so damn bad. Her friend telling me that from the looks of it, there's no hope for me again!!!
2007-01-04 07:32:45 · update #1
i hear you bro, similar thing happened to my friend. i wouldn't sweat it too much-don't aplogize too often or too profusely- it will draw too much attention to it. try to move ahead with her anyway possible, including taking her to dinner (no trips though).
2007-01-04 07:33:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude you betray her trust and you took it to the limit, hell you might as well have been checking her voice mail too! To tell you the truth, if she really loves you she'll probably give you another chance but it may be a minute cause she has to mentally get over the fact that you invaded her space you know.? She may even sleep with her ex while your not together because she thinks is gonna make her feel better and because she knows that since you were soooo noisy about being all in her business over her and her ex..., she knows that your wondering if she's ran into her arms now.. and you know you've thought about it. Whatever you do do if she gives you another chance just to speak DO NOT ASK HER!!! do not ask if she's seen him lately or has she talked to him since you've broken up nothing about him, or what she's been doing since the break up it's non of your business. Right now your being understanding and your listening that's it! Okay?, but you've got a good chance I think, when we love you we do ... and we will forgive we may not forget. So walk lightly and do ask her about any of her personal affairs from now on let her tell you don't pry anymore. Also if you not the type of person than can trust someone then threre's no point in trying to get back with her because you'll never trust her and you look up and end up doing the same thing all over again. Good Luck!
2007-01-04 15:51:59 · answer #2 · answered by sky g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to learn to trust her first... obviously, you didn't, if u had to go snooping around. I know, sometimes u can't help it... but still... if u trust her, u wouldn't have to go thru her accounts. Work on the trust, tell her u wanna work it out and see if she'll take u back. There might be a chance but don't count on it too much coz you practically invaded her privacy and girls don't like that. And if she was contacting her ex and didn't tell you... either she's keeping something from u too, or just as she said there's nothing going on... just a girl talking to her old friend.
I also suggest that before you propose to a girl, be sure that not only the love is there... but trust as well. You gotta trust each other coz if ya don't, problems will arise later on in da engagement or marriage. A relationship where you have a foundation sharing things with each other... is better than one where things are left out and the other doesn't know or has no clue. get it?
Good luck getting her back, hope things work out.
2007-01-04 15:42:08 · answer #3 · answered by hawaiiangirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fact is it sounds like you don't trust her! First of all why did you do it and second of all did she ever give you a reason to do what you were doing? As far as her taking you back... Hmmm maybe! Right now she is ticked, let her blow off the steam and come to her senses. If nothing is going on everything should work its way back to where it is but you need to decide something before working things out with her. Can you trust her? Do you trust her? And if you can't answer either one of those honestly with a Yes then maybe you need to rethink your relationship with her. When you love someone indefinately you should feel no need to check up on them no matter what! You dont want to spend your life wondering what shes doing everyday!
2007-01-04 15:35:54 · answer #4 · answered by tiffany s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you shouldn't be going through her personal things. How are you going to marry a woman that you believe you cannot trust? You need to work on your insecurities before you make that kind of committment. Plus, lots of girls are friends with their exes. That is something you are going to have to deal with. As long as she's not sneaking around with him or doing anything out of the ordinary, there shouldn't be anything to worry about. I don't know what you can do to get her back besides trying to gain her trust again. Good luck and stop snooping!
2007-01-04 15:34:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, its not actually that you did made her feel good ...
Be persistant, but dont be annoying. Do the things she liked the most, idk if it were flowers, love notes ...
Hope dies last, but if it dies, dont try to win her over again, it wont help. You cheated and that is something i would forgive but i would kick that person out of my life for good. Keep in mind that even if you two start a relationship again, she will have hard time trusting you ... ever. Think about what do you wanna do ... but be adviced girls can be victims behind the beast. Maybe she cheated on you too, and now she is just trying to drop you the lowest you can. Keep in mind that things arent what they look to be.
Be tactical, straight attack isnt wise atm :)
Best of luck to ya!
2007-01-04 15:38:39 · answer #6 · answered by Templar Of Light 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made a grave mistake by not trusting her. Trust is the foundation for any relationship to work and it takes a very long time to get it back if you destroy it. You can try to pursue her but in all likelihood your just wasting your time. Move on and learn to trust. Good luck!
2007-01-04 15:43:19 · answer #7 · answered by sweetlaughter434 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you two get back together, but it seems like you don't trust her. You wouldn't be looking at that if you didn't want to find something bad. You weren't looking for good things. I think it is shameful you did that. I don't know what I wou ld do in your g/f situation.
2007-01-04 15:35:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better learn how to do some SERIOUS @$$ kissing and I mean quickly! You better come up with something slick like telling her you were gonna propose and that you just did this one time because you needed to make sure that you could trust your future wife!
2007-01-04 15:36:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is apologize, tell her that how much you care, admit that you're insecure (for whatever reason), and give her space to make her mind up. ABSOLUTELY DON'T mention the proposal. She'll probably just think you're doing it to just to win her back (I know I would). If she really cares for you then she'll be back.
2007-01-04 15:43:06 · answer #10 · answered by Redbutter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's probably disappointed in you because you don't trust her and who she's hanging out with. You shouldn't have done that. Don't put your nose in other people's stuff. Try to earn her trust back or something.
2007-01-04 15:37:08 · answer #11 · answered by ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋