OK so here is our deal. We first started going out in May. Everything was perfectly fine for like the first 4 months. Then she cheated on me over the summer with one of her ex's. She called me and told me about it..and I forgave her for it..cause this is my first relationship and I didn't know what to do at the time..then school started again and she broke up with me on my birthday (big bummer), and then a month after that we started going out again, and then one of her Ex's started calling her (a different one), and for some reason she says she hates him, but they talk on the phone (arguing most of the time, but then they start apologizing and talk for like hours, her best friend told me this, dunno if having information like this being given to me by her friend is a good idea or not..)and she has his myspace on her friends list, and they argue alot on there too, and he always keeps asking her out and **** on there, and then when I asked to know what was going on,
16 hours ago
she got mad and broke up with me again, assuming that I thought she was cheating on me, when I just asked what had happened. Then like 2 weeks later we got back together AGAIN, because she said she was second guessing, and the same stuff happened. For some reason ever since we broke up the first time we have been fighting. We had never fought before...I'm not asking anyone to decide for me, I just need some advice is all..because I think she is going to break up with me again tommorow because recently she's started acting weird..she doesn't kiss me anymore, doesn't let me kiss her, her hugs are shorter and she used to say she loved me too whenever we hugged but now she says she doesn't want me to tell her I love her..instead she just either says bye or nothing at all..
2007-01-04 06:17:29 · 32 answers · asked by RKO 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
PS- I wrote out this question yesterday, and didn't go to school today(sick), so omit the part where I said she is going to break up with me tommorow..she will soon inevitabley, and I just wana know if I should do it first before things get out of hand.
2007-01-04 06:18:53 · update #1
You seem like a very smart and decent guy and this girl is selfish. To be blunt your her fall back guy. She knows that no matter what happens you will always be there to catch her when she falls and she is taking advantage. The fact that she cheated on you should clue you into how much respect and love this girl actually has for you. You may love her but in the long run it will be better for you to say Hell no the next time she tries to get back with you. There are probably a few girls that would love for you to give them a chance, so do it. Move on.
Oh yeah- the only reason why we keep in contact with ex's is because we have the hope that we will get back together with them. Your girl may be fighting with her ex on myspace but you should be more worried about the fact that they still have stuff to fight about. After all fighting is just another way to vent feelings.
2007-01-04 06:24:50 · answer #1 · answered by hockey_kisses 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey dude,
first things first, you need to calm down and relax. it seems that you're too anxious, although i can understand why you're feeling this way, but you need to take a step back to see the whole situation clearly from another point of view.
in my opinion:
you love her, but she doesn't. it's clear, at least to me.
a girl who loves a guy would never do so much things to hurt him, and if she loves you she wouldn't cheat on you more than once or break up with you more than once.
seriously, relationships that have a lot of 'break-up-patch-up" will never work out in the end.
it's easy to say "i love you" but if the actions do not show then maybe you should just let go. it's hard to do so, but time will heal. believe me, you'll meet a better girl who loves you much more than this chick now!!!
no offence though but i think you're truly a nice guy, forgiving her time and again even though she's been treating you like shite.
take a break, do something you've always wanted to do but haven't got the chance/time to alone. give yourself space to reflect and reorganise your thoughts. =)
take care. ^_^
2007-01-04 06:29:22 · answer #2 · answered by soooompi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like this girl doesn't know what she wants. Or rather, she thinks she wants everything she doesn't have, until she has it, and then she's not satisfied with that, either. I think that as long as you are dancing to her tune, you will keep getting hurt. Just because she's the first relationship you've had, doesn't mean she's the only one you'll ever have. Just concentrate on you being happy, healthy, and whole, and spend time with people who make you feel good, who help you to be your best version of yourself. *That's* the kind of person you want to be trying to have a relationship with, not one who makes you feel insecure, pessimistic, and full of doubt about yourself. So sez I, for what it's worth. Hope it helps and good luck to you.
2007-01-04 06:23:28 · answer #3 · answered by Poopy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok i'll give u my sincere answer..
" Have her for lunch before she has u for supper "
this is a saying but i felt it rings true here.. but don't take it literally :)
this girl is not stable, she doesn't know what she wants AND she is playing around.. she's taking u for granted.. goes and has fun with her ex's and then come runnung to u..
she does not deserve someone loyal like u..
i believe u should dump her as soon as possible and NEVER look back.. and look for a girl who deserves ur loyalty and love..
good luck..
2007-01-04 06:33:07 · answer #4 · answered by DeSeRt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please dump this girl. I know it hurts but unless you are firm that you are not to be messed with, it will keep cycling like this over and over and over! It is not fun to be cheated on. If she was truly sorry it would have been obvious. You are just going to be re hurt. Please respect yourself and get out of this relationship from hell before you waste years on someone that cares only about themselves. Let her have her online trash and you find a girl that wants to be in the relationship as much as you do. GOOD LUCK!! I am sorry to hear all this..
2007-01-04 06:22:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she really don't care much about you. You need to find someone that Will respect you and put you first. It sounds like she is still seeing her ex lovers. You should be treated with all the love and respect, you are worth it. Find someone that is worthy of your time.
2007-01-04 06:23:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like either she has no idea what, or who, she wants, or she is playing you. Neither is a good option for you, I would move on with my life. Maybe some day she'll grow up and know what she wants, but in the meantime you should get on with your life.
2007-01-04 06:20:56 · answer #7 · answered by harlowtoo 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is your first relationship, right? Well, experience tells me you've got a first-class, dyed-in-the-wool whacko on your hands. Walk away and chalk it up to experience. The next one will be much easier to spot.
2007-01-04 06:21:08 · answer #8 · answered by wineboy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend could care LESS about you. Get rid of her and the sooner you get over her the better off you'll be. You need to be in a more stable relationship than this.
2007-01-04 06:20:51 · answer #9 · answered by It's Me 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious? You really need to dump her & forget about her. There are plenty other women out there, & one's that are way better & will treat you better than you ever believed could happen.
2007-01-04 06:22:32 · answer #10 · answered by Adorn B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋