My son was in Iracq when my mother died.They would not let him come home to say his final goodbye to her .Why is it garndparents are not concered immiate family to them?
2007-01-04 04:42:53 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Grandparents, in the military perspective, are considered extended family, as are aunts, uncles, cousins, nephews, nieces, Godparents, Godchildren, etc.
2007-01-04 04:49:19 · answer #1 · answered by briang731/ bvincent 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's correct. Grandparents only qualify for Emergency Leave if they acted In Loco Parentis, i.e. they raised the military member when he or she was a child.
When you contact the Red Cross for notification of the death or impending death of a grandparent, they will determine if the grandparent had acted In Loco Parentis when the member was a minor. The Red Cross notification to the military member's unit will include a statement of whether the grandparent was In Loco Parentis or Non Loco Parentis.
Emergency Leave is only available when immediate family members are involved. Immediate family is limited to parents, children and siblings including steps. Grandparents and other relatives do not qualify (except where In Loco Parentis status applies.) This is standard throughout all of the military services.
Final approval for all leaves rests with the Unit Commander. Commanders virtually always authorize Emergency Leave when appropriate. Most will also authorize ordinary leave when the situation involves extended family members but this is far less likely in a war zone or under wartime conditions.
2007-01-04 05:41:13 · answer #2 · answered by Bostonian In MO 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because if the military allowed troops to go to extended family funerals there would be troops who abused the system every time a cousin, aunt or uncle died...... and many would have "make believe" family members who pass away ... just so they could get out of work for a day or two.
2007-01-04 04:53:08 · answer #3 · answered by AzOasis8 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Grandparents are not considered "immediate family" unless you can prove that they raised you for 5 or more years and they were the primary care giver.
2007-01-04 05:34:58 · answer #4 · answered by jrnh5150 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it takes alot to be able to get a troop back home and unfortunately grandparents aren't at the top of the list. some guys can't even come home when their wife gives birth...it's just part of the job.
i'm sure he mourned in his own way.
however, i would not mention it when talking to him. the more you fume about it to him makes the greiving process all the harder for him.
take care.
2007-01-04 04:59:30 · answer #5 · answered by joey322 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The military considers only Mother,Father, Brother or Sister as immediate family.
At times it doesn't seem fair, but they have to draw the line somewhere.
Sorry about your loss.
2007-01-04 04:54:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
immediate family is typically considered a spouse and children if married, or parents and siblings if not. Extended family is grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc. Unless his grandparents raised him or served *in loco parentis* typically, no exceptions will be made.
2007-01-04 07:32:55 · answer #7 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To the military immediate family members would be mother, father, sister, & brother. Grandparents would be considered if they are the one who raised their grandchildren who didn't have any parents.
2007-01-04 05:03:14 · answer #8 · answered by Mike D 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
most employers don't feel grandparents are immediate family. it take a court battle for grandparents to get rights to see their grandchildren sometimes.
2007-01-04 04:48:20 · answer #9 · answered by kissmy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats not always the case. They are allowed to go if their command approves it. He is probably busy and they need him there right now. Sorry about your loss
2007-01-04 05:09:31 · answer #10 · answered by usmcspouse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋