been going out with some one now for just over 2 months now and i know he wants to sleep with me
i keep on getting texts such as 'cant wait till febuary wink wink' -febuary is my birthday
he dosnt have any idea that the reason i dont want to do anything is because i find it hard to trust people, i dont know how he will react to this HELP! bearing in mind there is a horrible reason why i dont trust people and why i find it hard to be intimate with people
2007-01-04 06:33:06 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
how old are you???
2007-01-04 06:35:34 · answer #1 · answered by Delete 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before u have sex with someone u need to be sure that that's what u really want. If you need time, he has to respect. Dont do nothing if you feel unconfortable. If he really care about you then he'll be patient and wait until your ready. Be sincer and tell him that u dont like to be push for him via message. If he dont care, he will go but at least you will feel fine, and dont feel guilty cus thats meen that he only want have sex with you. Belive me dont make nothing that u dont want to do, if you are not ready. Is normal that when u have a bad experience get dificult to trust in someone else, for that u need to get on contact with some friend or someone that u trust and tell what happend to you, or you can contact a profesional. Think very carefully what u really want before is to late.
2007-01-04 06:42:55 · answer #2 · answered by lady_morriganus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you go any further with this guy you need to sit down and tell him what has caused this fear of trusting people. If he doesn't understand or you don't want to talk it over with him, he's not good enough for you and you should move on. My girlfriend is very similar. She has many issues that she has over time, learned to trust me enough to let me help her get over. It's all about understanding and time. If he can't provide you with that, that's his problem and one you should get rid of.
2007-01-04 06:38:04 · answer #3 · answered by no name brand canned beans 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might have a nice surprise for oyu not relating to sex. I am worries that your past is really hindering you to move onwith your life. Whatever you problems were, you need to seek counseling b/c you will not be able to have a healthy relationship with anyone until you help yourself. You should also be honest with him if intimacy ever does come up .
2007-01-04 06:44:28 · answer #4 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T DO IT can I make myself more clear I don't care how old you are it is 100% your Choice and if there is 1% feeling that you think it is the wrong time go with that feeling. If he doesn't like it hey there are more men. 8 billion people in the world you can find more than someone that PRESSURES you into sex.
2007-01-04 06:40:32 · answer #5 · answered by Crystal Blue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then why are you dating? Until you've resolved your trust issues, it's not fair to any of your partners that you date because (as you said) you cannot trust them.
Wait until you have gotten over your issues before putting that burden on some else...especially someone who has, thus far, done nothing to deserve being mistrusted.
2007-01-04 06:37:29 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its ok if u dont trust people easly. im like that to and ve benn with this guy for like 3 months and i already told him that i dont trust people easily and he totally understands just tell him how u feel and if he dumps u cuz of it then hes not worth it theres plenty of other guyz u can be with that like you and respect u
2007-01-04 06:40:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must of led him on to think he's getting lucky on your birthday. Now he's hanging around just for that purpose. Let him know you do not plan on having sex anytime soon. See what he says. If he wants to be with you then he'll be with you without SEX.
2007-01-04 06:38:28 · answer #8 · answered by mjorod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it isn't going to happen until you are ready. A good boyfriend understands and respects. A boyfriend who just wants to lay you gets upset. Find out which he is.
2007-01-04 06:36:15 · answer #9 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yoy should be able to talk to the person you are with. i urge you to seek counceling to help you with your past issue. There is nothing wrong with waiting to get intimate until you are ready
2007-01-04 06:39:24 · answer #10 · answered by jacksonvillegarycollins 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is worth being in a relationship with then he will understand when you say you are not ready to take that step.
If he doesnt understand- then he is no good and you deserve better sweetie.
2007-01-04 06:35:54 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋