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Question

i think the reason why im not to talkative around people i dont know is because i dont want to annoy them. i dont know why but i think if i just try to strike up a conversation with someone they will just think im a wierdo for talking to them

i think it is also becuase alot of times when im nice to people at school like ill tell them oh i really like your shoes or something like that and they just give me a wierd look! well its more to people i dont know but ok sorry for being nice!

but anyways if someone you know but dont really talk to much came up and started to talk to you would you be annoyed??

and no i dont have low self esteem or anything like that...im just not that great in social situations i guess.

Answer 1

well, no offense and i Totally understand cuz i was like that when i was younger. very shy, until college. i mean w/ my friends i'm totally funny and tell jokes and talkative, but in social settings i was so.. awkward. so worried bout what others thought of me, what they thought of my looks, what i said, it made me uncomfortable, and it showed. sometimes it can be annoying if someone u don't know just starts talking to u, but if that person is a nice person they will respond. u have to judge whether or not people are being Mean, or if YOU are "bugging them".

u need to practice ur social skills, As well as ur Intuition. feel out if these people are receptive, if they smile, if they are talkative, open minded. those are the ones who will be polite and talk back with you. if they are in a clique, don't smile, are rude or obnoxious, than most likely they will act mean to you. u don't need to bother w/ those people. just try not to feel Uncomfortable. :) don't worry, it's a learning process. i had to really try and put myself out there after college to truly be Comfortable w/ myself, my body (i exercised too cuz i felt fat), my personality (i tried to learn more and speak more to engage others in intersting conversation). it's worth it to keep working on urself, to improve ur talents and ur character and personality. good luck~

Answer 2

I wouldnt worry about it.
I'm exactly like you.
See, different people have different personalities, different opinions and everyone has differing moods.
If you happen to walk up to someone who's free and bored, a conversation with them would be easy to strike up, rather then with someone who's busy or very happy with their friends to begin with.
Complimenting a person, you dont know, isnt always the best way to start a conversation, it makes people aware of your need to break the ice, even if you're sincerely complimenting, few people take it the right way, and weird looks are a result.
Frankly, i stopped caring so much about what people think, i have a unique personality and i naturally attract people who interest me, same like you! because once again evryone is different and therefore unique.
I could easily go up to a girl and say
"hey i love your earrings, they;re so pretty"
that;s what i used to do, to try and start up conversations and frankly after a while i got damn fedup with everyones weird elevator eyes and judgemental looks.
now i phrase things my way.
"i wont bother asking you where you got those earrings from, its probably out of the country, they're nice, light up your face, oh sorry, i'm rave, what about you?"
i've typically done what you did, accept im being myself.
you dont need to compliment someone to be their friend or start up a conversation , so dont make that mistake.
Sometimes a simple
"hey there, i'm rave, i'm bored, entertain me!"
find a way to blend a bit of yourself into talking with new people instead of trying to butter them up, and yes, that IS annoying to a new person.be yourself, you'll be naturally interesting.
if the only way you can start conversations is by compliments, then you aren;t thinking of it the right way/and DONT think about others opinions, you sound like a smart confident person, if people give u weird looks when u try to start up a convo, then its their loss,
interesting people, attract other interesting people.
So branch out, and dont despair, theres a friend waiting to talk to you, you just dont know it yet.
GOOD LUCK
Rave

Answer 3

Not at all. Try talking to people who aren't extremely social first so you don't feel intimidated. Great conversation starters are things that happen in school, like did you see the football game last weekend, or are you looking forward to prom, or what are you doing this weekend? Stuff like that. Good luck! And if you ever wanna talk to me, go right ahead!!

Answer 4

No that is fine. I mean people mmot likely want to know you. tey shouldn't ahev to strike up a conversation everytime. I get annoyed by people who don't talk more than people who do.

Answer 5

I am not good in social situtations as well. But my advice is to be yourself. If they are annoyed, let them be annoyed. And don't let that hurt your feelings. Be careful talking to strangers, but, you never know, you may meet your next best friend by being nice....Just be yourself.

Answer 6

no...it wouldn't i love meeting people. I think u hanging out with the wrong crowd. If someone would come up to me and said "Nice Shoes" i'd be flattered, that'd mean I GOT STYLE! hehehe

Good luck to you!

Answer 7

oh my you are just like me i am not that talkative my mom is always telling me to talk more and about the same thing happened me and this guy i thought he didn't even know i was there then he just started talking to me one day i made me feel good inside that someone would want to talk to me i normally just sit around thinking about like everything so just enjoy that they are talking to you because it is always good to talk to people

Answer 8

it's clear that your nice in all but there is a thing as being too nice. i think your so nice to every single body that right there is annoyin and it looks as though you have your just desprate for anyone to like you. that may not be it at all but it's just what it looks like

Answer 9

i dont talk unless im talked to or unless i have one of my energetic friends with me. i had this one friend that would go and talk to people she barely knew and would annoy the heck out of all the boys and they talk crap about how annoying sh eis and they still tlak to me. boys cometo me all the time ven though im quiet.

Answer 10

Just be yourself, who cares what anyone else thinks.

I personally think like this when I die........and it is a qoute, but I don't remember who said it.

"I'd rather be remembered for who I AM, than be remembered for who I am NOT"