I can't leave the room with out him screaming. It is hard for me to do the day to day things that need to be done. I would love to know how to phase him out of this
2007-01-04 05:26:43 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Even if he does scream when you leave the room, do not go back! If you do, then you are only reinforcing his behaviour. Also, you may notice that his screaming seems to increase if you ignore him. Do not give in. This is also normal. It could get worse before it gets better.
Also, be sure to give your child alot of praise when he behaves the way you expect. For instance, if you do leave a room and he does not scream then give him lots of attention and tell him how pleased you are. Your child could be looking for your attention. So just make sure you are giving him attention for positive behaviour as opposed to the negative behaviour (i.e., screaming).
With respect to attention in general, try to interact with your child in a positive manner. But also keep boundaries. He needs to learn to understand that he gets time with you, but that you also need time for other things.
2007-01-04 05:39:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gradually leave him. What I mean by that is hire a baby sitter to watch him for five minutes as you just go out for five minutes. Then the next day increase to time. The point is to work up to something like 5 hours or however long you think will be the longest time you will be away from him. It's going to take some time but you have to be diligent. Always reassure him that you will come back and when you do tell him "See, mommy came back just like I promised." Good luck, this is very tough to go through but YOU CAN DO IT!
2007-01-04 13:37:52 · answer #2 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start by telling your son that you will be right back. Walk right out of the room and re-enter just as quickly. Keep doing this and extend the time out of the room a little each time. Your child needs to learn that you will return. Be consistent. You can continue to talk to your child to let him know you are just around the corner.
2007-01-04 13:34:13 · answer #3 · answered by mel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know from experience how hard this is. But you have to let him cry. You have to walk away. Over time he will realize that you are going to come back and it will be easier on you both. But you have to be consistant. Don't coming running back and pick him up once and then ignore him the next time. You have things to do around the house and it is harder to do them with a kid on your hip. He will adjust. If you don't fix this, it will get worse.
2007-01-04 13:32:21 · answer #4 · answered by BooBoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try using your baby monitor. I used that for my son and showed him how I would hear him if he needed me. I worked within 3 days.
2007-01-04 13:35:59 · answer #5 · answered by Jo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My God, He's 14 years old, tell him to deal with it...
2007-01-04 13:36:53 · answer #6 · answered by sm177y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is this a trick questions
2007-01-04 13:41:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋