Ladies... Where do you draw the line between a "NICE" guy & a "DOGGISH" guy?

Question

Just a little frustrated with being told I am "too nice" all the time....So Wassup?

I try to treat others as I would like to be treated...you the "GOLDEN RULE"? What is wrong with that?

Answer 1

I don't believe there is such a person who is "too nice". I think that some people get involved with others who do not understand their worth or value, hence they really do not know how to accept kind, sincere gestures. If you are truly a genuine person, I suggest you do not involve yourself with women like that, because your kindness will always be undervalued. So just hold out to meet a young woman, who knows her worth, and will settle for nothing less than great (which I am sure you are), and she will be able to reciprocate that "too niceness". Good Luck!

Answer 2

There is such a thing as 'too nice' - that's what a person says when they have no interest in you. If I'm really into you and you're a nice guy (even if you're syrupy sweet) I'll enjoy it. But if there's not much of a vibe your niceness will definitely be used as a scapegoat excuse to not hook up with you.

But are you a pushover? That's a better question. Doggish isn't appealing for a woman, but no one likes a guy they can push around like a puppy. That gets boring. Man up - don't be a dog...but don't be too shy to speak your mind.

Answer 3

I think that there is a big difference. The problem is that most "fluffies" call themselves "Eclectic," which confuses the issue. A fluffy is someone who has no grasp of history, and very little understanding of the Craft, but refuses to learn. They think that Wicca is whatever they want it to be, and that anyone who tells them otherwise is intolerant, judgemental, or dogmatic. They are, on the one hand, very close-minded to certain books, authors, and traditions that they erroneously think are "Dark," and on the other hand, so open-minded that their brains have fallen out. For some of them, Wicca is a political statement. For some it justifies their animosity against Christianity, or against Men, or against their parents, or against the "Normals" in general. For some it is fantasy fulfillment. It makes them feel like they have control in an otherwise overwhelming world where they previously felt completely powerless. Some have lost touch, to some extent, and think that they're living an episode of Charmed, or they can't tell the difference between Wicca and a D&D game -- the sorts of people who cast spells with a d20. Some fluffies are simply young dabblers -- some will grow out of it, and some will grow into it. Others are simply posers who are using the Craft to look cool. So the difference between an Eclectic and a Fluffy is whether or not you know what you're doing, or care to. An Eclectic takes an experimental approach to Magick, using what works from a variety of traditions. Eclecticism takes a lot of research, a lot of work. Fluffies often call themselves "Eclectic" because they think it excuses them from doing the research. But, as the old saying goes, you have to know the rules before you can break them.

Answer 4

Don't change..you may just be meeting the wrong women..Because there is a far distance between nice & doggish. there could be alot of little things you could do different but not change your ways or you. I think age is a factor too..I mean I myself used to look right past the "nice" ones sometimes but that was early on when i wasn't seeking a serious relationship. I think as you get older..I am only 30 now but the nice ones are way better to me..Just my opinion!!

Answer 5

There is no such thing as being too nice. There is such a thing, however, as being gullable, and not standing up for one self. Being a "yes dear" man all of the time, isn't any good either. If a woman can't appreciate a man who puts her needs and wants above his own, then, the man needs to move on to a woman who does appreciate it. That to some might seem like a man who is too nice. A dog is a player, someone who is self centered and selfish, and any kind deed that is done by him, is often done only with selfish reason behind it. So, I would say, the middle would be a man who, is caring and is somewhat selfish some of the time.

Answer 6

Oh, well then "Call me!" I need a nice guy! Sometimes, though, too nice means toughen up. Not that you are a punk, but...I don't know. I had a too nice guy once. That wasn't the problem though. I mean, we all know girls tend to go for the "bad boy" type. But there's nothing like a nice guy to rub your feet, back and shoulders. To understand you and be with you through thick and thin. Ask those girls what you do that makes you "too nice,' and try not to do all that- at first. But believe you me, there is someone out there who wants your niceness! I sure wouldn't mind it! There aren't enough nice guys!

Answer 7

I wouldn't want a guy who is like a "punk"...one that is too lenient and gives me what i want all the time. Be strong say no...don't answer the phone..something!lol...But i don't want a doggish guy...who would only call me when he wants something or plays games and leads me on...dig me? Ya have to lie somewhere in the middle. a nice guy who tells the truth even when the truth hurts...

Answer 8

Too nice is when you let girls run all over you and you give in to everything they want or ask you for. You can't let anyone run all over you especially ini this day and age cuz girls take it for granted (some of them)

Doggish is just plain not giving a crap about anything and hurting girls without feeling any way about it

So I think you should just try to stay in between and know who to be nice to and when

Answer 9

If you are naturally a nice guy, please hold out for a nice woman. They are out there, and if you continue to be yourself, a nice woman will find you and love you just as you are. You deserve it. Don't even consider the doggish thing. There are too many of them and most are strays.

Answer 10

If you play your cards right you can charm a girl by mixin comedic doggishness while still complimenting them but then again its up to the girls personality. If you spend 10 mins talking to a chick, you can generally tell how she wants to be treated.