A guy asked me out and dated me. I fell in love with him. He broke it off because he said he wasn't in love with me. He said he views me as a friend but not his future wife. He said he is physically attracted to me and we have great sex together but he still thinks of me as a friend. Despite having great sex, lots of fun together, sharing similar interests he still says he doesn't feel a romantic spark or connection with me/that he is not in love with me. I don't understand how he could just view me as a friend when he is physically attracted to me, we have great sex and share similar interests. Can a guy still view a female as just a friend even when he finds her physically attractive and has sex with her? Could he ever change his mind about me? Is there anything I can do to create a romantic spark or connection with him or is it out of my control no matter what I do? I've always had a problem maintaining eye contact from nervousness. Could this decrease romantic spark?
2007-01-04 05:23:48 · 6 answers · asked by Citygirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He was using you for sex and you let him. He doesn't consider you as wife-material because you were sleeping with him without a commitment or engagement or marriage. There's nothing you can do- he doesn't think you're good enough to be his wife, but he's ok having sex with you because you let him. A lot of men find strippers, for example, physically attractive but that doesn't mean they want to marry them.
2007-01-04 05:28:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you need to do is cut the sex off. I know you are in love with him, but if he doesn't love you, he is just getting what he can from you.
You can continue the friendship, but start looking for someone else to date. With no sex and seeing you are moving on, it may or may not spark alittle interest and jealousy there. Who know's .
2007-01-04 05:29:48 · answer #2 · answered by MES 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one is attracted to a person with no confidence. If you want him to start noticing you as something more that a friend with benefits. Then stop having sex with him. Start dating other people and become less available to him. His tune will change.
Before you embark on this endeavor. Get some confidence in yourself.
2007-01-04 05:31:14 · answer #3 · answered by ricepat2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think this guy really likes you and you don't even need to waste your time on him. the only reason he is going to your house is to get a free round, but don't let him take that from you anymore because it won't bring you happiness.
2007-01-04 05:28:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just find somebody else i think the guys a jerk and played you so move on
2007-01-04 06:13:17 · answer #5 · answered by Jay-C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's a jerk
2007-01-04 05:25:27 · answer #6 · answered by Joe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋