I have feelings for my best friend, I have been best friends with this person for 7 months and this person knows how i feel they are strong feelings. This person likes me to but wont be with me because this person is real good friends with my mom and this person would hate to sneek around behind my mom's back because that person is friends with her. Age is another reason because that person is 24.... My friend is a girl ive never liked a girl before intill i meet her
2007-01-04 05:31:31 · 22 answers · asked by hotblondegirl29 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She wants to wait to years but i dont know if i can because thats along long time but i really do care about her though
2007-01-04 06:17:20 · update #1
I think you're a lesbian
2007-01-04 05:33:52 · answer #1 · answered by Joe 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are caught between a rock and a hard place. I know it is hard since, she is your mom's friend, and I understand she doesn't want to sneak around. How much of a gap is there between the two of you? Maybe that is another deciding factor she has... I don't see any reason why you can't get together with out your mom knowing, but then you would betray her and hurt her even more. Does your mom know that you may be a lesbian, or bi? And is your friend a lesbian too, or is she just atracted to you?
My advice, although is though, would be to let her be. Its not worth wrecking your friendship with her, and her friendship with your mom, and your relationship with your mom. Unless your mom is understanding enough for you to talk to her about it.
Good luck and keep us posted.
2007-01-04 05:40:09 · answer #2 · answered by Manda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't have much of a sex life when I was a teenager. I only had one erection. It lasted from when I was 12 til I was 35.
Seriously, when I was about 14 I was so in love/lust with my neighbor, 35, married, 2 kids, sweet, nice. I just had to have her. Well, I think I'm glad that I never asked. I'm sure she knew. And I'm sure she did the right thing. by "not" noticing.
Your age is one of being totally overwhelmed with sexual feelings. I don't like to say resist them, but maybe they could be channelled into something that's not destructive. Perhaps the woman could talk to you about having feelings and not acting on them
Like when you want to kill somebody, most of us don't. When you want to have sex, most of us don't rape them. When you want to stay in a relationship with someone that wants out, we have to let them go, or we end up in places like prison.
I would try not to be concerned wtih the lesbian issue. It's going to be ok no matter what happens.
Watch a cat or dog in heat, see how totally focused they are on the one issue at all costs. There's a lot to be said about being here now, but there are times it just doesn't work.
2007-01-04 05:53:12 · answer #3 · answered by charlie at the lake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are so i am assuming you are a teenager. First off let me say there is nothing wrong with you, many teenagers have 'crushes' on friends of the same sex this does not make you a lesbian.
The only advice i can offer is either keep quiet and keep the friendship as it is or if the feelings are to strong to ignore find someone neutral you trust like a favourite aunt and talk to them.
2007-01-04 05:49:39 · answer #4 · answered by Carol 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look, if she likes you then you should go for it... if it doesnt work out then it doesnt matter... theres more than one person out there for everyone.... if you dont try you will never know and you may regret it later in life... plus, things might actually work out... i would suggest sitting down and talking with her about it... go out for the night or pop to her house... just remember that the last thing you want is an argument so whatever happens keep your cool... if she gets offended then leave her alone for a bit and talk to her again later... but remember... if she says no then dont pester her about it... you will loose her as a friend too and im sure thats not what you want....on the subject of your mother, well theres not much too say... if she dissaproves then thats her problem, but she shouldnt get in the way of your happyness.. remember that... like i said before, you dont know unless you try... and on that note, good luck
2007-01-04 05:40:39 · answer #5 · answered by natalia121 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very dangerous. You are so young and have so many emotions and hormones running around inside of you. Your mom's friend is a grown woman who is well aware that you are very young and naive about "relationships". She is what is called a pedaphile. No adult woman is attracted to a young girl unless she is a pedaphile. You should make sure that you really like girls first before moving forward in this direction. Young girls do experiment but still end up finding out boys are better. Make sure before you dig this hole deeper than it already is. Thank you and good luck.
2007-01-04 05:38:54 · answer #6 · answered by cookie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with the feelings that you are having towards your friend they are completely natural. although it might not be what you want if your friend doesnt want that type of relationship with you then you should respect that and cherish the freindship that you have with her. If you think that your gay or bisexualthen you need to sort it out in your head honey before acting upon it as you dont want to get hurt or regret anything that you may do i hope this helps good luck
2007-01-04 05:42:50 · answer #7 · answered by samantha l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, this is very interesting. Firstly, you don't say how old you are, but I'm going to hazard a guess at between 15 and 17, am I close?
Secondly, I am going to guess that this friend is already gay.
Thirdly, I am going to guess that you think that is she really pretty and cool, and just how you would want to be?
If I am right in all three of these, you are not gay, but just have a bit of a crush on her(this wouyld apply even if she wasn't gay too) It's normal and something alot of teenage girls experience. I would have to say I'm impressed with her for not taking advantage of you and your feelings, but rest assured, cool as she may be, and as much as you love talking to her, she is not for you.
2007-01-04 05:38:43 · answer #8 · answered by CHARISMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just dont rush anything, enjoy how you feel around her. Take your time on things, if it's meant to go somewhere, it'll come natually. The feelings you have now when you're together feels really good i bet, soak it up and just go with the flow. Good luck, i hope it all works out for you!
2007-01-04 05:36:30 · answer #9 · answered by Shelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are best friends with one of your Mom's freinds? There are so many reasons why this is not going to work. You mention age so you must be much younger. Jeez..... don't mess up your life with this infatuation because that is what it is and there can be trouble on so many levels.
2007-01-04 05:39:46 · answer #10 · answered by jackson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, this will cause so many problems. are you setting out to cause yourself some trouble. if you are attracted to her, then hold onto that, don't act on it. this will cause so much back lash that who, know, but you might find out. cause it sounds like you already want to do this forbidden thing, all you have to do is act on it and she'll not tell you no. she wants you then you two need to go for it, but remember all the ramifacations that will follow, and your mom will be there when its over good luck
2007-01-04 05:38:40 · answer #11 · answered by sweetgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋