you see my boyfirend thinks that everthing is cheating if he shes me talking to a boy he assumes that im wit him how can i make him trust me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-04 05:58:35 · 27 answers · asked by diamondprincess 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He obviously has some security issues, big time! Consider the following things:
1. Does he have any reason to? Are you getting "too close" to these guys? Did you cheat on him before? If so, then there is your problem. You have a LOT of work to do in order to gain his trust back, and you can start by behaving better.
2. If you never did any of these things, then maybe someone else cheated on him in the past? If so, then talk to him about it and explain to him that you are NOT his ex, and you would never do that. If that doesn't work, then move on to my next suggestion.
3. If he has insecurity issues or is overly-possessive, then he needs some help. Talk to him. Let him know you care. Try to talk him into getting some therapy. If he does not overcome these fears, then you two are never going to be happy.
4. If he refuses to do anything about the problem, then ditch him. He is not worth the trouble. You can do better. It is not worth trying to find happiness with someone who is paranoid, possessive, and overly-jealous.
Good luck!
2007-01-04 06:04:27 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make him trust you he has to change on his own, Just keep showing him that you are a good girlfriend. And let him know that him not trusting you could possible lead you to breaking up with him, cause why do you want to be with someone that dosen't trust you. Tell him to get the hell over it! I'm sure If you wanted to be with someone else you would , but your not you are with him! Did you ever cheat on him before, that might be why he's unsure, or if he was cheated on in past realtionships. If you love him, just be patience he'll come around if he loves you and you guys have an open and honest relationship - good luck Girl
2007-01-04 06:04:44 · answer #2 · answered by ~~*SexyCat*~~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him If he was talking to a girl would you need to expect him of cheating. Ask him if ur realtionship with him is going to work when he does not trust u. Relationships are built on comunication and if he will not talk to u about it it may not work.God Bless u. I hope u find the right answer.
2007-01-04 06:02:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him an offer: If he wants to know what it looks like when you are cheating, then you could try cheating, so he'll see. Ask him!
THe idea being for him to see that he is ruining an otherwise good relationship and that he needs to accept love where he finds it.
2007-01-04 06:07:56 · answer #4 · answered by charlie at the lake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, I don't know how old you all are, but it sounds like to me that he has trust issues, or is doing something behind your back. This is his problem and has nothing to do with you unless he is cheating. He will have to work this out on his own, there is really nothing you can do to MAKE him trust you. Just be yourself and be as honest as you can.
2007-01-04 06:02:51 · answer #5 · answered by swtt2sxy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweetie, didn't you know that you can never stop a jealous man from thinking that you are cheating???? You should really try watching the Lifetime Network, honestly. I had a fiance' that was the most jealous man in the world. If I went out to get the mail, I was seeing another man....crazy, huh? WANNA KNOW WHAT I DID???? I LEFT HIM!!!!!!!! Maybe you should too...and please don't say its too hard because I love him, because that is BULLSH*IT AND YOU KNOW IT! I fed myself that same bunch of sh*it too, but it started to taste bitter...do yourself a favor before he kills you and leave...I am sincerely not joking about the killing part either. My cousins husband was just as jealous and he swore she was cheating and beat her to death because of it. THEY NEVER STOP! SO PLEASE GO NOW!
2007-01-04 06:07:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend's paranoid psychosis will not abate no matter what you tell him. It would be nice of he could understand that you are not with any man you talk to except him. His false accusations are cheating the relationship of the harmony and joy it deserves. Thus, the responsibility lies with him.
2007-01-04 06:07:44 · answer #7 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it's time to ditch the overly jealous boyfriend and get one that you can trust. Boyfriends like this always seem to be on edge and insecure, that's why their normally so jealous.
It may be time to find one a little more 'mature'.
2007-01-04 06:01:46 · answer #8 · answered by Voice 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can't. He clearly has an issue. The only thing you can do is talk to him about it. Tell him how it makes you feel. And hope for the best. Good luck!
2007-01-04 06:01:16 · answer #9 · answered by onecrazypeach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't...your bf has issues. A shrink would be helpful in a case like this. Its called insecure and if he doesn't get over it he's going to lead a very unhappy and unhealthy life.
2007-01-04 06:02:14 · answer #10 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋