I had a friend tell me that they just wanted to be friends. They kept talking as if we were friends, but she then started acting like we were more. We grew much closer as "friends" until the point where I backed off confused, and she got confused and disappointed at me. Which one is the true indicator: her actions or her words?
2007-01-04 06:50:15 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I live life by this: "ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THEN WORDS" You can blah blah blah blah blah all you want because the real truth is always put in to the actions......
2007-01-04 06:54:16 · answer #1 · answered by daydreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems in your particular case, actions speak louder than words. There's something on her end that is causing her to hold back. It may be that she's afraid of losing you as a friend should the two of you become a couple. Or maybe family issues... for instance they don't want her dating right now. (I don't know how old you are, but if both of you are young, that may be the case) Or she's just like everybody else, confused over her own feelings and can't figure out what they want. Just be patient. May be take her aside and ask her what's the deal.
2007-01-04 07:00:14 · answer #2 · answered by Koko Loco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone tell you they just want to be friends, take that as being in fine print, and if you can't just ne friends with the person, take some time out. Since they have no feelings invested in you, they don't seem to understand how, even though they've said it, their actions don't say the same thing to the person who has feelings for them. So they get comfortable and then start sending the wrong signals. Take this seriously, if you're having doubts about the statement, ask them what is going on, and if they still say "just friends" then give yourself some time to move on and get over this person. Do it for your own sanity. If they don't respect your feelings, then they are just in it for themselves, and just want your company without wanting to seriously see you as more than that.
Good luck.
2007-01-04 06:58:07 · answer #3 · answered by grldragon101 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The old saying "Actions speak louder than words" is very true. So... her actions are the true indicator.
2007-01-04 07:26:36 · answer #4 · answered by ctsnowmiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
strikes... for occasion, someone can "say" they love you yet be abusive... which might you assert is the extra effective indicator of that person's actual character? i'll have self assurance what someone DOES until now i'll have self assurance what he/she SAYS.
2016-12-15 15:38:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lesson for everyone: DON'T fall into the "i just want to be friend" zone again.
2007-01-04 06:53:50 · answer #6 · answered by Tosh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I going to say........both!
2007-01-04 07:00:13 · answer #7 · answered by Kenshin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋