yesterday i was with him and he was going throught a door and i sayed ladies frist and he started to push me to try and get me throught the door and i sayed i didn't want to so he grab and squeezed my arm as he could. so would you dump him. my arm is still in pain.
2007-01-04 05:19:29 · 31 answers · asked by angle f 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dumped him and he blamed it on my parents.
2007-01-05 03:49:24 · update #1
There is no such thing as "A Little Violent". If you are starting to get to know this person and he is acting that way. Do not walk, Run from a relationship like that. One thing is for you two to be playing around sometimes it can get a bit rough but the way you said it, it is a warning sign. He maybe a wonderful man, who treats you like a queen but no one should tolerate any type of violance. Physical Abuse can be forgotten when the pain ends but it should not be tolerated. The same goes for Emotional Abuse that is worst than any physical abuse because it slowly destroys the self-esteem.
You sound like a smart lady and deserve to be treated with respect. Do not get involved with someone who treats you like that. Good Luck.
2007-01-04 05:31:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES YES YES!!! I stayed with the guy I was dating who was like this... I married him, had three children with him... then I had to divorce him!!! It has been 13 years since I was where you are and he still makes my life a living hell. He's still controlling and violent and abusive. It just got worse as he got older. It starts slowly with little warning signs... then before you know it you are sucked in. Girl... listen to that warning you are feeling... your mind and heart knows that you are worth more than that. You deserve to be somebody's princess don't you? Isn't that what ou dreamed of since you were a little girl? Never settle. I have my prince now, but has been a VERY painful journey here and I still cannot get that man out of my life because I have kids with him. Run baby...run!
2007-01-04 13:27:00 · answer #2 · answered by surgicalmommy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how long you've been with him for, but I know from experience, the longer you've been with someone violent/abusive, the harder it is to leave them. I think you should get out while you can, and if you are affraid of what he'l be like when you do break up with him, make sure you have someone near by that know's about it so they can interfere or call for help if he get's violent. Good Luck.
2007-01-04 13:25:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as being a little violent. What you experienced was the start of more severe violence to come. Dump him and dump him now.
2007-01-04 13:29:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No man should treat a woman like that, I am totally against men hurting/hitting women. It depends how long you have been with him - has he done anything like this before? If the relationship is new I do not know if I would hang around to find out.
2007-01-04 13:23:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would dump him. There is no such thing as an acceptable level of violence. Don't fall for the I'm so sorry, it'll never happen again routine either. It always happens again.
2007-01-04 13:22:17 · answer #6 · answered by Firespider 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sayed???????
Anyway, a little violence leads to more and it only becomes more aggressive. It starts out in a playful manner, and even though you are joking around, a part of him really wants to hurt you. He feels if he does it in a teasing way, he can get away with it. However, it will escalate, and if he drinks, it will get even worse. Speaking from experience here.
2007-01-04 13:24:55 · answer #7 · answered by Starlight 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, that was absolutely stupid. No matter how angry l was at my ex-girlfriend, was still ladies first. sometimes l go in first but l held the door open for her too.
Well, this was a stupid from his side , but since love is blind, talk to him over and tell him if it happens again , you will live. This was a stupid action . Well, all the best.:)
2007-01-04 13:31:06 · answer #8 · answered by when_the_go 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if the strong-arm you once, they'll strong arm you again. These types are very insecure and control freaks. You're playing with a time-bomb......dump him fast!
2007-01-04 13:22:57 · answer #9 · answered by bfwh218 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get real
you must lick his feet and grovel on your knees. You do not need respect, lowly woman.
Very soon then you will fine the rapture, recovering from hospital.
You went to school
dump him
2007-01-04 13:28:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋