I sent a single rose and a teddy bear to my ex gf will she be pissed?

Question

Ok so my ex and I broke up about 2 months ago. Last night we had a conversation and she told me that she loved me but wasnt inlove with me anymore. SHe said that if I were to change she wouldnt mind falling in love with me again. I was hurt ofcourse but I told her that I was going to try to win her over. She told me thats fine but just dont come to her job. I wanted to bring her flowers but I figured that wouldnt be a very good idea. I know that Im not ready to see her. I sent her a rose and a teddy bear she works at the front desk at a gym so I know she will get it and it won't cause problems. Do you think this was a good or bad idea?

Ok what caused us to break up was the fact that I was rude to here and I tend to have a bad attitude she said she always wanted it to work and it wouldnt be impossible for her to fall in love with me again

Answer 1

read what you type!! she would not mind falling in love with you again... i would not have wasted the $$$ let her come back to you. You look desperate!!

Answer 2

Very bad idea. You have substituted unsolicited gifts for something else.

You are in a dead end relationship. Here's why:
"if I were to change she wouldn't mind falling in love with me again"

That's a sure-fire way to fail.
1. You are not going to change to her satisfaction.
2. What happens when something else about you displeases her?
3. This is a fall-in / fall-out girl. She does not know what she wants and cannot say what she will make a commitment to. It's her problem, not yours.
4. She may be fun for a date or as a friend, but there's no relationship brewing here.

Answer 3

I personally think that it was sweet and that you are trying to show her that you are trying to change, BUT remember that material things aren't everything. Im always telling my bf that I would rather his attitude change than for him to send me flowers and candy and things like that. I think that what you did was OK, but also try improving the bond you two have, take her out or just go for a walk and talk to her and let her know that you are willing to do what you have to in order for her to fall back in love with you. Also don't look at it as "winning" her back it's not a game. In all I think you have good intentions, good luck.

Answer 4

I did nearly the exact same thing. I talk with my ex of 3 months who also loves me but because we broke up sees me differently. We talk and agreed to see what will happen day to day. During her finals week, I send her to her job her favorite type of flowers with a note stating "Good Luck on your Finals". She emailed me a work a quick thank you. When we talked, she said a range of emotions filled her. She was angry, saying this type of behavior should have been done when we were together. She was also surprised to get flowers, and happy because they are her favorite. I think it was a good idea especially since she is giving you the opportunity to show you changed. I don't think it hurts, but you can't expect that alone to change everything between you two. Good Luck, keep at it!!

Answer 5

I agree with Thomas K. If she is asking you to change so to get back with you? What else will she ask of you just to keep you with her? Giving her a teddy bear and a rose was a nice gesture on your part. A lot of women her age like that kind of thing. But based on what you have said, I do not see this relationship going anywhere.

Answer 6

I think it is an excellent idea.
Be sure to put a nice couple of words on the card too. Something like a pretty flower for a beautiful woman. I hope that we can be the best of friends or something that is no threatening.
I think that she will love it.
Dont call to see if she got it for a few days (no pressure) so she would not feel hounded.
GOOD LUCK!
p.s. Dont wait too long for her to come around.
Experience tells me that as soon as you find someone else she will be HOUNDING you to try to get back together!

Answer 7

If you are accurate in your description of the circumstances, then I see no reason why she would be pissed. But remember to use caution when trying to win someone back. Too often people get their hopes up over the wrong person and one of two things happen: (1) The girl (or guy) ends up rejecting the guy again, making the pain even worse, or (2) the girl ends up coming back, but they girl eventually becomes bad and the guy has to get rid of her. It's like one of those "be careful what you wish for, you might get it" kind of things. But if she is right, and you are willing to take the risk, I hope it works and she should not be pissed!

Answer 8

I think it's a good move. But do you do this type of thing a lot? or was this part of the change she was talking about. If that's what she was talking about, I'd send flowers too in a few days, tulips, NOT roses.

Answer 9

I say it was a good idea.
If you want her back though, you will have to follow her terms. Pay attention to what she has asked of you and see if it is realistic for you to meet her needs in the long haul, otherwise even if you get back together, it won't work for long.

Answer 10

you were rude with her?? why you want to go back with her?! is it because you realized she was the only one willing to cope with your 'attitudes' and rudeness?
life is a circle be very careful on what you do or say. now she is saying she 'would not mind getting back together with you"...that is pretty low.
some flowers are not going to get her back. your change of attitude (and not only for her, but for you and your happiness) that is what is going to show her that you are willing to do whatever it takes to get her back and not make her suffer anymore.
wish you all luck ;)

Answer 11

It can't hurt...I mean you're already on the outs, so you might as well give it a try.

I'm not sure about the "if you change" stuff, though. In my experience, people never can really change their personalities, so you might be out of luck any way.