Well my girlfriend said she loved me real early in the relationship(two weeks in)and i said i love you too but now i regret it.Its 2 months later and shes says it to me all the time,i like her alot how do i know its real?
2007-01-04 04:19:52 · 23 answers · asked by michael j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think your girl really knows what love means if she said it to you that early. It seems that she is confusing infatuation with love. Love takes time to grow. It is not something that happens in two weeks time.
You know that you are in love with someone else when you want what is best for them. When you are willing to lay things down that you want for yourself in order to make them happy (not compromising your integrity and self-love). But willing to do what is best for them
2007-01-04 04:25:56 · answer #1 · answered by fancyface1 l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fools rush in... huh?
In the begining, I think we can "fall in love" with our idea of who somebody is and how they make us feel. The trick is to learn to pay attention to the other person's ego more than your own when they communicate with you, be a good person (confident, assertive, high integrity, maintain your own interests and identity, do not behave in a threatening manner--assertive isn't agressive--be respectful and flexible--relationships require give and take). If you are a good person, you'll bring out the best in the other person, and if you have your eyes wide open instead of loving a fantasy, then you don't run the risk of losing yourself and asking such questions.
That being said, most of us have been there (approximately 97% of us, anyway). You love, and sometimes you lose, and you learn. The thing is, she's gonna pick up on your dilemma soon, and you could lose her, so you better do some serious thinking.
2007-01-04 12:29:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's in lust and you got scared. Yes there is a possibility that she way actually love you, but it's pretty unlikely. Don't worry I'm not saying she never will, but if right now you can't tell if it's real love, than it isn't. Some people differ on how long they wait until they feel comfortable enough to say I love you. If all you think about is her and when you're away from her it almost hurts because you want to be with her every second of the day. You love her, but you can't really get advice from someone on this on. When you're in love, you'll definitely know it.
2007-01-04 12:26:40 · answer #3 · answered by sqky15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a 2 sided word.
The idea is that love comes naturally and guides you into the perfect relationship.
The truth is love is the effort of 2 people caring for one another more than themselves and continually working harder at the relationship. If you don't feel a desire to work harder at the relationship, then you may not be there.
I would talk to her. Ask her how she feels about you. Ask her if it's tru if you can tell if you're in love by the kiss. Then kiss her.
Be gentle. Don't lead her on, but always let her know she's beautiful.
2007-01-04 12:28:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
young love is more so a crush...real love would be something that could last over many years. It is a deep sense of understanding and respect between two people. This may be achieved over many years or maybe even shorter if the two people feel 100% dedicated to working together to achive a team able to deal with all of lifes complications.
2007-01-04 12:27:33 · answer #5 · answered by Li Li 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you wanna be with her all the time. You'll notice the little things instantly, like when she changes her hair or wears a different perfume. You'll think about her all the time and get a warm feeling when you do think about her. But two months might be just a little early to be thinking you love each other.
2007-01-04 12:22:57 · answer #6 · answered by Diagonal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
women that say I love you all the time are insecure and looking for the security in hearing that they are loved. Women of this nature are harder to get along with and often very jealous.
Saying I love you too much is like an oxymoron for these women they cant hear it enough. Its better to show these type of women you love them by spending time with them. Showing them that they are number one. They will get extreamly jealous of contact with other women if they are insecure.
Two weeks is kind of early for i love u's , but it can happen. You know that the love is for real by actions and caring. Saying I love you early doesnt make her insecure its the fact that she keeps saying it over and over that makes me wonder.
She may be in need of affection or insecure. You need to assess the situation over time in order to determine whether it is right for you.
2007-01-04 12:31:28 · answer #7 · answered by pegasis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the adolescent wisdom machine. My young friend all of us go through life trying to define life, love, happiness, wealth, etc etc...
One mistake is this, as we search for the meaning, of love in your case, we often mistake physical attraction and acceptance for love, or we substitute them for it.
If you love someone, i mean really love someone, then there will be a care that goes beyond the physical. We can be attracted to someone on many levels, but love first falls into four categories.
Spiritually, emotionally, intellectually, physically, these all must be filled by that special someone, and when they are filled it is then that we may know love....and for each one, their own answer for what love is. And though we might have different answers, remember that there is always that middle ground of descriptions that offers the basic truths of what love is, and none are wrong, but all my not be relevant. This is what makes falling in love with that one person so special and significant. I say this to you....the biggest mistake is taking that big step of sex before marraige and becoming bonded spiritually, emotionally and intellectually first.
In today's modern era, in the mishmash of today's sitcom's, I will use two to describe my point, Friends and Sex in the City. These themes promoted by such telecasts are purely hedonistic in the sense that it is all about the sex. But sex is designed as a spiritual union of man and wife. Dogs have sex and we are greater than a dog. How many couples in (un-Holy) Hollywood, or New (Yoursofine) York, should we base or give and heedance to? Neither. For they are all pomp, and merely selfish prime examples of basic dog to dog mentallity.
Love is as wonderously undescribable as life is....but only with the wisdom of God can we mirror it, or at least immitate it, and by at least trying his example, can we then achieve it, even if only partially...at least we can love with pure love, partially. Yet that love is pure and true and spiritual, first and foremost.
2007-01-04 12:39:36 · answer #8 · answered by etienne primeau 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U need to observe what she does for you. All relationship must have sacrifices. I know I really luv my BF when I see all this signs
> Upset when he is sick
> When he goes on his buss trip, I will start to get teary
> I begin to include him in all my plans, activities and outing
> I will fussy all over myself to look good for him
> The first thing we do when we see each other is giving each other a hug and he always give me a kiss (before we sleep, when I wake up, when I leave for work).
so only you can tell the signs.
2007-01-04 12:30:04 · answer #9 · answered by Rosy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U know u are in love when everytime you see her you want to throw up from nerves.. You lose your appetite and you sing in the shower.. You suddenly become very aware about your personall hygeine and begin to groom yourself excessivly.. Thats Love
2007-01-04 12:24:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋