I just found out that my boyfriend was concidering breaking up with me 8 months ago and I had no idea....I thought eveything was fine. In fact the following month he proposed marriage! What do I do? DoI confront him or leave it alone?
2007-01-04 06:01:54 · 22 answers · asked by computergrl69 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let it lay...
How many of us can say that we never ever thought if our relationship was the best thing for us? The real ringer here is that he asked you to marry him a month later. He was battling a life changing choice at the time. I'm sure you realize how many guys cave under the stress of committing and run. Your guy didn't cave, he thought hard and chose you over every other person and he chose you over his life style as he knows it. Don't confront him, go and hug him.
2007-01-04 06:07:45 · answer #1 · answered by Thomas 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
2 years is a long time so it might have just been getting cold feet. And so he began thinking he needed to be single. But if he thought about it and realized that all he wants is you, why dig up the past. He worked everything out. And remember when and if you guys get married, you ll start thinking about all this stuff too. is he the right one, should i marry him etc. Dont worry, he wants to be with you because if he didnt he would have in fact broke up with you. Everythings fine let it be.
2007-01-04 06:07:44 · answer #2 · answered by jennababe_68 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, please don't overreact. It seems that you've heard this from another source... Sometimes people misrepresent things unintentionally.
Second off, if it is really bothering you then bring it up to your boyfriend once you have calmed down. And try not to fight about it. Be calm. It might help to clear the air by finding out the truth from him.
Third off, just keep reminding yourself that he proposed! So whatever he was feeling beforehand - he loves you enough to committ! Hang on to that thought.
2007-01-04 06:06:50 · answer #3 · answered by amarmic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did the person that told you not tell you the reason? If they did and things have changed, I wouldn't say anything. If you do not know...then ask. I wouldn't get stroppy about it, just say that it has come to your attention. You have a right to know and hopefully he is mature and intelligent enough to talk about it. It is important as it may rear it's ugly head again when you are married. It may be something small that will stay resolved forever, or something that he was going through himself and has resolved. Please do not listen to the people that say dump him, they are flippant remarks in order to gain points!
2007-01-04 06:12:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats usually how it is most of the time....A person is clueless as to what the other person is thinking until it is too late......But uh, as far as confronting him, well, if he didnt already tell you this then I am sure that he will try to deny it. Then again, he may be a man and just tell you that he dont want you anymore
2007-01-04 06:05:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him. this is not something you just leave alone. Make sure you both have mutual feelings before you go into marriage. Talk to him
good luck *hugs*
2007-01-04 06:05:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he was going through something and not sure if he was right in wanting to spend his life with you. Sounds like he did some soul searching and realized that he did...communication is key, you could talk to him about it, but remember don't ask things that you really don't want the answers to.
2007-01-04 06:05:34 · answer #7 · answered by BMW BFD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it was me id ask him about it. but maybe thats not the best decision. dont break up with him. but i agree that its somewhat disturbing that you find out that your boyfriend was going to break up with you 8 months ago. but if you think that asking him will make things go bad then dont. its in the past and obviuosly he realized that would have been a bad decision. maybe he was one of those guys that break up with girls when they know they're falling for them. but then he realized that would be stupid. i dont know im just speculating here. but definately dont break it off. whatever you decide to do, think it over really good before you do it. and dont let other people make the decision for you.
and if you do decide to ask him about it, do it calmly, dont overreact to his response and dont get hysterical.
2007-01-04 06:11:46 · answer #8 · answered by ursNonlyUrs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave it alone.. he oviously realized that was a bad idea.. and we all struggle in relationships from time to time..
the trick is to overcome those times... and it sounds like he did that. Why make an issue when there isn't one?
2007-01-04 06:04:25 · answer #9 · answered by Mizhani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just found out .......from whom? And when did this person become such an expert on your relationship?
Let it be. If he had issues with you, he certainly wouldn't be proposing.
2007-01-04 06:07:06 · answer #10 · answered by lilrubberducky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋