i live in the uk and i feel the age of when men were gentleman is dissappearing u still find a few from the old school but the majority r yobs and swear in front of women and treat women with no respect do u agree ??
2007-01-04 05:30:06 · 12 answers · asked by johnny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh pardon me m'lady for taking your time to read my humble answer, but i believe there are still some gentlemen out there. if its not so bold to ask, but is madame looking in the right places?
2007-01-04 05:34:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Simply put, men avoid doing that kind of "gentlemenly respect" for good reason.
If you don't have a combination of facial features that looks aggressive, women will often think "this guy has strong genes and is risky, fun (and, moreover, good to get pregnant from due to strong genes) but this man is also likely to cheat, fight (like you said, use obcenities in front of women), and be a bad parent. In other words, the "aggressive looking guy" is seen as bad for a long-term relations, but good for short ones and planting the genes to produce children.
Which, in turn, implies that MANY women are out to get married to "good long-term parents", but cheat on them to get healthier babies from the more aggressive looking males. And most men with self-respect, you guessed it, would do almost anything to avoid being the weak guy who gets cheated on. So, even if they have unaggressive looking facial features, they make a point of not showing the actions that go with them to avoid being the losers who get cheated on.
It may sound a bit drastic at first but look at this article straight from Yahoo!:
http://news.yahoo.com/s/livescience/20070102/sc_livescience/howwomenpickmatesvsflings
Is there a happy medium? I believe so. First you have to let the woman know (for the first few months at least) you are the competitive/aggressive type and you can get what you want (and get other women) and, then, turn around and, rather than completely be an aggressive type (cheat on her, start fights, etc.) be a gentlemen and don't do those thing but, when she tries to make you give more to her when she does to you, snap back and remind her you can be the boss, but just choose not to (IE it's not your "weak genes" that "force" you to do it).
Good luck, don't be a nice guy (unaggressive), don't be a jerk (pointlessly aggressive), be a good guy (in control: caring but and won't take crap)
Good luck!
2007-01-04 06:08:59 · answer #2 · answered by M S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of yobs out there, but equally still a lot of nice guys too. There's nothing wrong with a guy who treats a woman with respect; I like it.
2007-01-04 06:59:39 · answer #3 · answered by F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if it's the majority. I know and work with quite a few young people and almost all of them are very pleasant.
I think the problem is that the foul mouthed few are loud mouthed as well. If you hear one person loudly cussing in the street, that's the one you notice rather than the twenty likeable ones gently minding their own business.
And it's not only the men, I hear young women doing it as well.
It is horrible though, to hear swearing in public places.
2007-01-04 06:06:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I agree. But, times are changing and mothers are taking more of a role in raising the boys to respect women.
2007-01-04 05:33:26 · answer #5 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i agree. i'm sick of skanks and yobs ruining this country.
its a total and selfish lack of respect!!!
i've been told by girls that i am rare and i fully intend on passing this quality on to any kids i may have in the future. it will not disappear completely!
2007-01-04 05:39:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes, most certainly young man,
In my day they would have washed there mouth's out with soap!
I would not have dared swear at my parents or any one else for that matter.
Is this what they call the 21s century then because i don't for one,
more like the dark ages to me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-04 05:38:25 · answer #7 · answered by arthur3home 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
birds of the same feather flock together. if they swear in front of these women then i guess the women dont mind. they obviously enjoy it. but i see where u r coming from.
2007-01-04 05:32:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes I do but am glad there are still a few out there like you who are not like that.
2007-01-04 05:34:31 · answer #9 · answered by sweetlaughter434 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women don't receive respect from men because they would prefer to be treated like crap. We are only catering to their needs when we mistreat them.
2007-01-04 05:33:15 · answer #10 · answered by Evan 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋