What does it mean when a guy your sort of dating tells you this?

Question

I met this guy through a friend, we're both recently out of broken engagements w/ or ex's. After our first date we hit it off instantaneously, there was such a connection, and it wasn't just our commground w/ the break ups, it was def. more b/c we both said & felt it, and u could just tell. At first I wasn't sure if i wanted to get involved w/ him b/c personally i was scared to start liking someone so much again so fast, and he knew that... but persisted. needless to say things got hot and heavy fast. He was a real gentleman, sweet heart, & constantly told me how much he liked me, enjoyed spending time w/ me.. etc. we saw each other almost every day for 3wks. now here's the kicker, many times he told me that he wished he would have met me in a year, b/c he knows he could love me, but just isn't ready for a serious relationship yet. i don't think i was either, but it felt so right. he says he still wants to see me, but has since dropped the ball. i just dont' know what to make of this

Answer 1

Oh my goodness! I can understand all the insecurity involved with this question. You are insecure in the fact that you think that you need a man to complete you. He has been hurt and either is afraid to commit again or is out to get all women for revenge. Both of you jumped from the frying pan into the fire and in the fire you will get burned! Why not take time to get to know YOURSELF before you try to get to know another boy. If you want to just have sex with him then fine do that but don't get so wrapped up in him that you loose yourself one more time. If you look over your past you probably have not been without a relationship for very long, so how are you going to know what you want if you don't take the time to see what you need? If he is truly the one for you he will be the one a week, month or a year from now, but if he is not then you will be waisting your time waiting on him.

Answer 2

Funny, I am in pretty much teh exact situation you are in. I dated a guy for about 3 months who had gotten out of a serious relationship a few months before and he told me he just thought we had gotten too serious too fast and that he didn't think he could be good for anyone right now. I'd like to have him back because we completely clicked right away, but I know that all I can do is wait and see. I know that rushing into something when someone is not over someone else just makes a relationship be doomed as a rebound relationship. The waiting is killing me, but it gets a little better as time goes on. I say that is what you should do to. If it was meant to be it will be. Good luck to you.

Answer 3

He might be a little scared. My bf was the same way, and 6 months before we started going out he had broken up with his fiance who he was with for 2 years. He kinda stopped all the nice stuff you talked about...I think he was scared of getting hurt again.
How does he know hes going to need a year? No one ever knows how long its going to take to get over something, if they even do.
If you two really like each other, and feel that this can turn into something serious, but are scared of it happening right away or too soon, just take things slower. If he can love you romantically then he can be in a relationship with you too, even if its not right away. If hes ready to fall in love, then he should be ready for a relationship.

Answer 4

It means after ya'll had sex and he conquered you, he is losing interest and wants to do more women.

women use sex to get love and men use love to get sex.

Maybe a year from now he will settle down. People on the rebound typically fall fast, and then snap out of it and date. Just take it slow. If he really cares about you he will figure out that he wants to be with you no matter how many other people he "dates". Hopefully ya'll were safe, because how it was for ya'll will be how it is for the others he will get with.

Answer 5

well he likes that is kinda obvious i think. but since he just broke up with is ex i think hes planning on waiting a year be for committing to a new relationship. i think that is what he meant by the i wish i had met you In a year. i say hang out with him be friends and maybe more Will Come over the next hand full of months.

Answer 6

Give him a little time, wait for him to call you or something. When he does call or when you talk to him next, tell him how you feel and be honest. If he really does care about you as much as he says he does then he will understand. You can't rush things but hold on to him if you know he's that special.

Answer 7

All I can say is that break ups hurt alot. One take time to "grieve" you may need to see yourself in a different light. DOnt get all wrapped up in nit. If it is mean to be he will come around but be his friend and spend time on your own finding a hobby or maybe pampering yourself!

Answer 8

It means that he likes you, but rushing into another relationship just wouldn't be healthy for this relationship. Believe me he is right, I made this mistake and now I lost my best friend and lover and if i just would have waited it probably would of turned out alot better

Answer 9

Can you say "instant booty"?

Hate to say it like that, sometimes a "gentleman" can be the worst of cads. I think he missed the initmacy/sex of being in a relationship and took advantage of the opportunity, obviously. I've never known a man to turn down available...you can finish that one.

Answer 10

I think this man loves you,but because of his recent breakup,he's doubting himself.He's scared,and you know men,they don't admit that.Give him time,you should both take the time to learn eveything about each other thats possible.Enjoy learning,and discovering who each of you are.Who knows,you both may learn something about yourself that you've never known.