Situation: a little boy was molested by his father. early on, say age 8, the boy showed disturbing signs of molestation by acting out with others his age and his problem was ignored(no counseling). ok at age 16 this boy molested a little girl which landed him in prison. Knowing his situation that he was molested himself, do you feel after doing his time in prison that he is able to face the world again? Do you believe he deserve a 2nd chance in life being that he was so young and never got prior help for his own molestation?
2007-01-04 05:03:27 · 24 answers · asked by Jazzy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
EVERYBODY deserves a second chance why shouldn't he? We have all done things that we were not proud of. Maybe we didn't molest no one but there is no one sin bigger than the other. I wish him all the luck in the world. I know a couple of people that were raped and they have forgiven the people that done it to them. He have to forgive the first person who did it to him>So he can forgive himself and then ask the girl he done it to for forgiveness as well
2007-01-04 05:10:35 · answer #1 · answered by luckycharm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very sad situation. Yes, I think he can face the world again with counseling. Of course he should have received some at the time he was being molested but that's neither here nor there now. Can't change the past but counseling will help him with the present and the future. I believe he deserves a second chance. I wish him all the best and may God Bless him and you too.
2007-01-04 05:53:23 · answer #2 · answered by ctsnowmiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was a victim too and so probably didn't know any better. Now it sucks that he had to learn this the hard way, but l am a firm believer that everyone deserves a second chance. And he can still get counseling to help him deal with what's happened a long time ago. He does need to get some help though or he might do it again.
It's a sad story you're telling, l feel bad for the little boy inside of him.
2007-01-04 05:06:36 · answer #3 · answered by amarilysusa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are any number of victims of molestation that do not perpetuate their situation onto another generation. He knew he had a problem. He knew what happened to him. He could have sought help. He made the choice. No second chance. He should receive counseling. He should do time. He should be registered as a sex offender. Think I'm heartless then just consider the little girl whose life he changed forever. He might end up changing your life forever as well.
2007-01-04 06:25:31 · answer #4 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, first of all everyone deserves a second chance! Second, if you are even considering being around this guy (that's the way it sounds) you should be very careful. not saying he is a horrible person, but you never know. I would say something about counseling, to deal with the past issues. If you have children I certainly would NOT let him be around them. He has to prove himself worthy of respect from others to be a NICE guy in my book. Third and final, the saying always goes- If you do it once, you are more likely to do it again!
2007-01-04 05:46:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is this boy a relative or boyfriend? If this person is a family member I would say he deserves a second chance to have your support (with alot of counseling), but he does not deserve trust. If this person is not a relative I would tell you to NEVER involve yourself with this person any more. How would you feel if the next person to be abused is your child?? Would you be willing to forgive this person and give them a second chance if they sexually abused your child??
Children only get one chance to grow up, sexually abused children dont get second chances to have an innocent life!!
This is the advice of a sexually molested child, and a devoted mother of five. I never forgot the painful memories even after all of these years.
2007-01-04 05:25:59 · answer #6 · answered by saragiguere 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think he would need extensive counseling to even have a chance to fit in the the world again. Given his age id say there is a chance, but Id be leery of him for a long long time.
2007-01-04 05:06:07 · answer #7 · answered by kaisergirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How sad that he didn't get help when he first showed signs of this behavior. Under most circumstances, I'm all for second chances, but not when it comes to this. This kind of behavior is so ingrained that it never can be "cured." The best he can hope for is counseling & meds for the rest of his life to insure he doesn't repeat such acts.
2007-01-04 06:26:41 · answer #8 · answered by harlowtoo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to have counseling. I do not feel that he will be ready to come out into the world until he faces what made him to the things he's done. He may come out and do the same thing again.
2007-01-04 05:12:29 · answer #9 · answered by red1967 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two wrongs don't make it RIGHT. If he molested a child and was sent to prison you can bet your last dollar he was taken care of by the inmates. If he is still in jail he is still being taken care of by the inmates.
2007-01-04 05:16:23 · answer #10 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋