My boyfriend and I recently broke up due to a mutual agreement. He is a year younger than me and my parents don't feel that I should want to be with anyone who is younger than me. (He's 17 and I'm 18.) However, his parents have no problem with it. I guess I'll have to wait until he graduates next year, but it's just so hard. I really love him, but I guess if I truly love him, I'll have to let him go and see if he comes back to me. While we aren't together, I guess I should use this time to learn and grow. How can I become the woman that I need to be in order for us to be together? Meaning that, in the near future we'll be movin in together. What do I need to know or do to become more of a woman. Any advice...
2007-01-04 06:38:55 · 34 answers · asked by ♥Spirit♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have seen this happen to so many women before. They have fallen in love and have let so many other people make the decision for them as to whether they should be with a particular person or not. Someone once told me that if you love someone so much, you would do everything in your power to keep that love going on. If you want to break up with him, and wait, that is fine, but I assure that you should keep in contact with him, just to keep things on the plane. On the other hand, If you really want to be with him, do not let one year and your family's comments ruin the relationship between you two. Remember, in the end, it will just be you two. I'm not saying to neglect the relationship with your family, but sometimes, you have to care about what is best for you. Trust me, I made this decision for myself, and I am happy, my family is happy, they accept my fiance, and he is happy also. We have a baby together now! Good luck with your decision. :)
2007-01-04 06:51:49 · answer #1 · answered by jessrich1000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to know that a long relationship with somebody is not always fun and games, some woman live in fantasy worlds and think of love, lust and passion but this stuff fades over time so be prepared, It happens to everyone. Be patient nice and sweet but also don't let him take advantage of you. Don't have guys calling you or be out all night with your girls, if so make sure he knows where you are and no your limits men hate thinking of there woman getting crazy drunk with other guy's. Just be good to him and he should return the favor. Stay away from the club scene it will ruin everything trust me.
2007-01-04 06:48:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jesus, miss, that's a hard one. Your mother should have taught you about Womanly Duties. I'm sure if you clean up around the house and cook, you pretty much got it down packed. From what it sounds like, you both need to wait another year or two. It's a lot of responsibility to being the WOMAN of the house and it starts with actually BEING a woman...and to be that, it has a lot more to do with your age. Becoming the woman you need to be comes with time. And you haven't even begun. Don't think I'm putting you down, it's just that being a woman is NOT EASY! And please, don't complicate things by having children....PLEASE. Just be careful if you do decide to move in together, and just keep your apartment clean....hell, that's a start.
2007-01-04 06:44:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that you just answered your own question. The main thing about being a woman is making well thought out and conscious decisions. The main thing to remember is to not live your life waiting for this one thing to take place. I hope that you are finding more meaning out of life by continuing your education or finding a job that is fulfilling to you. The more complete you feel as a person the better you will be when you are with someone else.
2007-01-04 06:45:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
More of a woman? The best way to grow is to get experience. I think that you should just let life be your teacher! If he truly loves you, why would he want you to change? And why would you question what you are? You are still young and have so much to learn! Enjoy life, that's the only advice I can give!
2007-01-04 06:42:39 · answer #5 · answered by CJ P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is a good idea for you to move in with him before you are married. At 18, focus on yourself-needs, wants, career and personal development. You've got plenty of time for love. I wouldn't recommend you put so much energy, time and effort into being some guy's woman at your age, unless you were married to him-especially not a 17 year-old! He's not mature enough for that kind of attention.
2007-01-04 06:54:06 · answer #6 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing that is important is education. With education you can work when and where you want instead of where they are hiring. It opens doors to a better life, more money, your choice of neighborhoods to live in, schools to educate your children when you have them, the car that you will be able to afford and so on. Planning for a career that will allow you to be a good mother, a good wife and still be financially stable is always a good thing for a woman to do. Also, since 55% of marriages end in divorce, planning an education that will allow you to earn a decent living if Mr. Right ain't so right after all, would be wise. Make your parents proud, work on educating yourself to the fullest extent. Good luck my dear!
2007-01-04 06:44:20 · answer #7 · answered by Tippy's Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give yourself sometime to grow it takes experience to become more womanly learn yourself find out what u want and what you really enjoy do-in as for your relationship he's not that young a year apart please you r still in the same age bracket don't let family decide anything for you because when every body's all grown up and older you may find yourself by yourself because of other people and their decisions advice is good but take the right advice you only have one life to live live to the best of your ability you love him stay if you allow time between the two he's still young he may find another
2007-01-04 06:52:57 · answer #8 · answered by Chakayla T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The role of woman has changed in the last centuries. It used to be the man went out and hunted for food while the woman stayed in the home and kept things running smoothly, both were essential to a well working home life and survival of all involoved. Now come back to reality. In todays life both men and woman need jobs to financially keep things moving forward, therefore the role of both have changed. I still enjoy preparing wonderful meals for us but I cant always do that so he has to gave a game plan for dinner when hes home first. I do my own laundry and him his both on our days off- which are never the same. You just keep your part of the responsibility and keep him reminded that he must keep up with his part of the chores and household duties. Your role as a woman is to keep yourself clean and as lovely as possible for him to always desire you. That is your only role as woman... Good Luck.
2007-01-04 06:45:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself and look for ways to grow as a person. Two incomplete people do not make a good couple. You need two whole people. As to what a woman's role in a relationship is, that is decided by the two people in the relationship.
Antd truthfully honey, if he isn't your husband you don't need to fulfill any of his womanly duties. Grandma is right when she says " why should he buy the cow when he can get the milk for free."
2007-01-04 06:42:53 · answer #10 · answered by dmjrev 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋