how do i make my 16 month old son listen?

Question

I knwo that children at this age dont really listen to well. He is very advanced for his ago and gets into more "trouble i guess". I am not the best at disapling him, and every time i do i feel awful, i hate hearing him cry, it kills me. My husband is better with it. But n matter what we do he still insists on doing these things. He will even make sure we are watching him when he does. Is it for attention? I am a stay at home mom and am also 5 months preg, and my emotions maybe a bit worse cause that, lol, but i really dont knwo what to do. He is just very hard to keep in lie, from things we have said NOT to do, i am scared for the "terrible twos" if hes liek this already, lol. Then i feel like a horrible mother because i get so fustrated with him, and feel even worse any time i disaplin him, if i smack his hand he will try an smack me back. as far as i knwo alot of young children do things like this......i hope... :) if i could please get any advice that would be great, thank you

Answer 1

When he is making sure you are watching it is strictly for attention. I was in the same boat, my kids are 19 months apart (now 3 and 4). My daughter did a lot of stuff like that when I was pregnant. I had to sit down with her and tell her that mommy was having a new baby and to be careful with mommy because it might hurt the baby, she was fine with that. Your son probably feels a little left out, he is unsure of what is going on, like you said he is old enough to understand, but doesn't know what exactly is going on. As for the acting out, you should tell him when he misbehaves not to do that and if he does it again either swat him on the bottom or put him into time out, whichever works better for him and you. My kids just laugh when I swat their butts, so I had to start with time out and that seems to be working a little better. The little one sees his sister go into the corner and heads there himself and starts laughing and playing that he's in the corner too. So Good Luck with everything, I hope some of this info helped. If you ever need some more advice feel free to e-mail me, I might be able to help there too! once again Good Luck!

Answer 2

I am in the same boat. Except I am the disciplinaran. My hubby is the easy one. I am 33 weeks pregnant and waddling behind my son constintly. He is advanced too(I think that they a bigger trouble makers). He will try to hit back too. It just gets another no,with him shaking his head going no-no? no-no? This seems to fustrate me even more. I am always crying because he tips my over the edge. Byu the way pleading doesn't work, as much as I wish it would. I guess we just have to live through it, and hope the terrble twos are so bad. I am sorry I really don't have any advice except let the tears out when they come, it does make things feel a little better.

Answer 3

I feel your pain, sister ! My 20-m.o. boy is the same. Just try to be patient... (think deep breaths), and you are right, a lot of their misbehaving is a cry for attention. So, when he is into trouble, instead of yelling, give him a HUGE hug and distract him with another activity. Get down at his level and let him know you are into him. Try to get him to look you in the eye when you do say "no". It is a stage though, and like all others, it will pass. Good luck, I am sure this seems overwhelming why you are awaiting #2 !!

Answer 4

That's when my dad would swat me in the butt.
A good STERN voice and a swat, it gets their attention.

My brother had a biting problem, and the daycare lady didn't know what to do, so my mom came home from work earily after my brother bit some kid, my mom got there, and turned around and bit my brother back. He didn't have that problem again.


But loud sudden noises work too.

Answer 5

I use to take my child's chin in my hands and say , please look at me when I am talking to you , be very serious , you need a time out chair , pick the same place to put it , if you put the child in it and the child gets out , keep putting the child in it , NEVER give in first , the child will tired and give in , after doing this for a while , and the child sees you will not give in , you will see a difference in the child , but you have got to be strong , and not give in . Good Luck !!!

Answer 6

tell him NO sternly and get rid of him from table/bathroom. the bathing room door would desire to continually be closed besides, he would desire to fall interior the bathroom and drown. i began out discipling my daughter probable around 9 months or youthful. She could chew me whilst i grew to become into breastfeeding, permit me inform you a toothless mouth surely hurts extra then one crammed with teeth. i could tell her No, if she did it lower back i could get rid of her from the breast. sometime later i began out giving her time outs, which extremely consisted of refusing eye touch together with her. She hated that and promptly replaced her habit, confident she could cry and throw a tantrum yet as quickly as her minute grew to become into up i could seem her interior the attention, tell her what she did incorrect and then we might merely pass on, nurse, play or merely supply her a stable cuddle. tell your son no! the bathroom is caca.you won't be in a position to play with it. No mountaineering on the table you will get a booboo. he's needs to play and come across, in case you won't be in a position to distract him from it then why do no longer you attempt to help him? build an impediment direction with pillows, permit him play interior the sink or bath with some new toys. once you do would desire to punish him positioned him in his playpen, take a seat interior of sight along with your back to him for a minute. while his day holiday is finished clarify what he did to deserve punishment and bypass on along with your day. additionally try your superb to have him restore his very own blunders. At a million y/o' Jade could draw on the partitions and that i could make her help me sparkling it(in uncomplicated terms purchase washing device-friendly crayons! it's going to shop you the headache of re-portray). My mom surely reported i grew to become into being imply yet my sister who's teenagers would be slightly loopy thinks i'm a great mom and has asked me for suggestions. LOL i'm 25 with a 2 y/o, she's 31 with a 4 and 6 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous.

Answer 7

try ignoring the bad behavior (unless what he is doing is potentially dangerous) but assuming what he is doing is just annoying ignore it and find something else to occupy him. the best discipline is to "catch" him doing something good and praise him so that he isn't looking for negative attention all the time.

Answer 8

You go and pick a switch/limb and spat that little butt! He's old enough.