I'm with a very handsome man who could probably have any woman he wants, however, we hardly see each other, like 2 months ago was the last time, I'm going to see him next week. Although we maintain phone contact etc....Do you think it's likely for him to use me for sex? when he could easily get a girl in his area?
2007-01-04 06:59:20 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If so, then why?!!! If he wasn't bothered about me, he wouldn't pay for my trip to see him and he wouldn't come to visit me, but he does!
2007-01-04 07:02:45 · update #1
He also hinted at us having a baby and being a family.
2007-01-04 07:05:41 · update #2
when I'm with him, we wait ages before having sex, we talk, cook together, watch movies. chill out, then have sex.
2007-01-04 07:06:29 · update #3
Not likely, a man wont go out of his way to do anything unless theres a reason for it and since he could easily find a girl in his area the chances of him just wanting u for sex is slim. He obviously likes you and wants to spend time with you, enough to go out of his way to do so. If he just wanted you for sex he wouldnt be hanging around because a man wants sex a lot more often than once every now and then. He seems sincere in his actions, dont assume he's only after you for sex.
2007-01-04 07:03:08 · answer #1 · answered by JMan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to think more of this guy than you do yourself. And yes...it does sound like he's using you for sex. And I wonder what makes you believe that he's not also seeing other girls that live in his area for the same reason. Guys like variety, and they also like having girls 'waiting in the wings' in the event a relationship doesn't work out. If he's not making you feel special, it's not worth the effort you're making in this relationship. Two months is a long time. If he'd wanted to see you since then, he would have found a way to do so. So, you may want to pass on that pretty boy! Good Luck
2007-01-04 15:03:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, yes and no. He most likely wants to have sex because he's only going to get to see you once in a while. But if he could have any girl he wants, than sex wouldn't be that big of an issue. Seeing someone so infrequently, its hard to gage if he's using you for sex because most likely at some point during each visit you guys will do it. It would be easier to answer if you lived closer to one another and that's all you did. So I'm going to say he probably isn't.
2007-01-04 15:04:13 · answer #3 · answered by Koko Loco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, guys are like that and always will be. Guys like to think of them selves as pimps. They always like it when girls are all over them and want to go home with them. Some guys will truly love their girlfriend of spouse but if they don't all they will go after is the sex. Your boyfriend might be out having sex with some other girl while he is with you. What you don't know is that he could me engaged, married, bisexual, gay, or have a girlfriend. You should meet his friends and then ask them about your boyfriend and see what they say. If you are one of the females that are not afraid to go and ask the guy straight to their face then you go for it girl and am backing you up 100% if you make up your mind and you do that. If you find out that he lied to you all along and straight to your face then dump him because hunny you are way to good for that guy, you deserve someone way better than him. I do wish that all the guys in the world would not date a girl for sex and treat them like crap. I do wish you the best of the best and I hope you make the right decision!
2007-01-04 15:13:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he could honestly just want love, and thinks that you are the one for him. When you are together, is all you do is sex? Is it the main focus?
But to me it makes no sense for him to use a women in a long distance relationship for sex. Men (and women) need to please their sexual urges regularly, and if he is willing to hold out for you, then he really cares about you and loves you.
And from what you have just said, he probably does love you and wants a future with you. You shouldnt worry so much about him just wanting you for sex if he you both barely do it while together.
2007-01-04 15:03:51 · answer #5 · answered by dpayne12345 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, this may be difficult to accept, but ... Yeah! i think you 'nailed' that right on the head. they say, a man only does what we allow him to do.... so, being available to him whenever he pops up or makes himself available to you... is what he may depend on from you. and whether he's handsome or not... it's their nature... more than likely there IS someone else that's local and doing for him what you do, only more frequently. what we as women tend to forget, the ball is in your court. it's up to you what happens next. but, if you need something more don't waste any more time in a situation that only robs you of what you're worth. you know you deserve better than that. take care of YOU first. good luck.
2007-01-04 15:11:12 · answer #6 · answered by christian.renee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you even suspect him???
your intuition is giving you the signals...
follow up with some facts..
Best of luck to you..
Single guys love sex and will pay for a girl to travel..not a problem
2007-01-04 15:05:51 · answer #7 · answered by Life Coach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes unfortunately some guy love to cheat, and like variety in the sex lives.Better evaluate this situation carefully before falling for this guy.
2007-01-04 15:03:34 · answer #8 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distant relationships never work. Get a clue. Just b/c he's "romantic" before getting that *ss, doesn't mean that he isn't that way with other women. Some people are really good actors and deceptors..... Be ware!
2007-01-04 15:11:57 · answer #9 · answered by So lyrical 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2007-01-04 15:01:51 · answer #10 · answered by dj 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋