can anyone tell me why men decide to hide and not talk for a while instead of facing the situtation!!! Do they come back around when they are ready??
2007-01-04 06:55:53 · 32 answers · asked by sassy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Many times they don't know how to talk about their feelings and emotions. They go and be by themselves to try and sort things out. They hope that when they get back you might have forgotten about it or that you will approach them, instead of them approaching the subject.
2007-01-04 06:59:59 · answer #1 · answered by triste_girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i assume for the same reason women decide not to talk for a while...to calm down and get their thoughts situated clearly so they can talk with an open and clear mind. I know id rather go off for a while by myself and think instead of say something wrong because once something is said it cant be taken back. Everyone comes back around when they are ready to talk..gotta be patient.
2007-01-04 07:00:34 · answer #2 · answered by JMan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people are introverts and some are extroverts.
An extrovert's thought process is done on the outside of their head, IE they talk about something outloud to think things out.
An Introvert's thought process is internal meaning they think before they talk. The deeper and longer the thought process, the longer the quiet becomes.
But, when I ever did something wrong in a relationship and felt guilty, I often would withdraw from the person because of my own guilt feelings.
So it could go either way. Who knows. Only him. So make an environment to where he will feel safe telling you anything honestly, and hopefully he will talk about whatever it is.
2007-01-04 06:59:55 · answer #3 · answered by Xxar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the topic. If you are asking us where we want to eat and we say "I don't care." it's generally because we really don't. Just pick the place that makes you happy and we'll figure out something to eat there.
If it's something bigger like "Don't you love me anymore?" then it's probably because the ability to share those feelings has been bred out of us. Some of us anyway. Boys are told by some fathers that crying is "for sissies!" and can learn to internalize what they really want to say. Showing our true emotions can make us less than a man. Even if it's not really true, it's still what some are taught to believe.
Be sure to remember everything your man does when he's around you though. Men show their love more than say it. Does he go to sappy chick flicks because he knows that's what you want to see? Did he sit on the couch cusion that has the spring sticking out of it so you'd have the more comfortable seat? Be sure to interpret the things he does for you as love as well. Even if it's not spoken emotion, it's still expressed emotion.
2007-01-04 07:06:28 · answer #4 · answered by martheev98 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's interactional, in other words both the man's behavior and the woman's behavior are involved. He doesn't easily talk about or process emotions. He is not comfortable with our negative emotions. Our attempts to change his behavior have the opposite effect, driving him away, rather than bringing him closer. Things we as women can do, when we approach, approach with a positive attitude. Accept him as he is without trying to change him. Love him when he's around, find something else to do when he isn't. And I believe he'll come back around when he sees that this is your approach.
2007-01-04 07:13:27 · answer #5 · answered by shine_radiantstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes they come back around. Only if they feel safe, though, and are still interested in you. Still, the best thing is to let them know you miss them and be patient for a few days, at least. When your women's sixth sense says it's time to talk, you're usually right. And don't let him get away with seeing someone else it there's a commitment.
2007-01-04 06:57:51 · answer #6 · answered by Dorothy and Toto 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men like to go somewhere quiet and be alone and think about their feelings and figure out solutions on their own (we are solution minded). Where as women are more open about feelings and like to talk to someone about what they feel to get an understanding of whats going on. A man will only talk about a problem if it's too difficult for him to solve on his own and normally it's to another man, someone he admires or respects.
Its important not to bug him and try force him to talk about things. He will in time.
2007-01-04 07:03:57 · answer #7 · answered by SiriuS 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That depends on how much of a confrintation he is expecting. If in his eyes the level is high he may not. Careful what you say or do. Some situations are so great that (pending on the guy) no matter how nice your are they may never face the issue.
2007-01-04 07:04:39 · answer #8 · answered by grtoo9 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe a lot of men are upset or afraid to face ladies like you because the guy(s) are thinking that u r too agressive, adsertive,
pushy (maybe), straightforward, noisy (like one of my coworkers),
just maybe guys have skeletons in their closets from the past that if any of that comes out, then the relationship is over.
2007-01-04 07:01:05 · answer #9 · answered by terry l 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men usually remain silent to avoid confrontation, at least I know I do.
My wife for example, doesn't communicate well about things she doesn't want to hear or talk about. She gets really nasty, vindictive and in the past, violently angry, when I mention things that hurt her feelings or things she doesn't want to hear. She never really listens to me anyway. So, I just don't talk to her much anymore and am contemplating divorce or separation.
2007-01-04 07:02:54 · answer #10 · answered by Leroy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋