Date a 40+ year old man who has lived with his mother the past 7 years? He has no children so no child support payments and his mother is not ill. What do you honestly think? Would you accept or say no thank you?
2007-01-04 06:19:59 · 47 answers · asked by Tek ~aka~Legs! 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
WOW....Well, it's odd that a man who is 40+ is still living with his mom. However, there could be various reasons: His mom is older and it wouldn't be wise for her to live by herself, she needs help financially. That's all I could think of, if you feel comfortable enough to ask him, do so and depending on his answer, take it from there.
2007-01-04 06:23:06 · answer #1 · answered by chokolaite_cutie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I met my husband when he was living with his mom and he wasnt 40 but he was almost 30 and also had no kids and his mother wasnt ill...but now we live in a nice house in a nice neighborhood with 2 beautiful children...If you really like him and you think he will treat you right and buy a house or rent oneday if you guys become seriously involved then you should do it regardless of his living situation right now...Not all people who live with their parents still are loser's...I think you should go for it and if it does turn out bad you can always leave him...
2007-01-04 06:28:19 · answer #2 · answered by Riley S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A man that age still living with Mom, clearly has commitment issues. Or is totally controlled by his Mother. I would have to yes to a date (why not have fun) and no to a relationship. Unless it's friends only. Good luck
2007-01-04 06:22:48 · answer #3 · answered by to_sassy4_u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating shouldn't be a problem solely on the basis of someone living with their parent/s. It takes time to get to know the person... in the time you spend seeing if there is relationship potential there, you can find out the backstory, and test the waters as to how he envisions his living situation if he gets into a hypothetical relationship and marriage.
I'm sure most of the people that have answered this with an instant "lives with parents= red flag" are the young ones out there... hate to tell you this, but more and more men and women are having to move back in with parents for a time for perfectly legitimate reasons... I knew lawyers recently graduating from law schools that had to move back to family because of the high student loan payments. Same with people deciding they need a career change and need to go back to school, and having to deal with school and living costs. People getting out of relationships/ marriages with kids that need help getting started again. There are many reasons out there besides the "momma's boy" stereotype. Family is family, and if you need help, that's what family is there for.
That is the situation I am in now... I moved to stay with family while I finish up my studies for a career change. Women who would automatically think "living with parents= bad" and leave it at that miss out on a lot of information. They'd never know that I have a BA and MA degree (from my first career), or that I was out on my own for 16 years previously. It's a logical and practical decision when you have student loan payments to make and are studying for a new career, and need some stability getting started in the job market.
You have to treat everyone as an individual, and not succumb to social stereotypes. Go out with him, and find out about his particular situation. Once you figure out if there is potential there, his particular reasons for staying with his mom, and his plans for the future should he become seriously involved with someone, THEN you can make an intelligent, well informed decision about the potential for a long term relationship with him.
2007-01-04 06:54:04 · answer #4 · answered by Cruel Angel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I fail to see any problem whatsoever. Until my Mother passed away I visited her often and had a close relationship with her. She prepared me for life in the world as we know it and all honor is hers. If this guy, for whatever reason(s), has been living with his Mother; so what? Just because some small minded people may have had problems in their lives do not let their warped reasoning point you in a stupid direction. Have you met his mother? Does she have horns or a forked tongue? Just use your own brain and quit trying to dance to whatever tune the world trys to play for you. Good luck.
2007-01-04 06:34:24 · answer #5 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are we talking one date- nothing exclusive yet?? I would go ahead, what can it hurt. Maybe it has just been a convenient relationship that works for them. (Helps her financially, he is not 'alone') you never know. Dismissing him for just that is a bit small minded. I would say that you would be able to tell if he is some sort of freak by the first date- but one date can't hurt. You never know the details of someones life until you ask. Give it a try, maybe it will be the greatest thing ever.
2007-01-04 06:24:04 · answer #6 · answered by Smilingcheek 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why does he live at home with his mother? Did you ask him that? hmmm, at that age, has he ever been married? If not then you have to think, this could be a bad thing bc then it could mean he is a real mommas boy... bad bad ANNOYING thing! you wont have privacy and he doesnt seem independent. what does he do for a living? ur choice, but i would say keep it moving and say no.
2007-01-04 06:24:07 · answer #7 · answered by Stargazer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well do you love him or not that is the question you should ask yourself living with your mother dont mean your a bad person maybe he cares a lot for her or he just could not stand the solitude. If he his a good guy why not !
2007-01-04 06:21:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a few men who live with their parents now. ALL of them is for taking care of thier parents now that they are old and need the help. I do know one that is 40+ and lives with his mommy because he is a mama's boy. He should be out on his own.. I say.. No way!!
2007-01-04 06:22:53 · answer #9 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on your age as well. I ASSUME you're mature enough to date one of 40+. It's ONLY A DATE, not a lifelong committmant. Come back and let us know how the date goes..... ;)
2007-01-04 06:25:56 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋