I meaning I don't see the reason someone having a kid so early? Is this the 1800s? Do you live on a farm? Hate being carefree and enjoying life on your own accord? Loner so you need someone to give you unconditional love? Not trying to knock anyone :)
2007-01-04 04:59:42 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
"Not trying to knock anyone:)" Did you actually read your question and realize how extremely rude it was? I guess not.
I am a "teen" mother. I don't think of myself any differently then a typical suburban mom. I take my kids (one of which is my cousin who has lived with us for the past two years) on trips, to school, and do everything a normal house wife/stay at home mother does. I really enjoy it. I've always wanted to be a mother.
My *husband and I have been together for five years--four when had our son. I have lived a great life. I have seen more of the world then most Americans. I have had more experience in life then the majority of people my age. I'm lucky that I've done so much of the things most people don't even get the chance to do. I'm lucky to have seen and done the things that I have.
I was carefree and enjoying life to my own accord and yes, I hated it. I love having responsibility. I love having something to wake up for every morning. No, I do not live on a farm. No, it's not the 1800s. No, I'm not a "loner" who needs someone to give me conditional love. I'm actually a lot of fun.
I feel I made the right choice having my kids. I feel I made the right choice giving my "freedom" up in order to provide for others. I'm a giver--I always have been.
I was emancipated and graduated from HS at 16. I went to college to pursue a certificate in phlebotomy. I then continued to get a degree in Early Childhood Education. I worked hard for what I got. I've (legally in Germany) been to bars--I hated it. I've (legally) partied all night long--and hated it. That "carefree" lifestyle is not for me. Perhaps it was for you. Obviously being a parent and the lifestyle that entails isn't for you. That's just fine.
You were being very rude. I'm sorry but I would never "knock" on anyone else's lifestyle no matter how silly it seems to me. If it doesn't concern YOU then why do you even care?
2007-01-04 06:23:25 · answer #1 · answered by .vato. 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Biologically, early and mid 20s is the "best" time since there are the fewest risks of complications and women are at the peak of fertility. But in today's society, it seems that the late 20s and early 30s are the best time, because people are staying in school longer (going to college and often earning more than just a 4-year degree too) and getting their careers in place first before having kids. It used to be that you could get a job right out of high school and support a family, but it's not like that anymore, and you really need a college degree to make enough money. Late 20s and early 30s is late enough to where you can get those things accomplished, but still early enough to where you don't really need to worry about infertility or complications. Fertility may start to decline slightly at 30, but it usually doesn't start going down a lot until 35. Risks of complications also go up slightly at 35, and by age 40 you'd definitely be considered a high-risk pregnancy. I have known several women who had perfectly healthy pregnancies and babies in their late 30s, but I wouldn't have kids anywhere past that point.
2016-05-23 02:54:42 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe some people aren't interested in puking in alleys, stripping on a bar or having sex with strangers. I always wanted a family when I was young. I got a good job and my husband and I are completely comfortable and I am extremely glad I had my first when I was 20 and will have my second at 22. I see my friends...hung over, car payments late because they blow all the money at bars, they're mostly single and "dating" (or sleeping around basicly) and to me it's a sad life. I would rather go home every night to my daughter and husband and soon my second daughter. It's the best life in the world to me and I don't think I am missing anything. But I was raised with my family around me and being taught nothing is more important that family, and it isn't.
Maybe some people mature faster than others and don't need an extra 5 years to grow up!
2007-01-04 06:58:01 · answer #3 · answered by angie_laffin927 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok so the problem here is that you are uneducated and ignorant and that's fine. Some people are. You are obviously jealous of something and have this strong opinion about it and that is fine too. Everyone's entitled. Anyway, I had my first at 22, second at 25 and am not having my third at 27. I don't feel as though I missed out on ANYTHING and actually like that I will be done before the age of 30. My friends who are having children at 35 are exhausted and can't keep up with me. There is nothing wrong with wanting to start a family early. It's actually healthier for your body than starting later. So read up and know the facts before you post something so inconsiderate next time.
2007-01-04 05:23:12 · answer #4 · answered by 2boyzandagrl 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not, some of us don't like the carefree lifestyle. Some of us even like being parents. I had kids at 18 and 19. So? What am I missing out on? Oh wait, there's getting drunk, sleeping around and smoking pot. Now really, what is there to miss about doing those things? I don't like to travel so there's another thing I'm not missing out on. College? I have some college. I'll be finished with my degree by the time my kids start school. Different people want different things out of life.
2007-01-04 05:17:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I had 3 kids my 22. My husband and I were ok with that. We didn't want to party, act like idiots through our 20's, do drugs, sleep around, etc. Why be stupid if you can just skip that part? Our first pregnancy was 17. We married, he went military (he was 18), baby was born, I finished school. Yes life was hard the first few years, but between his job and both of our good money sense, we did just fine. We didn't plan that kind of life, but it worked for us. Now in our later 20's, we are debt free, married almost 10 years, and still very happy with each other and the choices we've made. We can both say we are married to our only sexual partner.
Why do people have to be 30 to have a brain? Stupid choices aren't just for the young. I know plenty 30 year olds that still can't hold a job for a year, much less be ready for marriage and parenthood. My husband and I consider ourselves very blessed. And we'll be 36/37 when our kids start to graduate. Yipee!!!
2007-01-04 05:13:19 · answer #6 · answered by Velken 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I was 21 when I had my first, 26 with my 2nd and now 28 expecting my 3rd. I am glad I didn't wait to have kids, because I have to energy now to deal with little ones. I had a full and happy life before kids and a much more fuller and happier life now that they are here.
To answer all your question, I live in the city, I partied hard and got over it. I was never a loner and had plenty of love before kids and now I have a whole lot more from my kids and hubby.
2007-01-04 05:07:33 · answer #7 · answered by sunflowerlizard 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had my son when I was 19. I just wanted to have a child younger. I am not a carefree person. I was pretty much doing nothing with my life. I got married when I was 18 though. And I got pregnant with my son 2 months later. :)
2007-01-04 05:48:41 · answer #8 · answered by ~*Isabel*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally don't have a problem with people having children no matter what age they are, as long as they show their child unconditional love and care for them properly and always make sure the kid comes first.
Some people have this maturity at 18, while others may never be mature enough to take care of a child properly as they are too selfish.
2007-01-04 05:06:47 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs H 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
i had my first at 18, and i lived a VERY carefree youth before that. Perhaps too much so, Do i feel I missed out on anything? Hell no...had i not had my baby I would have been missing out on a whole hell of lot more important and wonderful things.
2007-01-04 05:37:23 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋