If he doesn't pick me to be his partner for life, I feel the reason would be because I can't get pregnant. I left my ex because he cheated on me for years. Since I thought that I would be with my ex forever, I made the decision to not have any more. Me and my ex have three between the both of us (one together). My guy friend has two right now. It makes lots of sense that he would want a baby by his wife. I have always wanted to adopt. I feel that that idea might turn him off though. At this early point in our relationship (met one year ago, just lovers) should I bring it up now? I don't want to regret not talking about it, then when it's too late he says "you should have said something". What would you do?
2007-01-04 06:48:40 · 9 answers · asked by Baby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would tell him now. It is better to have everything in the open. My friend just got married to someone with 3 kids and he loves them alot and doesn't mind at all that he won't have kids. Adopting is also a wonderful option.
2007-01-04 06:51:13 · answer #1 · answered by s_campbell_09 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to say, but you should have told him from the get go that you could not have children. You may lose him now over this whole thing because he dated you thinking you probably could bear children. Guys are not built to as those questions, so unless you talk about it, the subject will never come up. Adoption is great, but he probably wants kiddos from his own seed, not from anothers. Bottom line, you should have told him 3 months into the relationship or earlier. Honesty is always the best policy...even when its not asked for.
2007-01-04 14:53:28 · answer #2 · answered by msjinx39 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adoption is a great idea if it turns him off and he leaves u because you cant have any more children then he wasnt the one but he should be happy that you are willing to adopt because there are alot of children that need a home and grow up with out a family and its very sad
2007-01-04 14:52:37 · answer #3 · answered by jharris8506 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't get pregnant, you can't get pregnant. Plain and simple. I feel it's best to be upfront now about this issue as it is a major issue. If you aren't upfront, later on down the road there's a very good chance he will be very resentful that you weren't upfront earlier and it very well might ruin the relationship.
If he really wants to have a child by his wife, then it's only fair of you to be honest with him and let him know that you cannot have children.
2007-01-04 14:55:44 · answer #4 · answered by Doodlebug 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's tough, but you may want to reevaluate where the relationship will eventually end up.
2007-01-04 14:52:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think all you people have created more than your share of babies, broken homes, and more babies! Enough already.
2007-01-04 14:50:44 · answer #6 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
adopt
2007-01-04 14:52:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as in all relationships, you should be forthright and honest.
I don't even understand why this is posted here.
tc
2007-01-04 14:53:25 · answer #8 · answered by timc_fla 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop making them, we have enough now.
2007-01-04 14:51:53 · answer #9 · answered by Xxar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋