2007-01-04 05:55:36 · 19 answers · asked by Fruitful1 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I know how you feel, I tend to do this too. I do not intend to be rude but I think some people are rude by going on and on describing something (usually theirs)ad infinitem. Talking to me is for communicating not a social event. We can not talk as fast as we think so, I find conversation for conversations sake boring and want to move on to the next topic.
I am going to presume I am older than you and let me tell you from experience. If you don't want people to think you are rude and a boor, learn to shut up or do not engage in banter. I do not care to stand around with a glass of wine and make small talk, so I choose not to go these events if I can help it. Call me antisocial if you want. I find it pretentious and glib, but sometimes, in work for example you have to learn to shut up and listen with interest.
2007-01-04 08:01:40 · answer #1 · answered by kellring 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're on your way! At least you KNOW you do it.
Seriously, I know how tempting it can be sometimes when you just want to chime into a conversation. You just need to remain aware of your habit and do your best to NOT say anything until the other person has finished speaking.
If for some reason you can't help yourself, and you do cut them off, immediately say "I'm sorry I interrupted you. That was very rude of me. Please finish. You were talking about...(whatever they were saying." This will show that you at least know you were wrong and you were honestly listening to what they were saying to begin with before you got carried away.
2007-01-04 14:13:10 · answer #2 · answered by sylvia 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband sometimes does that.
I say, "I think Glen was about to say something, Honey." :-)
Then he stops and lets the other person speak.
SO
I think it would be good if you had a good friend and/or spouse hold you accountable...... someone you trust.
That way, if you do cut people off and you don't realize it, they could give you the "sign" :-) -- Whatever that may be.
Tell them your struggle and what you would like them to pay attention to. Do NOT pick someone who will be TOOOOOO picky and get crazy with the thing.
You may need someone at home and someone at work.
I am sure in most cases you don't mean it........... you just have a lot to say!! LOL :-)
2007-01-04 14:40:19 · answer #3 · answered by Nici 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you find a really good answer let me know. My husband does the same thing. I have tried everything from telling him he does it to just shutting up when he is talking. When he asks why I'm not talking I tell him that he won't let me say anything. I have even tried walking out of the room. Nothing works. It is very annoying to the person you are trying to talk to. I wish you luck in finding a solution.
2007-01-04 14:03:21 · answer #4 · answered by Donna 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Remember that they may not say exactly what you think they are going to and that it is respectful to let people have their say. I myself have a hard time not "getting the last word", but when I remember that others may want this privilege I am increasing the number of friends I have.
2007-01-04 14:12:16 · answer #5 · answered by NightBear01 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
engage yourself in the conversation. bite your life. It takes a lot of practice. I know that people can really get annoyed when they are interrupted. I know I most certainatly do. Just keep in your mind what you would like to say, and wait until the end to let it out. It will improve your social skills, and make you much more easier to have a conversation with.
2007-01-04 14:00:12 · answer #6 · answered by Kristi H 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
When you are listening to the person, try not to always be thinking about how you are going to respond. We can often tell how the person will finish, but not always.
2007-01-04 14:40:56 · answer #7 · answered by drshorty 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u realized that uve inturrupted them say ohh excuse me..please continue. its just plain rude to cut off people unless they are insulting u!
2007-01-04 20:15:32 · answer #8 · answered by thatCHICK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when someone is talking,bite your tongue,and look the person in the eye,and listen to each word he /she says,when its finished,release your tongue,then you can make any comments.i do that often,so i don't say any comment that might offend the person.
2007-01-04 15:20:41 · answer #9 · answered by dra shelley 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1)learn not to jump into conclusions before they finished speaking
2)try not to judge others, or start an argument
3)practice not to highlight your opinions, until they finished speaking
2007-01-04 14:11:52 · answer #10 · answered by sista! 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋