so i know the whole he's not into you thing. The guy I'm (air quotes) currently seeing isn't into me and i can feel it. I've seen him like 3 or 4 times in two months. I don't call him because I don't want to appear needy.his phone calls to me are very sporadic. I don't want to start the new year like this. should i just tell him at this moment in his life he has too many things going on and we sholud end it
2007-01-04 04:23:07 · 9 answers · asked by sweet_journey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, I think that would be good. If you tell him that, it'll make you feel better about yourself and increase your sense of control over your own life and choices. It will also tell him where things are with you, so he won't be guessing either.
If you let it go on too long it will make you feel worse. When you talk to him, make sure it's only the 2 of you and hold your head up. You're not apologizing, you're telling him he isn't giving you what you need. Be nice and be honest, don't get into an argument with him about it. He's a guy after all, so chances are he doesn't realize there's even a problem. Good Luck. :)
2007-01-04 04:35:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are currently "seeing" him just going out and start dating is wrong. He might be really busy but........ 3 or 4 times is not "seeing". Basically he only calls you when it is convienient and if he was into you (or not seeing someone else) he would at least be calling. No one is that busy so something is up. He gets to have a girl that he can call when he feels like it without putting work into a realtionship. You being needy? Well you deserve to have a guy who appreciates you and doesn't take you for granted, and he's not it. If you don't want to flat out end it the next couple of times he calls just be too busy to see him. He will either fade away or start stepping up to the plate. Then you will have your answer either way.
2007-01-04 04:36:53 · answer #2 · answered by jackson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Or you can start dating other people as well...If you have only seen each other 3-4 times in 2 months then your not in a committed relationship. See what else it out there! This way, you avoid the uneasy talk, you still have him somewhat in your life, but your seeing what else is out there! Good luck!!
2007-01-04 04:25:52 · answer #3 · answered by BMW BFD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want a more serious relationship then yes, you need to stop accepting calls. If you limit yourself to what he is or isn't offering, you are cheating yourself.
Go with your gut instinct, if you feel he is not into you, believe me, you cannot change that.
2007-01-04 04:27:02 · answer #4 · answered by ericka1031 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DOnt tell him ANYTHING!
Make yourself available to other opportunities!
when he calls tell him you are NOT available if you even answer the phone.
Maybe his calls will pick up, maybe they wont either way, you get to be in control!
2007-01-04 04:35:05 · answer #5 · answered by lisa s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would just tell him that it is very obvious that he isn't into you as much as your are him, and that maybe you two should just be friends, and see how he reacts to it. Good luck
2007-01-04 04:27:48 · answer #6 · answered by Danielle G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you've already answered..if your feeling this way now....and that the relationship is going no where....you can stay friends..but make yourself available for other opportunities and meet people.
2007-01-04 04:26:22 · answer #7 · answered by joschaos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep him as a friend for now and in the mean time find a new boyfriend :) :) :)
2007-01-04 04:28:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wat ever you do do not cheat on him wat goes around comes aroud!!!^_^
2007-01-04 04:28:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋