2007-01-04 07:18:13 · 22 answers · asked by bluekrysta 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
write them dwn
2007-01-04 07:20:27 · answer #1 · answered by fun fun fun .... you know the rest 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Duck tape and a blowtorch usually works for me... LOL Just kidding. I don't know what to tell you. Some guys will listen, some won't. Currently, by boyfriend lives out of state, so we talk daily. I'm lucky to have someone who is listening. I'm not much of a talker when it comes to my emotions, but, even over the phone, he knows when somethings up, and he'll take the time to listen, give me advice, etc. But that's was just a luck of the draw. My advice to you is not to approach him whining. Sit him down, and try not to use big words. (I'm kidding again) But you need to sit and talk with him. If he constantly zones out or nods and doesn't respond, well, then, he will probably never listen. Sorry. Good luck though!
2007-01-04 07:43:36 · answer #2 · answered by Koko Loco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want to put forth some effort into caring about what you care about, then you really shouldn't be with him in the first place. I don't mean anything ridiculous like he should be throwing roses at your feet, but generally if you have to force someone to do something, they won't do it no matter how hard you try, and they will get sick of you asking. So you should see how much you mean to him by telling him that if you don't get the care you feel you deserve, then you are leaving him. It might wake him up, or it might give him a chance to leave when he didn't know how to approach it in the first place.
2007-01-04 07:22:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not all, but most guys will fear hearing a girl talk about their real feelings... they don't like to be confronted like that so they back away and try to avoid it.
Don't really know why they do that, but in my opinion, I think they're just afraid of what you're gonna say and it'll make them feel forced in the relationship, or that they gave in to your feelings when they don't want to (or weren't ready)... like if ur gonna tell him u love him and wanna marry him or watever... that'll probably hit him big and scare him off. or if u have to tell him you're not into him any more, he probably isn't ready to face the truth. either way, they just not sure what "feelings" you're having and dunno how it'll make them react.... if they like the way things are now, he'll want to keep it that way and avoid the serious feelings talk?
but if u really must talk to him about your feelings... which u should and which he should listen to at one point or another if he really cares for you.... I suggest you just tell him. or take him out to dinner... casual or watever, and talk about it.... depending on what kinda feelings u have... set the appropriate mood for u to bring it up.
Good luck, hope he listens. if he does, without running away, he's a keeper! :)
2007-01-04 07:31:01 · answer #4 · answered by hawaiiangirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he won't listen to your feelings, then I would personally LET him run away. A boyfriend who does not listen is not worth keeping. Talk to him. Tell him how you feel. You'll be able to tell from his reaction whether or not he is even worth your trouble. Good luck!
2007-01-04 07:20:22 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him when he and you are in good moods. When you tell him, tell him slowly and nicely, cause you don't want to yell or he might run off. Make sure he knows you just want to tell him so you can enjoy the relationship better, not that there is something really wrong, maybe just some suggestions of how to improve.
2007-01-04 07:23:17 · answer #6 · answered by curiosbabe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard to talk to guys when most of them hate talking about feelings. But if you want, you can do what I do. Sit your boyfriend down and discuss something off the topic you want, and lead into it, dont hit him full force, but just lightly touch the subject and see his opinion. You never know, maybe he is wondering the same things you are, but just doesn't want to bother you or ruin and moments.
Goodluck!
-Jellybean
2007-01-04 07:22:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tie him to a chair. and tell him lol. Tell him when the time feels right, if he's a sports fan then don;t tell him when their is a big game or something, do it when he has nothing going on. And cant make excuses for leaving.
2007-01-04 07:21:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him what you believe and what you feel. If he won't listen, send him packing........ There will never be a relationship without complete honesty.
2007-01-04 08:14:23 · answer #9 · answered by DWM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont make him listen for awhile he'll learn to hang with u more than all of a sudden start up again!
2007-01-04 07:32:53 · answer #10 · answered by klk17 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is your bf, he should be respecting you.
when you talk to him, keep it light and short. they will run away quickly if your opening line is thought inducing. lol.
if he starts to run away, tell him it will only take a minute, cuz what his excuse is most likely to be is that he has to be somewhere.
2007-01-04 07:24:15 · answer #11 · answered by kt! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋