when i ready let him wait?

Question

ok the only reason i asked before wat age did u lose ur virginity is because my b/f is asking me for sex but he says that hell will wait until im ready should i let him wait until im truly ready or let him wait till i think i am ready at about 15 or 16 if u get me

just to say he is not a scumbag and i love him and i kno i do and he promised me that he wouldnt ask agen until he knows im ready

im 14 nearly 15 maybe wait till im 17 then

im 14 nearly 15 maybe wait till im 17 then he sed he didnt care how long it wud take me to be ready he wud wait

HE IS NOT A PEDOPHILE FULLSTOP

Answer 1

Don't do it...you've got a keeper if he'll wait for you...and I"m sure he'd be disappointed in you (and you'll be in yourself) if you do it before you ARE ready.

I hope he's not over 18 - cause if he is when you do have sex, you would be setting him up for jail, and being on a statewide sex offender list if your parents catch wind and sue him for statutory rape.

So if you love him and he's over 18 when you do have sex - you had better wait till YOU are over the age of consent. It varies by state so look it up.

Answer 2

Don't do it!! I was an athletic girl in highschool, had enrolled in school at an earlier age than most, and wondered if something was wrong w/me b/c I wasn't eager to learn about sex. Eventually, I grew older and realized it was just a matter of not being ready for that stage of life yet. You'll regret 'giving in' to your current boyfriend's pressure, you probably are not ready for a sexual relationship (and all the responsibilities and repercussions that go along w/it), boys are immature in highschool and you can't count on his protecting your privacy (in other words, sooner or later he'll tell everyone he knows), and this doesn't sound like the 'special guy' you want to share such a personal and private moment with. There will always be opportunities to have sex. 15 and 16 years old is even too soon. Once you've crossed that border there is no going back. Worry about other issues in your life at this point...it's hard enough just being a teenager. So I recommend that you wait. Hold this guy to his promise and don't rush. Good Luck

Answer 3

Well, I lost my virginity at 19 to the man that became my husband. It is very, very rare for a person age 15 or 16 to end up with the guy/girl they date at that age. His hormones are just raging - that doesn't mean it'll make your relationship better, or that's it's even worth it to just give your virginity away. Don't feel you have to give it to him, just so he'll stay with you! There are millions of guys out there, wait for the right one at the right time. I know in this society they make it like it doesn't really matter whether you have your virginity or not. I'm telling you - especially for a girl - you get more respect if you haven't had sex.
Plus as a girl you want to have it with someone who will be gentle with you. No matter what Hollywood says, it hurts the first time. You don't want some young, selfish kid raming himself in just for his own pleasure. You want someone to love you - you know? It's probably best to wait until you're an adult. Most people dont. but I'm glad I did. :0)

Answer 4

don't rush, wait until you are truely ready, and if that means your 22 yrs old then so be it.

first way you can tell your ready, you can sit down and talk about sex, not just medically speaking, but in terms of what pleases you and what pleases him. sex is not just about the touching, kissing and intercourse, it is about intamacy, love, fun, exploration and many other things.

You need to be ready for any and ALL consequences of sex, which include BUT are NOT limited to pregnancy, std's, aids, torment (from not only guilt if you figure out you truely were not ready, but if you were to break up and him tell the whole school your a s*l*u*t or something along those lines), moral guilt, or religious guilt.

Don't let him pressure you. If he is, then he doesn't really want you, he just wants a piece of tail.

Talk to your parents about this as well, atleast your mother, when you feel you are ready, your mom might be surprised that you wanted to confide in her, but also let her know you feel grown enough to do this, but want to take the precautionary steps to prevent pregnancy, like going to get your first pap smear and getting a contraceptive, as well as getting a variety of condoms from them so YOU can be prepared, the man does not always have nor have to carry the condom.

If people talk crap about you becasue of this, however they should find out, ignore them, knowing you know what you are doing, and are going to go about it in a mature, safe way.

what is it about women sleeping around and people calling them names? it's "OK" for guys to do it??? Oh bulls**t, it's fine if you decide to have multiple sex partners, just DO IT SAFE!!!!!!!!! I can't emphasize that ENOUGH.

and whoever said if you start having sex now, that you'll be used up by 20 or 30, it all depends on the person, because I lost my virginity when I was 16 (had JUST turned 16, like 2 wks before) and I have a normal if not high sex drive.

Answer 5

Make sure you are good and damn ready. There is no rush to lose your virginity.

Make sure you learn everything you can about safe sex, birth control, and the real consequences of sex before having sex.

Granted I am likely twice your age, but at 15 to 16, you should not be having sex yet. There is a reason why it is illegal for adults to have sex with people under the age of 18.

Answer 6

Make the boy wait. If you are not completely comfortable with the idea of losing your virginity, then you're not ready. If you have sex now just because he wants you to, you'll only regret the decision later in life. Whenever I talk to my friends about when they lost their virginity, most of them say they wish they had waited. I waited until I was in college and in love. I am not with that guy any more, but I don't regret my decision because I felt ready.

Answer 7

i think that you should wait until you're married but if you don't want to do that then yes you should make him wait until you are ready because your virginity is a very seriou thing and you can only have it once and i think that you are young so you might think that you will be with this guy forever but i know that odds are you're not. and then when you do find the guy that you want to marry you are going to wish that you had waited. so think long and hard about it because you could just end up pregnant or with a disease so be careful.

Answer 8

Here's the deal as I see it - if you're not sure whether you're ready then tell him you're not ready. The thing is, if you tell him you're ready, have sex and then you regret it later, you can't take it back. But if you tell him that you aren't ready and then sometime down the road realize that you are, then you can change your mind. There's no set schedule for these things so don't even bother trying to plan it. If he's pressing you for an exact time and place tell him to shove off :)

Answer 9

Your virginity is something very special. Do not lose your virignity until you are 120% sure about what you want. There are so many risks behind sex. Prenancy, std's,moral values, and self respect. I lost my virginity before I was ready and fully sure about intimacy. Now I know what true love and intimacy is I wish I would have waited. Once its gone, you can never get it back. Peer pressure sometimes makes us feel like we're obligated. In today's society you see people having sex at an earlier age and it makes it seem ok. Whatever you choose let God guide you.

Answer 10

Wait as long as you need, preferably until your married - this is your father speaking!!!! Just kidding. Take your time and don't let anybody pressure you and know that guys are walking hormones at that age and will say and do ANYTHING to get laid. What's the rush and the consequences can be devastating.