i have serious depression. i am only 14. i am addicted to cutting i have anorexia. and i have thoughts about suicide. i am always unhappy and i'm scared that i am going to do something horrible to myself when i get older. my parents don't know anything about this. they don't pay attention to me. my mom has descovered the cuts on my arms and my hips numerous times and she hasn't said anything
2007-01-04 06:39:53 · 7 answers · asked by sxebean 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Your mom cares, it's just that she's scared to death and doesn't know what to make of it. When my daughter started with that, I didn't know what to think. Was it on purpose? Could she stop if she wanted to? What was I supposed to do? You need to tell her that you need time to talk to her about something very important. She may be overwhelmed with work or other things and may not realize you're in trouble. Speak up and let her know! She can help you and if not, she can find out online what to do to help you.
2007-01-04 06:56:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry you're feeling this pain. Do you have ANYBODY you can talk to? Someone whom you respect, someone that will really listen? It always helps me to just talk to someone....somehow it doesn't seem like life is caving in on me so fast.....after I've really let some stuff out. The person doesn't even have to fix anything, they just have to listen. Is there some way for you to see a doctor or counselor? I went in to see the doctor because I was tired all the time and it turned out I was severely depressed. My doctor recommended counseling and she was right. I'm sorry your mom doesn't pay attention to you, I bet that hurts you a lot. Maybe she doesn't say anything about the cuts because she doesn't know what to say, maybe she's afraid she'll say the wrong thing and make everything worse. I think the best thing for you to do is to find someone who you REALLY think will listen and be able to actually help you get some help. I will pray for you. Take care. I really hope you get better, you seem like a really nice person.
2007-01-04 15:15:32 · answer #2 · answered by My kids mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It gets worse my friend, especially with all the pressure your under being in high school. You should see if you can get counseling. You may want to avoid your school counselor though. Being classified as suicidal may force them to involve your parents or change your current classes. There are many government aided programs that can help you. Search your states resources. My mom died when I was 10, I held on to it for 15 long agonizing miserable years. Drug addiction, alcoholism, DUI's, criminal record... It only gets worse and harder down the line, trust me. I've been clear of depression for only about 2 - 3 years now. Closing in on 30 years of age woke me up! Life is too short already!
2007-01-04 14:45:58 · answer #3 · answered by Zderickz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you need to get THERAPY!! You have the strength within yourself to help yourself and also have it within you to LOVE yourself.
When I was 16 yrs. old I had bulimia and had suicidal thought too, as I was clinically depressed and a very angry teenager for a couple of yrs. there.
You CAN DEFINATELY HEAL FROM ALL THIS...I AM LIVING proof and feel my words/support can help you. But your going to indeed HAVE to take the steps in order for you to follow the road to recovery. And I believe you will and you'll get better.
Therapy will help you tremendously. I also HIGHLY suggest to find something spiritual as well.......a good spiritual outlet--something that suits your belief system.
I just want to say that it'll take some time, but you most likely will feel the benefits of therapy almost immediately~JUST STICK w/it, as you'll develop a supportive relationship w/your therapist whom will help you heal, help you explore your emotions and help you take all the steps needed to heal yourself.
There aren't any words to describe really how someday you'll feel soooooooo much better about life and also to truely and authentically love yourself within.
And that is not right of your Mother, if I were your Mom, I'd be helping you all that I could, you DESERVE to be treated a lot better than this.
Just do what is right for yourself, get the phone book, make an app. w/a professional, and/or also speak w/a school counselor as well. They'll gladly help you, as this is why they are there, to care for students to help you get on the right track.
I get the feeling may be spending too much time alone too. Get therapy 1st, but also gradually work on your social life. You need not isolate yourself if you are. And your not alone either.
From personal experience I've DEFINATELY healed from all childhood wounds, have eaten healthy for years and yrs. now, w/no reaccurances of old disturbances whatsoever.
I am a very happy adult~far from how I felt around your age, but this will all make you a very strong person once you go thru the process, as you will and you'll heal.
It's good that you posted, as it's your 1st step in receiving needed help/advice.
Believe me, someday you will not feel this kind of pain again, I swear it. KEEP THE FAITH
2007-01-04 14:55:25 · answer #4 · answered by fancypantsy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear
many mothers work nowdays.....so they have a very busy schedule...work, home, kids
sometimes it not ignoring but too busy to put it all together....cause your not telling her and she has to figure it out
you need to sit down with mom and tell her...."I have a problem"....better yet talk to a school or church consler or a doctor or nurse ans let them tell mom if your being ignored
your problems are increasing cause you did not seek help when they started......will only increase if you stay quiet
never keep what is bothering you hidden......you have a family....share it
if a person of authority in your life is causing this.....you need an adult on your side to stop it...........
staying quiet only hurts you.........glad u posted up...takes real strength to speak up........hug your mom and say "I love you"
you need a hug......
2007-01-04 15:45:13 · answer #5 · answered by Jonathan L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i use to have the same problem...i am still going through depression as we speak..i found out i had a chronic disease and took it the wrong way. thing is you need to find something that totally relaxes you...and stick to it. keep your mind off of what makes u upset. for me, its talking to people online..where no one can see me, and no one can make fun of me. its as easy as that.
as for the anorexia, if its about thinking your too fat, im sure that not the case. we're all pretty in out own way, and people love us for who we are. im puerto rican so i have the big thighs and big *** and i wish i was like all these skinny gurls but the truth is im bulit like this and love myself the way i am....if u ever want to talk to me in IM don't hesitate. i love helping people. sexypuertorican2212
2007-01-04 14:44:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax my friend. It's not in your mind , seems you are in wrong environment like depression , less security. Do one thing Just focus on the your studies , live with your friends , encourage yourself to do indulge in good things like singing, reading,exercise, Do yoga , Concentrate on your future ambitions.
It's hard to done , Always remember two things
1> Read good literature, live in present. DON'T LET YOURSELF TO BE SCARED BECAUSE O TOMORROW'S BAD THING.
2>live IN PRESENT. The things you cant control leave it to GOD.
People may hesitate you. Talk to yourself & always think good about every person.
DONT FORGET TO PRAY ATLEAST ONCE IN DAY. AFTER ALL ITS MIND GAME. DONT LEAVE YOURSELF UNEMPLOYED.
Follow these you get definately sucess in life. Forget bad things , learn from them. Dont make them happand in future.
BEST OF LUCK.
2007-01-04 14:56:32 · answer #7 · answered by KSHITIJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋