My 3 yr old (almost 4) is such a whinner.. I understand sometimes, but its really getting annoying. I have tried everything. I talk to her like a big girl, tell her to go to her room till she can talk without whinning, everything.. but nothing seems to help.
It can be the littlest things too..
ex: She wanted candy at 8 am. I said no, you need either cereal, pop tart, toast, ect.. (and i gave her a choise) but no. She started to whine.. i talked to her calmly about it, but it didnt help.. what can i do??
2007-01-04 04:14:36 · 22 answers · asked by Lisa 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
How about a thimble full of vodka in her bottle.
2007-01-04 04:21:54 · answer #1 · answered by Terence C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was a preschool teacher for the past 6 years and I also have a 7 yr old son, so I've dealt with this often. The best thing I learned was to tell the child to use their regular voice when they are talking to me because I don't understand whining. Also the hardest thing is to stick your guns when setting those limits. Have you caved in before when you could no longer handle the whining? If you have you'll have a bit of work to do before the problem goes away.
Other things to do, once she tells you what she wants in a regular voice, acknowledge her. Ex: "I know you want to eat candy right now but you need to have something nutritious first. You can have candy later on in the day." If she protest tell her, "the choice is eat breakfast first and then later you can have candy. However if you continue to whine there will be no candy today." If she continues the whining follow through with no candy that day. You may have to do this for a few days with her but always be consistent. If you say your going to do something do it. This is where a lot of us get stuck in parenting but all children want us to do is to give them boundaries so that they know someone is looking out for their best interest.
Try it and good luck!
2007-01-04 12:33:10 · answer #2 · answered by sleepygee75 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can sympathize, my son (now 6 yrs) whined so much!! He still does more than I think he should, but it is a lot better than it was. I made sure he knew that whining wouldn't work. Say "you're not going to get anything until you talk in a normal voice", Are there any times that you give in when you are tired? Try to not have any consistencies. I know how hard it is but stay firm and it will definitely will get better.
2007-01-04 12:25:33 · answer #3 · answered by jabbergirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore it. That really is the best thing to do. I know that's hard.
Also some kids are whinier than others, my oldest is 8 she has always been a whiner. I have 3 other kids ranging in age from 4 to 1 and none of them has ever whined as much as her. (She is still a little whiny)
2007-01-04 12:49:35 · answer #4 · answered by voidtillnow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter did this at almost the exact same age. Whenever she starts to do this, just tell her I am not going to listen to you while you are whining. When you are done you can talk to me like a big girl and just completely ignore her till she can do just that. Once she sees she can't get your attention from it I think it will stop. It took a couple of weeks for my daughter to finally "get" that I was serious then she stopped. Just be consistent with it and she will get it also.
Good Luck!
2007-01-04 12:22:15 · answer #5 · answered by flredneckgal_21 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mine learnt from the very beginning that no meant no. There were no options & no second chances at that age. There were also consequences and that would include a smack on the bottom.( Both are well behaved teens & proud of them)
Something I saw one mother do & that was to act like that child when the child misbehaved etc. It seemed to work because it embarrassed the child
2007-01-08 08:42:57 · answer #6 · answered by Vera K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be consistant on the no candy rule. she'll get the picture eventually and only request it when she thinks the answer will be yes.
make a chart that shows wake up, breakfast, getting dressed, play time, learning time, having lunch, taking a nap.......etc. End the day with a piece of candy.
You can always point to the time of day and tell her what happens throughout the day. Tell her that she needs to wait until it's candy time.......
2007-01-04 13:44:16 · answer #7 · answered by momoftwo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she whines she always gets a reaction from you and she knows it. You need to ignore her when she does this, do not respond to that behaviour, just walk away from her and show her it does not bother you, keep doing this and she will eventually stop in time, knowing it does not effect you anymore. Mother of a past whining daughter. Good luck
2007-01-04 12:27:13 · answer #8 · answered by Gabriele 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friends daughter does the same thing and i think it is a stage that they go through but i think that you should show her that you are the adult and she can't always get her way and there are not always choices. so i think you should give her what you think she should eat and if she is hungry enough then she will eat it and if not then she won't. i think she will get it soon enough. maybe you should ask some of your friends or family for help. but until then try to tune out the whining. Good luck!
2007-01-04 12:20:50 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs.Dennis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get used to it. My 8 yr old still whines....I have 4 age 3 to 22...I think my oldest outgrew it in middleschool,but he is a boy...Seems like your doing everything right. I just tell mine I cannot understand them when they use that tone. You have words, lets use them. And even adults have rules and cannot have or do everything they want. Good Luck
2007-01-04 12:22:28 · answer #10 · answered by Tammy G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Discipline her, be more firm in your actions. Candy is not good for a little child. She probably follows after you and watches how you act around others.
2007-01-04 12:26:14 · answer #11 · answered by Lone Eagle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋