My bf told me that he's 27 but today I just found out that he's 39 that's saw on his license driver. I'm 20. It means he's double my age & he's 6 yrs less than my parents. What should I do now? Is it crazy to love someone has same age as your parents?
2007-01-04 06:39:39 · 24 answers · asked by Winter 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'd be more concerned with the fact that he lied to you than the age difference. I think the age difference doesn't have to matter in a relationship if you both are ok with it.
2007-01-04 06:43:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not crazy to love someone near the age of your own parents. People with large age differences fall in love all the time. I think, though, that the problem here is that he lied to you about his age. Maybe he's embarrassed by the age gap or he's trying to be something he's not. Either way, he lied and in my book, a lie like that is a big no-no! But that's just me.
I can only imagine your shock though! Sorry he lied to you...
2007-01-04 14:45:48 · answer #2 · answered by laurajustice33613 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him why he did it. Be reasonable, atleast he didn't cheat on you. He may have wanted to NOT scare you away with his age.
Some relationships like this work. But explain to him that you are afraid that as you get older your goals and wants from life and in a guy may change, and that your afraid that you may lose interest because you don't want to have to take care of him when your a young 50 and he's 70 (which in this day an age is still young, but you know what i mean)......
With an age difference that serious, you really need to think about the future, any kids, health, your career options.
You also need to find out if he's lied about anything else, like maybe a wife and kids (* PERSONALY* it is hard for me to imagine that he's not married, he has to be atleast divorced)
depending on how long you have been together you may want to see a couples therapist about this.
goodluck, follow your heart, but listen to your head to!
2007-01-04 14:46:02 · answer #3 · answered by Sapphire 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This a very serious issue..
Well that depends on your outlook towards the society... If you are able to handle it its fine...
Moreover more than age its the amount of love the person can give to his counterpart. If he is ready to take the love and not care about the age its absolutely okie.
Coming to family... it again depends on how they understand the realtionship. If the family is liberal enough they may not object!!!
There should be a lot of time involved and lot of thinking should be done before going into some commitment like this!!!
I would suggest you should forget this relationship.... coz he had been lying to you.. all my above reasoning would have been true.. incase he would have been truthful to you...
Trust is a very important factor... if its broken. to regain it takes a life time..!!
I hope something would work out for you sure...
Good Luck!!!!
2007-01-04 14:47:38 · answer #4 · answered by Bindass Hyderabadi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age difference is not that big an issue. My wife is 12 years younger than me and we have had 9 happy years together! The question her is, if he lied to you about his age, what else has or will he lie about? I believe in complete honesty in a relationship! If you don't have that, it's time to move on and find a MAN that will be as honest with you as you are with him. Hope this helps.
2007-01-04 16:01:17 · answer #5 · answered by Lonnie F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This should be a major red flag. Not because of the age- age is just a number, but because of the lying. If he is lying about this, what else is he lying about? Liars dont change and I guarantee you that he has a plethora of lies waiting to be exposed.
2007-01-04 14:45:34 · answer #6 · answered by hockey_kisses 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to paint a bad picture but someone who lies about petty things may have a problem. My son's father lied about his age too. He turned out to be a year younger than my mother.
A year later I found out he had twin sons two years younger than me!
Good Luck.
2007-01-04 14:43:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you indeed do love him then age wouldnt matter.
However- I hope you have asked him why he has lied about it and make sure he doesnt have anymore skeletons in his closet.
How in the world couldn't you tell he was 12 years old? Most men are going bald at that age.
2007-01-04 14:43:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not crazy, but that is a pretty big lie. The age thing wouldn't bother me as much except that he lied about it. Can you really trust him? If he will lie about that, what else could he be lying about?
2007-01-04 14:42:30 · answer #9 · answered by Jen_n_TX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's been lying about it, then obviously age is a big problem! How can you trust that he hasn't lied about other things? Just dump him and find someone closer to you rage!
2007-01-04 14:45:35 · answer #10 · answered by Shannon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋