If you know your BF talks to and flirts with other girls regularly...?

Question

but you dont think he'd cheat, would you just let it be? Of course maybe he could be tempted and things could get out of hand, & maybe he'll be tempted to do something more w/ 1 of these girls. There's a chance the opportunity to get physical will present itself and he could use bad judgement and sleep w/ someone, kiss them or get head- I'm aware of the possibilities. This sounds SOOO stupid, but in my heart I really don't think he'd cheat, although I could be wrong. He's the type who needs to constantly feel like "he still has it" & can get attention from girls, so I think he's just feeding his ego by talking to other chicks. I know if I had a complaint about every little thing, there would just be a ton of conflict, & that would put stress on the relationship. I know all the little things can accumulate into a huge prob eventually, but I'm one to choose my battles wisely & I dont think theres much harm in him chatting with others- its just a little freedom. How would you handle this?

For the record, I'm not uncomfortable with his actions. I think its ok to just let him be. He lets me see the texts and calls form them all the time. I have access to all their #'s and evreything! I think its harmless flirting and nothing more, thats why I ALLOW it. He'd just do it secretly if I wasnt ok with it, so why not let him do as he pleases?

Answer 1

It sounds to me that you have a boyfriend who is the very extroverted, outgoing & flirty type. You need to ask yourself a few things to decide how to deal with it.

First: Do you (and I assume the answer is yes) want and expect him to be monogomous with you. If so, is this clearly communicated between you two? Don't assume that he is faithful if you two haven't agreed to be.

Second: So if you two are monogamous, you need to ask yourself if you can tolerate him talking to other girls and flirting. Do you trust that he is being faithful and is just being playful with other girls? If he is actually cheating, you need to move on, obviously. If he isn't cheating... You need to accept that this is his personality. You are not likely to change him, and if you could you probably shouldn't anyway. This is his personality. If you can't accept him the way he is, or if the way he acts makes you jealous, you two are probably not a good match. He deserves someone who can allow him the freedom to be who he is. And you need someone who doesn't make you feel jealous.

Just remember first thing is you need to communicate openly with him, and make sure you know exactly how things stand in your relationship.

Answer 2

You'd be amazed what people are capable of, I too said the same thing once, never again.

Talk to him about how you feel and if it doesn't stop do something about it, eventually at some point down the line will annoy you even more.

It's like the old saying "never go to sleep on an argument". If something is bothering you do something if not don't. Think about it this way, if something is going to happen it will there is nothing you can do about it. It doesn't hurt to have a little trust. If you lose it thats just life, it will only make you a better person.

Answer 3

If he is with you why does he need attention from other girls. All men have egos but they are not all out there flirting for attention. I think he is being disrespectful to you. You say you trust him but you are questioning it in your question. If you do not like it tell him if he loves you he will stop or ease up otherwise find someone whose ego is not so big. Harmless flirting now and again is fine - women do it too but ALL the time is too much

Answer 4

well ok first of all : im sure ur just watching him to much because ur his gf...im sure he doesnt mean to sometims its just in a guys nature to flirt to and talk to other girls. think about it this way, dont u flirt and talk to boys? next time u see him flirting with another girl go right up to them and tell him like "come on lets go" (madly sort of) so both him AND the girl get the hint thats he is doing something wrong. if u dont want to do that then all u can do is talk to him. its bad enought that u have to go onto yahoo ansewrs and ask for help, so ur best bet is just talking to him. and if he keeps it up DUMP HIM. im sure u can find a much better guy that would respect u and not flirt with other girls. and i think this is worth "picking ur battles" if u no what a mean. good luck & take care!
-jennifer

Answer 5

Boy you sure did make lots of excuses for him didn't you ? Its never a good sign if your man flirts with other girls. Its the first step to bigger things. A man who needs to have his ego stroked never changes. Actually, I think the more committed he gets, the more he needs it from other women. If he does this now what do you think he might do when you guys get married ? I think this is your red flag and your ignoring it. I think if you marry this guy you will find yourself heartbroken and look back and ask yourself why you overlooked it. I would never be ok with this kind of behavior from my man if I knew about it.

Answer 6

Firstly - a guy talking to girls is not unusual or wrong. If you try to stop him talking to girls altogether, it'll probably offend him and show you don't trust him.

Secondly - how you react to flirting is up to you. It bothers some people, others are ok with it. If it bothers you, tell him it makes you feel uncomfortable. If he cares about you he should be able to stop flirting.

Answer 7

I'd find a guy whose ego is so enormous he has to constantly feel like he still has it to be incredibly immature and tiresome. Yawn. You can have him- he sounds like a loser to me. You don't "know in your heart"- you only HOPE he won't cheat.
Don't you deserve better than his insecure little twerp?

Answer 8

ask tha fool and see if he do you can always tell if a man is lying to you and you will know.