i lost my gf about a year and a half ago because supposedly i was being too nice. i let her hang out with her friends, including guy friends (her ex was one of them) because i didnt want to be the controlling type to say "no, youre not going out...you cant hang out with your friends." She even told me that she was hangin out with her ex AS A FRIEND and i trusted her. long and behold, a few weeks later, she became torn between me and her old ex. she stopped sayin she loves me, and the physical affection just slowly vanished.
now i cant help but wonder, if there are really girls out there who can be trusted...that wont go taking advantage of a guy's leniency. ive been single for about a year and a half now...only cuz im not the type to jump right into another relationship. i look for quality...and with my ex, i thought i found one...n then, BAM...i lost her.
WHY'S IT SO HARD TO FIND A QUALITY GIRL...down for a quality guy.
2007-01-04 04:12:31 · 25 answers · asked by *mar29* 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
are there any beautiful girls out there that arent set to break a guy's heart? a pretty girl who's willing to hold an actual long term relationship and doesnt party her panties off? you tell me
2007-01-04 04:40:22 · update #1
Because girls today are brought up in a permissive society and most of them have had sex in their early teen years. Once they have it becomes just that...sex. There is then no love attached to it. There are quality girls out there as well as quality guys but they are hard to find and it takes determination and patience to find them. I would suggest you take your time like you said and just let things go for a while and be friends with whomever you wish and take it from there. Get to know the girl well before you commit yourself and believe me it isn't done overnight. It takes time and I don't mean a few months or weeks. You need to get to know her under as many different sets of circumstances as possible before you make up your mind to commit. My ex-wife and I dated for 2 years before we even thought about marriage. I know what you are thinking. I'm divorced so even that didn't work out. Let me tell you something. We were married for 33 years and had 2 sons and raised them to be good young men. We are divorced because of me and my depression which became intolerable for her to live with. Otherwise we would still be married.
2007-01-04 04:20:24 · answer #1 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If by nice, you mean the shy guy who would be really good to his girl but can't get one for the life of him, then yes. Life is hard, and although it is not ALWAYS true, life is unfair, and the loser who has confidence will still get a girl while the nice guy gets nothing. However, this changes with age, this is normally something that happens in middle/highschool. College => Real World it's quite a bit different, a bit more maturity is expected.
2016-05-23 02:46:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls will tell you on here that they would LOVE a guy who is like that, but in REALITY girls can't have all that freedom because they won't know how to handle it until they are married. There's also something about mean guys that makes a girl want him more, in the same way that when a girl is acting hard to get he tries harder. You can still be a nice guy without putting her on a leash. Next time you get a girl you care about, let her do her thing, but when she tells you shes going to do something like that, offer to take her out instead, or talk to her more often so that she wont talk to them. But don't be controlling
2007-01-04 04:17:26 · answer #3 · answered by Déjà Vu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Really sorry you feel that way hun.
Nice guys don't always finish last. She obviously wasn't the right girl for you and didn't know how lucky she was to have a trusting guy like you.
In the end she is the one who has lost out, there are plenty of girls that can be trusted and are desperate to find a man like you.
You will find someone decent one day, that deserves you x
2007-01-04 04:22:25 · answer #4 · answered by BlondeBabe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not about being controlling, it's about confidence. You never set any boundaries in your relationship, which possibly made her feel as if you didn't care about the relationship anyway. Look, there are good women out there, but you have to know what you are looking for in your potential mate. You have to know what you will accept and what you won't tolerate in your next relationship. But state it as you are getting to know the next girl you meet. When you find someone who has your same outlook and values you place on relationships and she laughs at your jokes, plus she is secure and has her own self image. Grab her and don't let her...hang out with her ex-boyfriend. LOL
2007-01-04 04:30:24 · answer #5 · answered by ricepat2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We exist, you just have to find us. Quite honestly, the women who are perfect 10s and know it, will be the ones to screw you over (same with guys, in most cases). Are you willing to be with someone who isn't physically perfect?
I would also recommend not picking up women in bars or other sleezy places. Usually these are the ones who aren't past their partying days and don't want to settle down yet.
No one should ever hang out with their ex, in my opinion. He's your EX for a reason.
2007-01-04 04:24:29 · answer #6 · answered by lookinforanswers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice guys probably finish last when they're young.........
As they get older and women get older and/or more mature, I think nice guys come out ahead. The same broad that was liquored up at all the parties while in college is the same broad that wants to settle down in her thirties with a nice guy........
2007-01-04 04:18:44 · answer #7 · answered by Playa Hata 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, they do alot of the time, and the reason is that they're to nice to girls and refuse to put there foot down when its required. See, the thing is this, if your to nice to girls they will just as soon disrespect you and walk all over you and your feelings, then behave. Girls like it when a man takes control and shows his manliness, and they hate wimps. That's just the way it is. Stop letting yourself be treated like a used rug, and put your foot down once in awhile. And yes, of course there are women out there who can be trusted. I suggest you stop trying so hard to find one, she will appear out of nowhere.
2007-01-04 04:18:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
False
2007-01-04 04:14:57 · answer #9 · answered by Doaa A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
love is a risk we all take, with betrayal beind a possibility. my bf was caugt with one of his friends wife in his car. he said he was just giving her a lift. it was all too suspicious but i forgot it and moved on with him promising no contact. 30.12.2006 i got a text message from her to his phone saying 'hi honey. u were trying to call me. call me back now'. i was pis sed to say it lightly.
we are still together but he can't go anywhere, etc. i was played for an a s s 2x and still there. because we all want to love and be loved. a lot of times we are hurt over and over.
i hope that u find the one to be as honest, forgiving, trustworthy and loving as i am.
2007-01-04 04:17:46 · answer #10 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋