How do you get a man to be more romantic?
2007-01-04 04:50:13 · 18 answers · asked by Stacey M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Haha! I have been trying for years to do that! The only way I get romance is if I make it happen....my hubby has gotten the messege loud and clear, but it's not in him..although he REALLY enjoys reaping the rewards when I plan things! I sometimes get annoyed that I am the only one that plans romantic getaways or evenings and such, but the I figure, if I dont do it, we'd never do it..so I'd rather plan and both of us enjoy instead of waiting for it to never happen.
2007-01-04 04:54:19 · answer #1 · answered by ♀♥☼ alycat☼♥♀ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the man you're with right now isn't romantic, odds are that he won't change.
After I read this question a movie popped into my head: The Most Unromantic Man in the World ( http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0804506/ ), it's a UK movie.
Basically, there's no changing the person you are with. There are tons of times where women get with a guy and think, "He's almost perfect... except for this." And then eventually the woman has been dating a schmuck for over 2 years, and then gets married - and thinks that now she has control over what he does. "Now I can mold him..." - the truth is, there is no changing that side.
You could try and discuss it with him but chances are little to no change will be made.
My advice, if it's a newly developed relationship, talk it over... he might suprise you. But don't get your hopes too high.
2007-01-04 05:01:09 · answer #2 · answered by TalkingTomato 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Males are either romantic by nature, or not. You can tell your guy the things that you consider romantic and how much romance means to you. Some men just have to be 'trained'. But then they're others who are just too uncomfortable with romantic intimacy. Having your romantic needs met is just as important as your other needs. Don't settle for someone who can't/won't show it.
2007-01-04 04:55:10 · answer #3 · answered by bfwh218 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and let him know that the romance on both your parts needs a little repair and both of you are gonna start being More romantic to each other and see where it goes from there. sometimes as the women we have to make the first move and be the one to make sure the fire stays lit and not go out once you to get that fire started . if you need tips on how to help him get more romantic i have a group on yahoo called DIVASTYLES@yahoogroups .com i would love to help you put your romantic side to work. lol
2007-01-04 04:56:19 · answer #4 · answered by sexyswells42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is hard. I'd like my guy to be more romantic too. I think the best way to do it, is to tell him! Tell him that you'd like more romance and that it's as important to you as sexual satisfaction is to him. He should get that!. tell him what you'd like too.. sweets words, flowers once in a while, guys can be thick.. so you need to tell him what you want.
But most importantly, remember that romance isn't the most important part of the relationship... being with him, communication, having a good time, trusting each other... these things are what really matter.. and mean so much more than a flower or a box of chocolates
2007-01-04 04:55:27 · answer #5 · answered by blinker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do something romantic for him. Later on tell him that it was romantic and you really enjoyed doing it for him. He should try something for you.
Or just buy a book and leave it hanging around.
2007-01-04 04:53:08 · answer #6 · answered by sigkappsunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STEP 1 Define "romantic"
STEP 2 Explain what's in it for him.
STEP 3 Give him examples.
STEP 4 Reward him for good behavior.
STEP 5 Repeat.
2007-01-04 04:54:11 · answer #7 · answered by Engineer Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck. Been trying for a few years now. Think of it this way. Do you really want him to be something he's not? Most guys are all romantic at first, it's how they impress us. Then they let it slide. Face it. We're guilty of this, too. Do you still make youself up every time you're going to see him and try to drive him wild? Or do you let him see you in your ratty sweats, no makeup, and hair up in a bun, lounging on the couch with a bucket of ice cream? We let it slide, too. Once in a while, I like to give my husband what we used to have when we first met, and he's sweeter to me. After our daughter goes to bed, I grab a couple of beers and chat with him about stupid crap on TV like Southpark, Reno 911, all the things we can't do with our daughter around. Or, I dress up all hot, we go out to a party, and I hang out with his buddies and cuss like a sailor like when we were in our partying days. He'll inevitably put his arm around me and smile at me, maybe even give me a kiss.
2007-01-04 05:00:28 · answer #8 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cant give you a broad perspective but what irks me is when I am feeling uncomfortable and my girlfirend says something like 'you never kiss me' and I am still somewhat shut down emotionally from a disagreement 4 hours ago. I usually need a little more time than her to regroup.
2007-01-04 04:53:43 · answer #9 · answered by larrydoyle52 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
romantic means something different to everyone...
you just have to tell him your view on it..
my honey knows a sunday afternoon on the couch with him watching football or hockey is romantic to me after he has picked me flowers from our garden
2007-01-04 04:55:11 · answer #10 · answered by elite_women_rule_the_rock 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋