In your opinion, is it important to find out if you and your gf/bf are sexually compatible before committing to marriage? Or, would you rather wait and see how it goes after marriage
2007-01-04 05:15:39 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
find out 1st
2007-01-04 05:16:56 · answer #1 · answered by Joe 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
don't be deceived by worldly standards.
True human sexual fulfillment is a lifelong process. The world would like us to believe that human sexuality is simply an orgasm and momentary gratification. Not true. Sex is like a garden with a high variety of flowers and plants. Are you going to be content with picking one flower, or do you want the whole garden?
Two committed sexual partners, just as in the case of a garden, need to work to become sexually fulfilled in order to obtain derirable results. Sexual compatibility is a meaningless term. As long as you and your partner of functioning parts, you are sexually compatible. Varying degrees of sex drives is a minor concern. The real issue is not at the beginning stages of a relationship or marriage. The true test of sexual fulfillment comes several years down the road, when sexual exclusivity has lost its newness and excitement.
Statistically, couples who wait to have sex until after marriage are less likely to divorce than those who have sex before marriage. Furthermore, there is more likely to be infidelity in marriages where couples had sex before marriage.
2007-01-04 13:28:55 · answer #2 · answered by Jack C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sexual compatibility doesn't exist! Its a matter of learning and exploring together. No one talked about this before the big sexual explosion of the 60-70's where people started getting into all sorts of freaky stuff. If you are both inexperienced there is no compatability issue.
Honestly every person you sleep with you form a bond of sorts with...you feel a new connection to them. It wasn't created to be something you just do with anyone.
Living together is a TERRIBLE idea. Statistics show that couples that live together first have an even higher divorce rate than those that don't!!
2007-01-04 13:28:23 · answer #3 · answered by Trevor 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to be more concerned whether or not you are mentally compatable. The sex part is easy. There are major factors you need to consider before you decide to marry someone. I have found that if you truely don't love someone then it doesn't matter how good the sex is because it will never be great. Sex has a lot to do with feelings and what's in your heart. You need to remember that. Wait until marriage before having sex. Thank you and GOD bless.
2007-01-04 13:20:15 · answer #4 · answered by cookie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait after marriage
2007-01-04 13:21:57 · answer #5 · answered by Thaleia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your sexual compatibility will more than likely be a result of how successful your relationship is on its own, so you should wait. Sexual "problems" can be more easily fixed when you have a good relationship.
2007-01-04 13:20:19 · answer #6 · answered by calyme78 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Me and my husband have nothing in common. Do you like the same things. Do you make her laugh. It is hard to say about marriage Just do what your gut tells you to do and have along talk with your girl. Good luck.
2007-01-04 13:20:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're marrying primarily for the sexual benefits and don't have any moral misgivings about fornication, then testing your partners sexual compatibility first may help you to avoid disappointment later on.
2007-01-04 13:23:11 · answer #8 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a question only you and your partner can answer.You two need to decide if you feel if it is important or not. As far as worried about satisfying one another, there are several ways for you to do that, and if you two really truly love each other, then everything will be fine. good luck.
2007-01-04 13:19:01 · answer #9 · answered by lynda 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Very important, critical even! I wouldn't marry a guy until I had sex with him--more than once. Sex is very important in a relationship and if you are not compatible, it will be difficult to maintain intimacy.
Have you heard of this saying?
"If the sex is good, it's not too important in a relationship. If it's bad, it's everything."
It's true, bad sex or no sex tends to affect everything else.
2007-01-04 13:19:16 · answer #10 · answered by schweetums 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think it is very important to find out before marriage....good luck
2007-01-04 13:18:07 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋